Most Exciting Hobbies to Attract Women?
Hey guys, recently got out of a medium-term (1.5 years) relationship. As I am unfortunately vertically challenged and have not been blessed in the face or hairline department, I need to compensate with my career and hobbies to attract women. What are some "sexy" hobbies that would help me out in the dating scene? For reference, currently in my mid-20s as an analyst at pod shop (BAM/C/P72/Millenium) in NYC.
I was thinking of learning how to DJ and potentially getting the chance to play at smaller bars/venues, I have a ton of connections in the club promoter/entertainment space due to my top-tier frat being full of retard degens.
As stereotypical as this might sound, I was also thinking about joining a run club to meet women, especially one of those ethnic ones like a Hispanic run club, since I'm latino. I've gotten pretty out of shape the last few years though and it wouldn't fit be accretive to my mating success to get mogged by 6'5 sub-3 hour marathon Chad.
Hours are pretty light since my PM's a chiller, probably averaging 50-55 hours, so open to more time-consuming hobbies too.
Dude just be yourself. It's attractive when people don't give af and own their quirks & interests. You just need to put yourself out there and meet more ppl
As a woman.. I will say there’s a large gap between women and men at the moment and aside from hobbies and great prompts on dating apps. Women want men who are kind and will actually have the confidence to approach them in person, even the most attractive women are low on men with the confidence to shoot their shot. Also, try not to lead with your job/ money, ask women about their interests and ask questions/ don’t try to mirror who you think someone wants you to be and be yourself. Also go to events/ activities that you’re interested and try to approach conversation there- that way you already have something in common.
You're confusing what women think they want versus what women really want. Women will take the jacked loaded confident asshole guy all day over the nice guy. Nice guys finish last.
Aren’t you single and 40?
Does any woman want an asshole? What you are probably describing is what the uneducated fashion model ends up choosing.
When you need fishing advice you ask the fisherman, not the fish
This is fabulous advice until you're considering the prospect of having 50+ harmonious years of living in accord with the fish, at which point one starts to consider the fish's thoughts and feelings
Muay Thai
There is a lot to learn in combat sports, and it will be applicable to many other areas in life. It is difficult to explain, but your whole mindset shifts. After sparring a 220 pound black guy, everything else seems easy. You will gain confidence, become quick thinking, and get in great shape. Girls find it attractive too. Every girl wants a guy who is competent and can protect her. You probably will not find a girl at the gym, but it will help you a lot when you meet girls elsewhere.
"Just be yourself bro; always works for me"
- Cavill, Henry
If you look like Henry Cavill, you don't need hobbies.
I had a fling with a Goldman Sachs chick and we went snowboarding together and had epic pictures with each other and she was so hot and was Russian and we went clubbing in NYC and danced and made out on the dance floor, but she confided in me she really preferred loaded guys in NYC who had yachts and she passed on me for some fat bald dude who had like $100M net worth and a yacht.
I I knew where this was going as sson as you said she was russian lmao
Definitely not djing. That’s my only 2 cents here. And I think that’s a pretty good 2 cents
You’re off to a bad start trying to attract women…by taking on a hobby for the sake of it attracting women. This is a submissive/cuck mindset and will not allow you to attract women the way nature intended it. If every chess move in your life is for the sake of attracting women, you’ll get put through the wringer by one or at best, find a girl on superficial means without portraying your true self.
So flip your mindset. You should adopt a hobby that’s in tune with your personality and enjoy, no one can answer that but you. The rest will be learning how to approach, not having anxiety (huge turn off to women if you are nervous/not socially adjusted), and look your best.
Now that’s advice for a relationship. If you just wanna sling dick then find a few bars in your area, grab a wingman (decent looking with good social skills and knows how to banter), go there 2-3x a week and go hit on girls but make friends in there so you can social proof for the next time you go. Be a dick, put your friend down and others in front of them (women love that shit), polish your socials and any girl you meet get theirs and flirt with them continuously. You need to look your absolute best btw to pull this off.
You can invest money and become an executive producer for movies (if it has a A list actor, even better).
Can have slimeballs in this field, but they are playing the status game and it works in getting them status. I got scammed by one of them, so I experienced the downside of seeking status by associating with these fast talking folks.
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only thing I'd add is begin training martial arts (specifically brazilian jiu jitsu or judo)
Hobbies that you are actually interested in. There’s no secret hobby that you should fake to pick up girls. That reeks of insecurity.
Here is what you do:
1. Find something you are interested in. It does not need to be interesting or exciting on its face. It literally does not matter.
2. Deep dive into it. Obsess over it. Read every book. Watch every video. Get good at it.
3. Get involved in a community of people who also love it.
Now all of a sudden you are very good at something in a group of people who all love that thing. You are capable, and as a result confident - two things that women tend to be attracted to - and you did it not by being a corny ass pick up artist wasting your life doing some bullshit you hate, but instead doing what you love to begin with.
The hobbies are only to talk about, you don't meet the women there. You'll come off as friend/nice guy, instead of a bsd baller stud who's gonna break her bed.
