What’s the most you’ve spent just to impress a girl?

What's the most amount of money you've ever spent on a woman? Things like paying her bills, expensive dates, giving her money, etc.

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1mo 
Mr_Agree_to_Disagree, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Pffft. Friend did three days in solitary in county lockup and all the court fees and medical fees to go with. Try harder next time.

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27d 
Phil Leotardo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Random county jails can put people in solitary confinement?  That's fucked up.

1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Before sharing my input, as a preface, I'd like to highlight the fact that I thoroughly enjoy living the « good life » regardless of whether I'm accompanied or not. I like to indulge myself with lifelong memories and I always strive to impress myself first and foremost.

On the other hand, I genuinely and strongly believe in the idea that happiness is meant to be shared and, as such, I usually have no resistance when it comes down to kindly treating others in mutually living those moments together.

With that being said, please find below a few items that come directly to mind:

  • Approx. $2k for a private helicopter ride in South East Asia
  • Approx. $2k for an evening which included a high-end restaurant and premium lounge bar with live jazz music
  • Between $10k and $15k in one quarter on top-notch restaurants (e.g., last-minute reservations with the maître d's for the chef's table)
  • Approx. $1k on flowers over the course of 1 week
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1mo 
beforreal, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Let's see who takes the crown for the best date after this one.

1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

You guessed completely wrong.

To give you a better idea on my demographics, I am the first one in my family that purchased an apartment.

So no, when I was younger, on weekends I did not fool around with lacrosse buddies in the Hamptons and did not go après-ski in Switzerland wearing Loro Piana head to toe. Worked as a pizza delivery guy during holidays and did the dishes in restaurants in the evenings.

27d 
PierreVon, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Top G

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5d 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:
PierreVon

Top G

Not there yet unfortunately but every day is a battle where I just try to make it!

1mo 
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:

$850 dinner

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

1mo 
IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

This is the Jean - Georges dinner?

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1mo 
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:
IncomingIBDreject

This is the Jean - Georges dinner?

Yes it was. You know all the Isaiah trivia questions. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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1mo 
lumber_cruncher, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Met this beautiful Tennessee belle while in Mexico City some years back, and we immediately hit it off. I think I dropped $800 on a nice car rental for the week, another $1k or so on a 4 star hotel, and probably another $1500 on food during that time. All of which I would not have done if she wasn't there, I was hostel hopping at the time lol.

Would definitely do it again. She was exquisite; well educated and very beautiful, and could hold meaningful conversations on any topic for hours at a time.

Alas, it didn't work out, but she paid me back in kind a few months later when I went to visit her in NYC. She's married to a fine gentleman now and is quite happy, and while it pains me a little to see what life could have been like with her, I know it would never have worked out, and we are still in good terms and catch up every now and then.

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27d 
soupymessy, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Often times most people are pleasant in small doses because they want to show their best selves. Then when they are more comfortable or complacent they regress into their true selves. Sometimes it's not very different, sometimes it's dramatic. Such is life

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1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

lumber_cruncher

Met this beautiful Tennessee belle while in Mexico City some years back, and we immediately hit it off. I think I dropped $800 on a nice car rental for the week, another $1k or so on a 4 star hotel, and probably another $1500 on food during that time. All of which I would not have done if she wasn't there, I was hostel hopping at the time lol.

Would definitely do it again. She was exquisite; well educated and very beautiful, and could hold meaningful conversations on any topic for hours at a time.

Alas, it didn't work out, but she paid me back in kind a few months later when I went to visit her in NYC. She's married to a fine gentleman now and is quite happy, and while it pains me a little to see what life could have been like with her, I know it would never have worked out, and we are still in good terms and catch up every now and then.

Thanks for sharing - your story brought back oceans of sweet memories from my memory palace and likewise I'd relive them in a single heartbeat with no hesitation.

At that time, were those expenses sound financial decisions? Most probably not but it doesn't matter as those unique moments were priceless and my happiness doesn't have a price tag.

