The Ex That Dumped You Because of Work?

W Turk. The sun will rise again. Head up champ.

Happened to me, was quite brutal as I was committed to trying to make it work but she is more pragmatic than me and decided it was better to just call it quits. Hurt even more as she said she genuinely saw a future with me but the fact I wasn't around as much to get to know her friends, and her words "build a life together" was a dealbreaker for her. Sad but lifes goes on

“Still think about her everyday” - I feel you man. Stay strong.

how long were u guys together & how long ago was the relationship? time will heal

Key is to find someone better then you stop thinking about them

I’m on the other end of this, broke up with my ex because she never made time for me (she was also manipulative but the largest problem was that I always took last place to whatever else was going on in her life). At some point you get tired of knowing you are just someone’s consolation prize for when they have nothing better to do. I recommend changing your ways and putting people first. I’m assuming you’re already in a financially sound spot (can afford necessities and have some savings + investments) and at some point you’ll realize nobody cares how many hours you spent on that slide deck but they will remember how you spent time with the slide deck instead of them. Especially not for a company that will fire you without a second thought for a slightly higher Q3 margin.

Was about to propose and thought she was the one. Hit me like a truck, and like you, it’s worse when you really didn’t do anything wrong. Still mangled nearly a year on. Probably won’t ever recover, but slowly putting on sufficient band aids. Get into gambling and escorts, when you are ready, find a waitress

Time to better yourself and get after it

Going through something similar man. Losing the best girl I've ever dated now and don't think I'll find another girl like this while i work in banking. Met her when i was a lot more fit, energetic and happier and now just worn down from the job. We've been dating for over a year, nearly all of it long distance NYC to LA but the job just consumes everything to the point where to make time for her it means sacrificing the gym and time with my other friends. We're both thinking it's best to cut it off but we broke up 7-8 times so far (most of which was kinda my fault) but keep getting back together. Sucks seeing the job take a toll on others in your life, lateralled into banking and never had to deal with this type of issues in my prior role. 

I've had the opposite problem - my work suffering because of my relationships. Years down the road I have both the lack of relationship and career progress because of it.

So my advice is seriously don't fret. If your work suffered because of your relationship you'll regret it and "mourn" that way longer than you will your relationship falling apart. Take it from me.

I went through this last year. It was tough and honestly led to burnout. If I could go back, I’d tell myself that recovery is never linear. It always takes time. I also learned that when you're in a state of fear, panic, or irrationality, it's really hard to make good decisions. So before making any major career moves (like quitting or burning bridges) make sure to talk to other people first.

As for getting back together, I realized that if she left me during one of the darkest moments of my life, I wouldn't be able to trust her going forward. As much as I wanted to see her again, I knew I couldn’t. It ended up taking me about nine months to fully feel like myself again. And those nine months were some of the hardest I’ve ever lived through. 

Welcome to being single!