Dude, be real with yourself, hobbies aren't what you should be focusing on right now. From what you've described already, I'm assuming you're very average looking, low-testosterone, and victim weight, but THAT'S OK. Hit the gym hard, clean diet only, stop choking your chicken, delete social media, and throw away the 'frat persona', works with girls, not with women.
Also, get rid of your limp dick energy, it's repulsive
idk bud you can absolutely get chicks pretty easily at run clubs and similar activities, but you are right you need all the pre-reqs.
You also need to become anal (aka passionate aka good) at your hobbies of choice to really do well with that route. And at that point you care more about hitting your pace goals in this example then just conversing with everyone you see, but that aloofness and competence ends up being attractive in itself. If you tell yourself you are going to join a ski club to meet women and you are just learning how to ski then no one will get hot for the guy flailing all over the place on the bunny slopes.
In short agree with you. Build up yourself first and then join those groups to just expand your network and take it from there. Chicks are bad at many things but they can smell the desperate guy who joins social clubs just to meet women very very easily
Confidence
Cooking
be comfortable in your skin and confident in what you do, even if you spend your time playing games 24/7
women smell when you're ashamed of who you really are/what you do outside work
its a win-win: you do what you like and you're comfortable living with it + women will appreciat eur transparency/lack of insecurities
now, the fact that she gets "icks" from ur hobbies that's just personal. If you like to stay inside home, find also some nerdy women. Not much complexity. It's all in your head.
Your head is in the right space with run clubs. It puts you into close regular proximity with plenty of people (men and women, of all ages) that also filters for fitness, personality, and some degree of affluence. As you get into your mid-20s to early 30s you want to filter out the women that go out every weekend and wake up hungover every sunday/saturday. That is fun in college and early 20s and has it's place in spurts for the rest of your life but if someone is regularly getting drunk every weekend then that lifestyle will eventually catch up to them and you want to filter that person out as a potential long term partner. Chicks that get up at 9am on a weekend to run 6 miles arent that. Go to a run club with the goal of meeting people, making friends, and improving your fitness and see where it goes. Don't go just to get women because chicks smell that a mile away. BTW sub 3 hour marathon chad will get 'mogged' by you if you actually have some muscle mass so dont worry
I'm also going to disagree with the 'just be yourself' advice others will say. If you are discovering who you are and dont have a real identity then you have no true sense of 'self' yet, or you are still working on it. Your sense of self is likely instead dictated by others in the form of consumption hobbies. It's those without any real interests or passions who spend their weekends watching the NFL, watching Netflix, and scrolling Instagram AND NOTHING ELSE. You arent being yourself if that's who you are, you are just a leaf blowing in the wind of wherever our capitalistic consumption culture is blowing you. So at this stage you need to try as many things as possible, see what you like and what you dont like.
Think in broader themes. Do you have any artistic bone in your body? Creativity? Fitness? Charitable? Within those broader themes you can then really explore. You are artistic - is that music? Playing an instrument? Painting? Sculpting? Woodworking? Blogging? Podcasting?
If you enjoy hobbies that keep you active do you prefer competition? Team vs individual? Outdoors? Cold vs warm weather? All of the above?
Women love passion (on top of you being fit, have career goals, and sociable which are all dating table stakes) and they are just as likely to fall in love with rich bro who goes to Aspen 5x a year as they are guy that gives guests lectures on marine biology and is in a band that plays at different venues a few times a month compared to a guy working on his pilots license. Sure, not all hobbies are equal. But you'd be surprised that often being passionate about something makes you interesting and interesting can be more important than what you may or may not think is 'cool'/'attractive'
Dude 9 days ago you posted saying you work at a lower MM bank, not a pod shop lol
I think the idea of choosing hobbies just to attract women can backfire. The most attractive hobbies are usually the ones you genuinely enjoy and stick with.
From what I’ve noticed, activities that show passion, discipline, or creativity tend to stand out — things like learning a language, strength training, playing an instrument, hiking, photography, or even book clubs. Not because they’re “impressive,” but because they show depth and personality.
Women are generally more drawn to confidence and enthusiasm than the hobby itself. If you’re excited about what you do, that energy shows.
I think the idea of choosing hobbies just to attract women can backfire. The most attractive hobbies are usually the ones you genuinely enjoy and stick with.
From what I’ve noticed — and even while researching topics for Femme Hobbies — activities that show passion, discipline, or creativity tend to stand out. Things like learning a language, strength training, playing an instrument, hiking, photography, or even joining a book club. Not because they’re “impressive,” but because they show depth and personality.
Women are generally more drawn to confidence and enthusiasm than the hobby itself. If you’re excited about what you do, that energy shows.
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You should try bonesmashing. Women love it. Also arguing with th sub-5 chuds on Reddit, most women I know say that is one of their biggest turn-ons. Honestly, next time you meet a woman, just talk to her about these two things, verbatim, and they’ll be instantly attracted to you.
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