The vast majority of my day-to-day activities require laser focus analysis combined with rational decision-making to continuously aim for optimized financial outcomes towards my clients.

But I myself have no interest whatsoever in showcasing single digit year-on-year growth on my personal finances. I consider life to be too short and precious to extend the following mentally draining exercises into my life sanctuary: budgeting control, scenario analysis (e.g., calculating the opportunity costs of my expenses versus if I had instead invested those amounts for a x% ROI, or whatever textbook concept on Amazon's top choices there exists on how saving daily on Starbucks coffees could make one financially independent with passive income via compounded interests through investment opportunities in niche areas), etc.

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1mo 
lumber_cruncher, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I'm in a similar boat to you, my job requires a lot of intense concentration to ensure the objective gets met, though in a very different profession than investing.

I've found that spending money to make lifetime memories is the best way to spend it, I'll never forget her or that week. It also gave me a lifelong friend and that worth is immeasurable.

At the time, it was probably more than I should have spent, but it had negligible impact on my long term finances- I went into it from a position where I was able to spend that and I'm glad I was able to spread the joy to someone else. One of life's great pleasures is being able to give said joy to someone else and experience it together, it doesn't matter how much or little you spend.

1mo 
IncomingIBDreject, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Serious question - if you yourself believe that inefficiency allows room for happiness in life, why are you working on bringing efficiency (and by extension less happiness) on others people's lives? Whether that be an efficient cost profile (more work, less pay meaning worse working conditions, and less jobs after realized synergies) or an efficient revenue profile (think REITs and pricing rentals in a way that forced people to work harder and have less savings).

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1mo 
Rookie_numbers, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Mind sharing why it didn't work out? She sounds like the one that got away

1mo 
lumber_cruncher, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Unfortunately I have several "ones that got away," with far more tragic and interesting stories. With this girl it came down to the fact that we knew we wouldn't work out long term. She was a little older than me and was ready to start a family; that was several years ago and I'm still today probably a decade away from wanting to have kids. We had our fun together and cherished the moments, but it just wasn't meant to be.

1mo 
Peg Leg, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I was going out with a girl for a couple months and her car got pretty messed up in a hit and run. Insurance wasn't much help and she was a healthcare tech trying to go back to nursing school. She needed a car so I threw in 15k. We went out for a few months longer and I moved on after.

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1mo 
beforreal, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Damn 15k? I'd have to trust her completely to give her all of that.

27d 
Peg Leg, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Yea, 15 grand. Reminded me to check in on that car, so now I've got dinner plans lol. Thanks OP

1mo 
GridironCEO, what's your opinion? Comment below:

1500 over the course of 3 weeks (5-6 friday+saturday nights) in uncesserasy bar tabs at one specific bar to impress the bartender chick who was still in school and using me for tips (which she had to split with the other 2 bartenders). Those were some great bar nights and the staff and her treated me like a king, but never really had any interest in seeing me outsider of the bar. Her and I exchanged phone numbers and social media and talked often on there, but she never confirmed a date with me. I even offered to purposefully "forget" my credit card at the bar for her to take it shopping. I'm an idiot. 

We're not lawyers. We're investment bankers. We didn't go to Harvard. We Went to Wharton!
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1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

To help cheer you up, I think $1.5k is a bargain for lifelong memories on feeling like a king in a kingdom governed by a beautiful queen you were in love with for 6 magical nights that will be forever engraved in your memory palace.

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27d 
Arroz con Pollo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

greatsak

To help cheer you up, I think $1.5k is a bargain for lifelong memories on feeling like a king in a kingdom governed by a beautiful queen you were in love with for 6 magical nights that will be forever engraved in your memory palace.

What the hell is this comment? Dude got drunk and the bartender took advantage (aka did her job) to make more in tips.

27d 
Rookie_numbers, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Better learn that lesson at a young age when 1.5k is all you can spend. Just like trading as an 18 year old, make mistakes early

27d 
lamron, what's your opinion? Comment below:
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1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Trust me, if one had the means to casually drop $k for an Hermès Birkin, they wouldn't be posting about it here but rather on IG.

