Would you date an ex-prostitute?

If you met a girl who was nice, friendly, and pretty, but you found out about her past, would you still date her?

One of the girls at my neighborhood nail salon recently confessed to me that she used to have sex for money, but is now terrified that the person she's currently dating will leave her if she tells him the truth. I think it's sad, but I hope her boyfriend turns out to have the Save A Ho complex. Interested to hear if WSO guys have ever found themselves in this situation and what you would do if you were with a girl like this.

 
Financier4Hire:
Why did the nail salon girl talked to you..does she like you ? Ahh it's girls talk...Secrets to secrets...

Let's cut the crap, women are not victims, it's a choice and one of the most delectable ones.

When I was talking to Ho's they were all telling me, straight forward, that they had the best job in the world. Now that's candid talk.

Was that English?
 
GoldmanBallSachs:
Yes. All girls are essentially prostitutes, some just don't get paid.

True. SB point for you.

When you say some don't get paid, that means that rather than exchanging sex for cash they go a step further, and marry into money, for example. They'll marry a guy with a big job (You'll hear "I've fallen in love with Joe" but in essence it's prostitution. If Joe was a dishwasher or unemployed that "falling in love" would have never happened. That's how the world works.

Winners bring a bigger bag than you do. I have a degree in meritocracy.
 
Boothorbust:
Clearly none of you guys have seen Disney's 1992 masterpiece, Alladin, wherein the rich princess falls for the romantic street rat.

I know you meant it as a joke, but that situation happens more often than most people would guess. That being said, when it comes to marriage both women AND men prefer to marry someone of their own social class or higher. Let's not pretend that men are the romantic victims of scheming gold-diggers. [/preach-mode]

I would feel differently about an ex-prostitute vs a promiscuous girl. At least the promiscuous girl was honestly just acting on her feelings - the ex-prostitute thing would make me pause. And I say these even though the girl who does my nails is a genuinely nice person.

 
biglawgirlfriend:
Boothorbust:
Clearly none of you guys have seen Disney's 1992 masterpiece, Alladin, wherein the rich princess falls for the romantic street rat.

I know you meant it as a joke, but that situation happens more often than most people would guess. That being said, when it comes to marriage both women AND men prefer to marry someone of their own social class or higher. Let's not pretend that men are the romantic victims of scheming gold-diggers. [/preach-mode]

I would feel differently about an ex-prostitute vs a promiscuous girl. At least the promiscuous girl was honestly just acting on her feelings - the ex-prostitute thing would make me pause. And I say these even though the girl who does my nails is a genuinely nice person.

A girl who WANTED to go out and sleep with all those people vs one who had to do it for the money? I'm not so sure you've called that one correctly!

 

What price range are we talking about here? That makes ALL the difference.

Actually, she has kept this secret from her boyfriend after they've been dating for how long? If it's been more than 6 months or so, she ought to be dumped.

And why are YOU cheering for her in the first place? Do you think so little of men that they ought to be lied to even about these important things?

 
<span class=keyword_link><a href=//www.wallstreetoasis.com/company/goldman-sachs>GS</a></span>:
Actually, she has kept this secret from her boyfriend after they've been dating for how long? If it's been more than 6 months or so, she ought to be dumped.

And why are YOU cheering for her in the first place? Do you think so little of men that they ought to be lied to even about these important things?

Agree with this 100%.
 

I would think it's a terrible idea given the fact that someone who did that almost certainly has way more emotional baggage than a normal person would want to deal with. They certainly would never be marriage material in my book.

 
SirTradesaLot:
I would think it's a terrible idea given the fact that someone who did that almost certainly has way more emotional baggage than a normal person would want to deal with. They certainly would never be marriage material in my book.

Never is doing too much and almost certainly someone who did that has way more emotional baggage than a normal person? That was ignorant of you my sister "did" that she's still normal you speak of "them" as if they're not human smh. How many prostitutes or ex pros. Do you know and know well? Yes it's wrong for her to lie and keep it from him but if he thinks like this guy then no their relationship isn't going to work out

 
akingsmommy:
SirTradesaLot:
I would think it's a terrible idea given the fact that someone who did that almost certainly has way more emotional baggage than a normal person would want to deal with. They certainly would never be marriage material in my book.

