HF Friend Getting Married

My friend is getting married next year. Any idea of how much or what to give him? Thinking of giving $10k cash. Serious answers only. I am single and never get invited to weddings so no clue. Thanks! 

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Personally, if my friend/cherished colleague was getting married, I would gift a big green egg. $10k will make you look pompous and out of touch especially if you're not family level close. When people get married, their perspective on a lot of things change.

I remember when my brother got married, I gifted them an expensive vacuum robot. They didn't care for the price, utility > price when buying things in a marriage. My brother & his wife loved it because it would save them time. Gift something that is not too generous, has some utility and reminds them of you every time they use it.

Since this is early in their marriage, they will likely invite a lot of friends and family over for dinner/bbq over the span of the year. The 2XL Big Green Egg is perfect for it, can feed over 10 mouths with that one. Own it, use it and love it. Gifted the same to my grandparents on their 50th anniversary, everyone loves the egg.

On a personal note, I find the design hideous. But hey, who am I to judge when everyone for some reason likes it.

 

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The 2XL Big Green Egg is perfect for it, can feed over 10 mouths with that one. Own it, use it and love it. Gifted the same to my grandparents on their 50th anniversary, everyone loves the egg.

On a personal note, I find the design hideous. But hey, who am I to judge when everyone for some reason likes it.

You also got roped into the 2XL Big Green Egg MLM scheme? Thought I was the only one!

 

Lmao yes. But utility wise it's a great product. Cooked a lot of things I'd rather not name because I'll come off as a degenerate lol.

 

I love the green egg but can't help but think about how relatable this clip was when my friend (got one as an engagement gift from his boss) was getting everything set up. 

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Getting married this summer. If any of my good friends gave me $10k cash, I would find it very odd. Give something more personal/utility-focused. Give something they’ll own in their home. I second the big green egg — if they’re into smoking meats at all and you can’t get past the unattractive design of the egg, I would also assume they would love a Traeger. If you want to spend money (thousands of dollars), you can get them a piece of furniture, though you’ll have to know what they need and aren’t planning on buying already, as well as their interior design tastes a bit, so furniture definitely a bit trickier if it’s not on their registry.

 
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I think everyone is overcomplicating this. The wedding invite will have a link to a wedding registry. You do not have to give a single thought into what the couple may or may not want/like/find useful because they already decided that and thus put it on their registry. Throw a dart, randomly pick something out (or try to determine what items your friend picked out as most things will have been picked by his fiancée) and have it shipped straight to their house. This should cost no more than a couple hundred $.  

 

This has to be a troll or something- I refuse to believe someone thinks giving a buddy $10k cash for a wedding is legit option.

 

You would think, but given the social skills of most people here, you never know...

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i make 7 figs bro. im legit. I am from asia so different than north america. not uncommon to give cash. thats why I asked u people here. not to flex. $10k isnt a lot if the person means something to you imo. not givign randoms $10k's 

 

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i make 7 figs bro. im legit. I am from asia so different than north america. not uncommon to give cash. thats why I asked u people here. not to flex. $10k isnt a lot if the person means something to you imo. not givign randoms $10k's 

People on here who aren’t from Asia won’t understand, it’s not customary to give money in America. I made a separate post on this thread, but basically, I wouldn’t gift $10k unless millions are being spent on the wedding. If they aren’t paying for your accommodations, $1k or less would be appropriate.

 

You should've added the context that you're asian. People don't really give cash in the west. I'm familiar with pan-asian weddings though so I have seen cash given very normally for these.

 

OP, are you Chinese? I see where the issue is coming from, people who are from the west are accustomed to gifting physical items. In China, it’s customary to give cash for weddings. 

OP, is your friend having a Chinese wedding? If so, I’d only give $10k in a red envelope if they’re spending millions on this wedding (you can tell by what venue it’s at, whether they’re paying for everyone’s accommodations or not). If they aren’t paying for your accommodations, $1k is usually appropriate. If it’s a really low budget wedding, even a few hundred is fine.

 

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