Its not a test unless you really do it.
1) get your GF's ring size, and make sure it is accurate
2) find out her ideal ring style (simple solitaire, cushion surrounded with smaller stones, gold, silver or platinum band, ect..), but don't actually let her know that you are thinking of proposing...this should be sneaky. One day while browsing in the mall you can walk into a jewelry store and playfully ask her what style of rings she likes. Ask questions like "what about this one? what do you like/dislike about this one?" ect...Ask her what she thinks about her friends rings..what she would have changed..ect..
3) find a ring on amazon that looks similar to what she likes, but that uses "fake" man-made stones. They usually cost $25-50, and check that the ring fits her size as measured (you might need to get it adjusted) so that when you give it to her, she doesn't need to get it adjusted.
4) be romantic (whatever that means to you as a couple) and propose. Tell her to be careful, as the ring is valuable and cannot be replaced...it has sentimental value, when you saw it, you knew this was the ring you wanted her to wear forever.
5) wait a few months and observe her behavior...tell your GF that you want a long engagement...no rush to start shopping for wedding venue or vendors like florist, music, etc.. you just want to enjoy "being engaged". Maybe you'll start looking at vendors in a year, and maybe get married in 2 years or so...
6) get a prenup, so that if she divorces you over this, you both keep whatever you brought into the marriage, and only jointly paid for assets are divided, based on financial contribution. Essentially, you want the marriage to be fair...nobody gains / loses. If there are kids, then child support is a % of income from both parties, with a cap, ect..
7) Watch the movie "Blood Diamonds" together (if she hasn't seen it) and then talk about the DeBeers company story, and how they created a monopoly in the diamond industry, and artificially inflated prices, and only because of their successful monopoly and marketing campaign over the last century are diamonds as expensive as they are....a $30k stone today should really sell for $500 based on mining and jeweler costs. Suggest that people should just get manmade stones...there is no chemical difference...and manmade stones would eliminate conflict blood diamonds.
Ask your GF her opinion on DeBeers and the diamond industry.
Any response other than
"that's criminal...i can't believe how people think its ok...people who buy diamonds are getting robbed...the whole industry is corrupt...we should all switch to manmade stones"
= GOLD DIGGER and you should run away as fast as possible.
Thoughts?
Starting an engagement off with a lie or a "test" is a mind-numbingly stupid idea.
Ahhh yes. As expected, good ol’ CRE is here to share his ~passionate liberal views~
Not sure what politics have to do with this, champ.
Swing and a miss.
Really seems like an insane amount of effort my guy, but I respect people who do the absolute most. Hopefully someone tries it and lets us know the results.
i actually did this...and after a few months i told my fiance that the stone was actually man made and not very expensive...and she said she still thought the ring was beautiful, and what she really wanted was to marry me.
NOT a gold digger...she passed the test with flying colors.
I don't think it should be sth that makes you proud of.
This is exactly what I think guys in S&T do.
i happen to be a prop trader..so..exactly
based
it's bizarre the lengths some people will go to manufacture their own problems
on the flip side...wouldn't you feel amazing when your GF passes the test, and so its actually not a problem, but just a fun activity and a fun story for you both to tell your friends?
if my friends and girlfriend still wanted to be with me after i told them i pulled that psycho shit i would absolutely not want to be associated with them
I don't understand why you don't just start with step #7 if this is the test
because she needs the ring on her finger to be personally emotionally invested in the response
I am not sure if "any response other than" means that the person is a gold digger, but I think you were talking about it directionally?
One could argue that you have already bought the diamond which has been mined, processed, etc. so switching to artificial stones doesn't change the blood/exploitation that went into it so I am not sure if you should expect her to say that lets switch to an artificial stone.
A better test would be to recommend returning the ring (take a lead) and buy an artificial one and see how resistant she is. Also, if she is willing to sign a prenup but not let go of the ring, then idk if that means she is a gold digger. It could mean materialistic.
Certain things are important to certain people and in order to get them/protect them people will do things that they will normally not do - in this example she loves natural diamonds so much that she is no willing to part with it or switch to artificial but is okay with prenup (her default/normal nature).
bro honestly if you have to go through all these steps to find out if someone is a gold digger.... you have mad problems with basic social perception
With some of the comments you've made recently, I'm starting to picture you like this. It's old but relevant to you.
accurate...very accurate
Dolorem eligendi alias possimus provident distinctio non perferendis quo. Et sint vel quibusdam et. Neque voluptas quas recusandae est. Non id ex officia incidunt sint. Ipsam nihil atque nisi sapiente. Numquam molestias quia voluptatem vel blanditiis aliquam excepturi consequatur.
See All Comments - 100% Free
WSO depends on everyone being able to pitch in when they know something. Unlock with your email and get bonus: 6 financial modeling lessons free ($199 value)
or Unlock with your social account...