Never is doing too much and almost certainly someone who did that has way more emotional baggage than a normal person? That was ignorant of you my sister "did" that she's still normal you speak of "them" as if they're not human smh. How many prostitutes or ex pros. Do you know and know well? Yes it's wrong for her to lie and keep it from him but if he thinks like this guy then no their relationship isn't going to work out

Haha. Your sister is not marriage material. Just because she's your sister doesn't change that.

It's like when people say, "that guy Jack is such an asshole". Then someone says, "but he's my brother!". The response should be, "well, you know he's an asshole more than I do then" instead of the normal response of "just kidding bro". Nobody's opinion is changed just because you have a prostitute relative.

 
akingsmommy:
SirTradesaLot:
I would think it's a terrible idea given the fact that someone who did that almost certainly has way more emotional baggage than a normal person would want to deal with. They certainly would never be marriage material in my book.

Never is doing too much and almost certainly someone who did that has way more emotional baggage than a normal person? That was ignorant of you my sister "did" that she's still normal you speak of "them" as if they're not human smh. How many prostitutes or ex pros. Do you know and know well? Yes it's wrong for her to lie and keep it from him but if he thinks like this guy then no their relationship isn't going to work out

Dude...your sister was a prostitute...?

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AlexandraB:
The topics on here, honestly- might as well be yahoo answers. Despite how much I love "the secret diary of a call girl" on HBO, I would think you need to be sterilized after so much as touching one of those girls.

Alexandra, there's a world of difference between a 'call-girl' and a street hooker. As far as STD risk goes, the two are in different universes.

 
AlexandraB:
GS- the work is the same, no? I can't believe I'm actually participating in this. The discussion, not prostitution.

No it's not. Not exactly. The first usually implies a lower-risk clientele with lower risk of drug use and STDs. The second is, of course, the ultimate in a high risk lifestyle. Personally, as I mentioned above, the most odious aspect is the deception. Especially, if this relationship has gone on for near six months to a year. Another nauseating aspect of this is that the OP feels no sense of sympathy with the man being deceived and out of her blithe ignorance thinks that this girl has the right to continue deceiving her boyfriend because she's 'pretty and nice'.

 
AlexandraB:
Different terrain, same mileage boys

Thanks for your wise and sage words, oh woman. But it's pretty fuckin stupid to think that the terrain a car has been driven in is irrelevant to the buyer.

 

Maybe not a prostitute, but I have dated other girls on the side who were close to this category. They just needed some guidance and some confidence to get themselves out of their ruts. Both are now classy ladies and good friends.

"That dude is so haole, he don't even have any breath left."
 
CRE:
PetEng:
If she was high-end only? Yeah, probably.

All that means is she had sex with tons of lonely old men for money instead and got paid more...

Yeah, and that's a lot different from a street hooker.
 

There are plenty of ex prostitues who are now doctors, lawyers, etc that have marriages that are lasting longer than any relationship you've been in your entire life. Looks like you are filled with ignorance, too much TV I'd say. Read a book or two hun. Educate yourself.

 

I have met and dated one and she "came out" with the truth quite early. I broke it off because of other reasons but this one was a heavy factor as well.

It all depends I would say - if everything else is a fit and you guys get a long fine... then why not?! It also relies on how you were raise or where your moral lines are drawn.

If you don't know what to do - there are so many others out there!

 

No way.

I detest that some women can even get away with being "high class" prostitutes.

Enough posters here work very hard and long hours and deal with cuts elsewhere (less family time, among many others) in order to make good money. Why should someone with good genes get paid well for just letting someone use her body?

Almost as bad are the wealthy clients who waste money, that could have been spent better elsewhere, on the women.

A call girl may have every other quality going for them, but the fact that they chose that profession, even if just for a short time when they were younger, speaks volumes about some quality of them. Some quality that I am not interested in.

 

You must be a real class act yourself then, a saint huh? Got it all together right? No emotional damage, just a perfect specimen of a human being. I'd hope so with an opinion so strong about another human being. Remember your not speaking on another species, your speaking about a species of your own kind there buddy. They don't share 98% of your DNA like a monkey sweetie.....believe it or not, deep down inside there's a bit of a prostitue in you!

 
moneymogul:
frozencheese:
Why should someone with good genes get paid well for just letting someone use her body?

Similar to intelligent people getting paid well just to let someone use their minds. Sounds like a job to me.

