Time Off for Wedding / Honeymoon - Associate

Current PE Associate lateraling to a MF this spring. Plan on getting married ~9-10 months into the new job and was wondering what the typical vacation day policy is for this type of thing. Would it be fine to take 2ish weeks off for a wedding / honeymoon? Obviously would raise this with my staffer well in advance and let people know shortly after joining.
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Have heard MF PE is notoriously sweaty at the associate level so am I completely out of my mind for asking for that much time off less than a year in to a new job? It makes me pretty uncomfortable to be THAT guy, but on the other hand I only plan on getting married once and would ideally like to enjoy it.
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Seems like I am in the minority getting married as a relative junior but would love to hear other people’s experiences with this.

 

Most people I know got married in between jobs.

However, your own wedding should be one of the only few valid excuses they should respect. Give the notice well in advance and you should be fine, unless the group culture is terrible.

 

OP read this post out loud to your fiance and let us know how she reacts

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OP read this post out loud to your fiance and let us know how she reacts

"fiance" means he is getting married to a dude.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

This is something you mention when you get hired. "Oh by the way, taking 2 weeks off for a wedding and honeymoon is fine right?" It is an unspoken rule that it should be ok, but it is still good to clear it with your boss just to stay on the same page. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

How can you tell me my experience isn’t true? I know 3 people who have gotten married at the associate / VP level, two at an investment bank and one at a PE fund. All three took one week for their honeymoon. I’m not saying it’s standard, I’m saying that’s my anecdotal experience 

 
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I have the same reaction every time I read a London salary thread

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If my employer ever told me I couldn’t take a honeymoon I’d tell them to kick rocks. If you receive that feedback and don’t stand up for yourself, you should kick rocks. 
 

I am deeply committed to my work, but my partner and family always take priority. Anyone who disagrees is irrelevant to me, as they clearly aren’t looking out for me in any way. 
 

Enjoy every moment of the honeymoon and wedding!

 

I was at an absolute sweatshop in IB, and associates/SAs/VPs took 2 weeks for their wedding / honeymoon. If you wanted to take more than that you could do your wedding (2-3 days off) and do your full two week honeymoon in Africa / Maldives / Seychelles a few months later.

In the buyside, at both large cap and MM NYC funds I've been at, two weeks is the norm, but I've also seen people pull off three weeks (I wouldn't do more than that unless you're in Europe / Australia). Remember that at junior and mid-levels, you're not that important and work will get done either way. At my large cap, I remember someone getting a couple of jokes from a VP for taking 3 weeks off (pre-moon + destination wedding + post-moon), but no one bat an eye one week later (people have short memories) and come year-end, they still got stellar reviews / promoted.

 

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