Is it advisable to send your ex one final text message?
As you can see from my old posts, this bitch literally broke me emotionally. I lapsed into depression because of her, ended up with a black eye and almost got killed because I did something to permanently drive that other dude she had fling with away from her life, it was much like love triangle (back then, I was being silly and was like “if I can’t have her, I’m not going to let him have her either”). I’m sure it wasn’t as painful for her because she couldn’t care less. I stopped living and just started “surviving” or just trying to make it safely to grave... until recently when my friends and members of this group convinced me to start dating again and focus on things I loved. I want to thank you all for supporting me during that difficult time.
I’m in a much better emotional state right now. It’s been a year almost and I’ve already achieved so much. I just transitioned to a function in high finance that I had always ignored because I was focusing on her bullshit too much. I attended various self-development seminars and learned so much. I got back to reading more and I have already finished 3 books in a month, all Wayne Dyer’s and Sigmund Freud’s though lol. I’ve started getting involved in healthy activities, like tennis, again, something that my depression drove me away from . I’ve traveled cross-country and internationally and just loved getting to know women from different backgrounds. I’ve discovered that every woman is beautiful, unique and has her own interesting story, something I ignored for 13 precious years of my life because I was stuck in her “tunnel vision”, something I called love. I’ve now been seeing this amazing intelligent geologist for some time and she actually made me discover a new interest...geology of course lol. I certainly don’t regret going through that phase of darkness though because if I hadn’t gone through it, I probably wouldn’t be where I am right now. Like they say, darkness truly implies light.
Now, I want her to know that. Why, you may ask. Because I stooped so low to have her back, I literally begged her to take me in. I lost my self-respect for her. I fought with others for her. I made her feel like a Queen when in all honesty, she belonged in the gutter. She got the satisfaction that I was suffering because of her and now I want her to know how better off I am without her and how well I’ve been doing. I want to put her back in her place where she truly belongs.
I know this is a little immature but it’s going to be a final message and post regarding her as I’m now truly ready to put that chapter behind me.
Thanks for putting up with me.
Interesting to see that this place has become a personal diary for some people.
No, move on.
It's annoying. Are we a dating website now?
It's only natural considering Wall Street is famous for its sensitive, caring, emotional people.
send her a DISEMBOWELED MEERKAT CORPSE
Inside of a warthog corpse, call it the "Timon in Pumbaa"
No, I understand that you want closure and her to know how much pain you’ve felt. But no, write something on pen and paper instead. I like writing short stories and screenplays, hitting the gym (THIS will make you feel better than a text), and reading books. Helps me out.
I’ve had two separate 4ish year relationships end abruptly. It sucks. They move on with their life and will appear to move on faster than you. Let it go and move on yourself. That text won’t do anything for you other than 5 mins of dopamine that you got the upper hand. Until she doesn’t respond. Then you’re like wtf. Or if she does, then it opens the door for more arguing. Just let it go man.
Also FWIW I was against marriage, thought I’d never find anyone, and was scared of commitment. Those two experiences hurt a lot. Fast forward a while and I’m engaged now and found someone who makes me happier and healthier. Life gets better bro, and it starts with moving on without a last text.
I don’t want her to respond. In fact, I’ve even blocked her number and was just thinking to unblock her for a while, send it and then block her again. Thanks though, I totally get your point.
Totally get where you’re coming from bro. But that text won’t get you closure. Idk what closure even really is, it never lives up to expectations. Things in life tend to be anticlimactic. The moments that change us are unassuming, we only realize we lived those moments when looking back. Moving on is easiest without that final text.
No, she's an ex. There's literally nothing you can gain, only potential to stir up new crap and just make the situation worse for yourself. It's completely irrational to make decisions that have 0 upside and only potential downside. For your own sanity just move on.
Thanks. I just got carried away lol
Dude sending her a message like that just shows you still miss / need her or her attention. At least that's what it'll come across as
I do really want her attention. But not in the way you meant. I just wanted her to knowthat I’m not that weak ass person that I once used to be for her. Because toward the end of the relationship, she succeeded in reducing me to her level, I feel embarrassed when I think of it now.
Miss her? Nope.
Texting her some final text will frankly not mean a thing to her at this point and make you seem like a “weak ass person”.
All you can do is succeed and move forward and if youre doing great is when you can scorn her if she tries to come back. The grass isnt always greener.
Seems like only downside here, would avoid
Don’t do it man, let the sleeping dog lie, trust me
post her nudes
Sorry, I wiped my phone clean after her lol
Yeah. Depending on where you live there may be revenge porn laws which make such an act potentially criminal, not to mention the potential civil liabilities...
Always remember that if you think there is better for you out there, there probably is.
Think about it: There’s like over 3 Billion girls. Chances are you can find someone who you like more out of that many.
Yeah. That’s what I meant by being stuck in this “tunnel vision” or “infatuation”. It took me a long time to realize that but better late than never.
Shit, I’ve seen men not willing to move on and allow happiness into their lives just because their “ex” wouldn’t like it or because they’re too attached.
Grow up and quit acting like an overgrown child.
no
You're clearly not over her lol
Just go get hammered then wake up and run it off. Run out your hangover and sorrows.
Or take a session on the heavy bag - my preferred method. Thai kicks alllllll day.
Don´t forget the naked mirror selfies - those always help.
Maybe you don't need to write her. Add her to your social media profile if she has one. Pictures speak louder than words. If you guys are on facebook, instagram or other. Put your story in there in pictures. Don't Text. You'll only bring back old memories.
Duuuude, that’s not a good advice lol. I didn’t send her any text because that would probably open a pandora box. I’ve realized that I need to be better for the sake of me, not because I want to make someone jealous. And my status does scorn her along the way, then great, if not, it doesn’t matter and I’m not going to make any efforts. I just had that silly thought.
Don´t do it man. Trust me, she couldn´t care less. Move on, get shredded, defeat the Dragon Within, live your best life and forget that bitch.
Bro do you stop and tell homeless people they are homeless? Just keep walking and don't make eye contact.
lol best comment!
One last D!ck Pic. That's all.
Nah bro
I'll echo everyone else's sentiment. I'm going through the same thing right now, and its definitely not worth giving her the satisfaction of you reaching out. Eventually she'll fade into time for you, and someday, you won't ever think of her. You'll grow stronger for it.
Like everyone said, another message is just opening a can of worms. My ex has continuously "reached out one final time" over and over and over for the better half of a year, its just an endless cycle when either party keeps dragging on the "goodbye".
How is Jen Nay these days?
Unfortunately she passed away from aids related complications. She's out in the yard under a pile of small stones, i still visit her daily.
just don't do it brother, it will only lead to further abrasion.
Just reiterating what's already been said, be the bigger, more mature, less petty person, move on and don't look back. She is part of your past and she is in your past. While you can't change the good or the bad that already occurred, you can change how you choose to exist from this moment on.
You've reconnected with things you enjoy. You've found someone that appreciates you and that you enjoy what they bring out in you.
Thinking that a final text, call, note, whatever, will give you some sort of sense of completion/closure/pick-your-label is a losing gaming - these things rarely fulfill us the way we'd like.
Look forward and move forward. Let her potentially discover your happiness and success on her own, not because you're sharing it with her.
You know deep down inside you that she doesn't deserve another moment of your time nor does she deserve to live rent-free in your mind in any way, shape or form. Fill your time and mind with things that will truly fulfill and please you and let her go fully and completely.
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