You said 'job' he-he.
 

did anyone else think richard gere in pretty woman?

personally i would never. a real man needs a real woman and prostitutes dont fit that bill. I've ruined relationships before because the girl had been promiscuous before us dating. But like I said, if you have any self worth, you woudnt turn a ho into a housewife, let alone a mother.

"The cheaper the crook, the gaudier the patter"
 

I wouldn't marry a man who talks about any woman like this whether she was promiscuous or not. This is a disgusting way to speak about human beings that bare children. You should be ashamed of yourself. What makes your mouth any better than the mouth of a woman who gives oral sex for a living? I'd say your two of a kind. Disgraceful.

 

Any woman can have emotional damage, even a woman who has never prostituted her body. Life can create many different traumas for women and men. It's disturbing to hear that so many people are quick to judge other people when in fact they have issues of their own. Yes we're all entitled to our opinions and there are so many people in this world we have options but we tend to forget as human beings we don't have it all together ourselves. Every person you come in contact with has emotional baggage and issues beyond our understanding based on their own life experiences. How would you feel if you made a mistake and for the rest of your life you were told you are undeserving of another human beings love because of it? That your baggage just simply isn't worth it? We're all humans. Nobody is truly THAT different from another person. Our similarities outweigh our differences. So shouldn't we treat each other as such? What happened to humanity? We've become picky and inhuman. It's disgusting to read these comments and many of you should be ashamed of yourselves. No it isn't right to lie and there is no excuse for it but you have to admit, she wouldn't feel the need to lie if there wasn't such a stigma about having a trouble past as a woman. There are some woman who are in love with being a prostitue and would never consider it a mistake. No they are not victims. But not all woman who have gone down that road are proud of it. And for those woman who have left that life and are scraping through life trying to do better for themselves and their families, I say they deserve love from anyone of you men who say she does not and then some.

 

Personally, no. I used to know a few ex-strippers and they were all fucked in the head, also they were sluts. They may have not had sex for money, but they did love the bone. Now a woman who used to just fuck for cash probably has an array of issues. I mean, fuck, if you are seeing an ex-whore, then you are seeing a whore and are likely to get burned in the pee hole.

Only two sources I trust, Glenn Beck and singing woodland creatures.
 

Sounds like you caught something and now your bitter about it. Lol that sucks for you! Do yourself a favor, forgive her and don't take it out on every woman who has had a promiscuous past. Oh and strap up next time. Sheesh.

 

Nope, just been around and known enough people. Seen guys in the army marry strippers and watched the after math. Knew people that lived with them and saw how shit unfolded. When it comes to someone's past, that is part of what defines them. And someone who was fucking for cash probably has little to bring to the table outside of fucking.

Only two sources I trust, Glenn Beck and singing woodland creatures.
 

Boy! this forum is filled with men who have been cheated on and they're putting out there revenge by using terms like "whore" and "slut." Very mature gentlemen.

 

This world is going to pure crap, no wonder all these woman are damaged, they gave up on all these losers that call themselves men. Quick to judge but don't got a pot to piss in. Get the huge log outta your eye before you try to tweeze out the splinter in another persons eye. Read a freakin book, preferably the Bible. The one without sin may cast the first stone you heartless egotistical insecure twits.

 

I once was on a date with a girl who asked me "if you had to whore yourself out to buy something you really want would you do it? Because I definitely would" Needless to day I never called her back.

So to answer your question, no I would not

 

Funny because I've had a girl ask me the same. Had the same reaction as you too.

Just an Undergrad trying to get a job. Something you disagree or dislike about my posts? Let me know by PM'ing me or commenting constructive criticism.
 

I'm curious whether there is a relationship between people's opinion and the legal status of prostitution in the country.

I'm from a European country where prostitution is legal and I would date/marry a prostitute. Of course my preferences and no-gos would apply regardless. How many prostitutes would then be eligible, I don't know, probably not many.

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I actually don't know my answer. I think if I heard the whole story like she was between a rock and a hard place and made the best decision that was available to her at the time, I might be understanding.

I think that sort of thing would come out eventually though, if she likes the guy she needs to tell him pronto, or even bring it up in a what if scenario to gauge how he would hypothetically feel about the situation. Otherwise you gotta pull that band off quick, if it bleeds then you get a fresh one and move on.

I hope it works/worked out with that person, life is a complicated thing.

 

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