1mo 
sell_side_macro, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I didn't charge her the usual $100 for the privilege of giving me a blowjob 

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1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Sometimes, when I close my eyes for a moment after having asked during an investor call some input regarding projected growth drivers which, for the life of me, I completely don't care about I am in an immersive voyage where I am taken back to that magic night where I enjoyed in the company of a goddess at a chef's table in his private kitchen the craftsmanship of a master chef designing for us poetic dishes tailored to our wishes and personal tastes. I can still hear resonate within me the recitals of the sommelier on the best Chablis and its heritage to best pair with our meals.

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1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Sometimes, when I close my eyes for a moment after having asked during an investor call some input regarding projected growth drivers which, for the life of me, I completely don't care about I am in an immersive voyage where I am taken back to that magic night where I enjoyed in the company of a goddess at a chef's table in his private kitchen the craftsmanship of a master chef designing for us poetic dishes tailored to our wishes and personal tastes. I can still hear resonate within me the recitals of the sommelier on the best Chablis and its heritage to best pair with our meals.

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1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Sometimes, when I close my eyes for a moment after having asked during an investor call some input regarding projected growth drivers which, for the life of me, I completely don't care about I am in an immersive voyage where I am taken back to that magic night where I enjoyed in the company of a goddess at a chef's table in his private kitchen the craftsmanship of a master chef designing for us poetic dishes tailored to our wishes and personal tastes. I can still hear resonate within me the recitals of the sommelier on the best Chablis and its heritage to best pair with our meals.

1mo 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Sometimes, when I close my eyes for a moment after having asked during an investor call some input regarding projected growth drivers which, for the life of me, I completely don't care about I am in an immersive voyage where I am taken back to that magic night where I enjoyed in the company of a goddess at a chef's table in his private kitchen the craftsmanship of a master chef designing for us poetic dishes tailored to our wishes and personal tastes. I can still hear resonate within me the recitals of the sommelier on the best Chablis and its heritage to best pair with our meals.

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27d 
PEarbitrage, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I was endowed with it at birth.  So didn't cost me a dime. 

27d 
beforreal, what's your opinion? Comment below:

What a gent. Why didn't it work out?

27d 
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:
ADTIBE

Let my previous girlfriend live with me for 2+ years rent free (and some other expenses), so fair market value/payment in kind would be [conservatively speaking] $75,000+. Tier 1 city, class A building.

Did you break up with her? How was that?

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

27d 
Phil Leotardo, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Imo that's normal.  If you date or marry a girl who isn't career oriented it will eventually end up like this.

27d 
Smoke Frog, what's your opinion? Comment below:

No, I found that if you go with such a name brand place the size would be small. Better to go with a small guy in the diamond district and then have an independent guy review the stone. Best bang for your buck, and if you're super into prestige just get a cartier box!

27d 
LeveredLegend, what's your opinion? Comment below:

$1k dinner (several bottles of wine) at a sushi restaurant in Fort Lauderdale on college spring break that i don't even remember due to being so far gone. Mind you I was a college student at the time. 

27d 
PEshill, what's your opinion? Comment below:

You guys are getting to talk to girls??

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27d 
Mr_Agree_to_Disagree, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Paid

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27d 
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:
Mr_Agree_to_Disagree

Paid

haha thought same thing

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

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27d 
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎, what's your opinion? Comment below:

I once bought a girl a $650 diamond butterfly necklace then broke up with her weeks later. FML.

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee

5d 
greatsak, what's your opinion? Comment below:
Isaiah_53_5 💎🙌💎🙌💎

I once bought a girl a $650 diamond butterfly necklace then broke up with her weeks later. FML.

I would argue that if you regret that decision then it means that the necklace was more a gift to yourself rather than her as you seem to attach more value to it.

A true gift is about giving without expecting anything in return.

27d 
NonTargetFO, what's your opinion? Comment below:

~$750 on ALCS Yankees tickets + drinks at the stadium

26d 
jarstar1, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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Gustav Mahler, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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