Coming to terms with being "poor"

I work as a Principal at a sub billion dollar AUM secondaries fund. My education isn't impressive, and despite having significant deal experience and great returns, my past work history aren't from brand name shops. I did some interviews recently with larger well known competitors and despite having a very strong track record it was a no go.

My pay is very poor (125k base + 20% bonus) and our fund's fees are ridiculously low. Picture what an analyst at Evercore gets, yep, that's my salary, and the bonus isn't even worth talking about. Trying to raise kids and just finding it tight financially. I've come to terms that I won't be "poor" compared to people with normal 9-5 jobs but certainly when it comes to PE I'm not getting rich any time soon. Just wanted to vent.

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The firm is 100% owned by three people: 33% to the Managing Partner, and 33% each to two outside partners that have no input as to the day to day at all.

80% of the carry goes to those three people, I get 5%, another Principal gets 5%, and the remaining 10% is split across associates/VPs basically 1-2% each. We have just shy of $1bn in AUM but most of our products don't charge carry so the actual AUM to charges carry is only 50mm...Assuming that 50mm does a net 1.6x (to be conservative) and 15% carry then that's only $4.5mm in carry for the firm, so $225k for me. There is an 8 year vesting period so if you amortize that annually it isn't even worth talking about.

Bonuses are very low, like 20-30% of base salary.

In other words, apart from working with nice people, there is nothing to financially incentivize mid/senior level people to work here. The junior people get good experience and are paid not horribly but still far from market.

 

I figured that's what it was. Sorry man, really shitty situation to be in.

I've been in the situation on the sell-side - great people to work for, amazing learning experience but really really shitty pay. It gets really comfortable  but the opportunity cost  on comp just got too goddamn high and I'm glad I got out. Not suggesting anything in particular, or anything at all tbh. Just empathizing and sharing.

 

Sounds like you have really deep experience on the investment side already; why not just continue recruiting and take a gig that hits with better pay?

Also, is it really an issue to lateral to a PCA shop for a bit and clip higher salary for a couple years, maybe hop back into the investing side after the fact and pitch it as a skills boost sabbatical?  Surely you would make tons of connections that would be invaluable if you hop back into investing.  I've seen countless people do this.

 

Analysts at Evercore make ~$160-200k first year. You mentioned living in a LCOL city and that you're feeling tight financially while raising kids. How can this be? I don't mean to be crass. I ask because I may be moving from a high-paying job in a HCOL area to a job that pays ~$200k all-in in a LCOL city so I'm just trying to understand where all the expenses get drained. No kids yet but not too far in the future for us so I want to make sure we're thinking about our budget right.

 

Yeah, I don't know what the hell this guy is talking about. My Dad makes around that and my family is from a HCOL area and me and my family of 5 lived a comfortable upper middle class life growing up which I'm extremely thankful for. Mom also worked part time too which helped.

 
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I see. That makes much more sense (and was a crucial detail to muddy). I've been getting hits on fully remote corp dev opportunities paying $150k+ in salary alone. I don't know how bound you are to secondaries or PE but if you're open to relocating and/or doing something different but tangential, that remote flexibility/job change would help stretch your dollar a lot further.

$150k total comp for a HCOL market while raising a family is going to be tough. Still plenty doable as others live in NYC/SF on less but if you want your money to go further, you can either leave for a higher paying gig (could mean more hours), move to a new market or get your wife (assuming married given the kids you mention) to get a job to contribute to your family's bottom line. It feels like you're boxing yourself in in terms of options but I don't want to speculate too much off your original post.

Either way, I wish you the best of luck dude. Your experience sounds like it's definitely worth more than $150k.

 
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I work as a Principal at a sub billion dollar AUM secondaries fund. My education isn't impressive, and despite having significant deal experience and great returns, my past work history aren't from brand name shops. I did some interviews recently with larger well known competitors and despite having a very strong track record it was a no go.

My pay is very poor as I am in a LCOL city and our fund's fees are ridiculously low. Picture what an analyst at Evercore gets, yep, that's my salary, and the bonus isn't even worth talking about. Trying to raise kids and just finding it tight financially. I've come to terms that I won't be "poor" compared to people with normal 9-5 jobs but certainly when it comes to PE I'm not getting rich any time soon. Just wanted to vent.

OP Can I DM you?

 

How're your hours? For better pay and decent hours, would suggest suggest looking into CorpDev at a large tech firm or something. Decent number of hours would be PE practice of a consulting firm. High hours (and highest pay) would obviously be IB or another PE firm. Either way, I don't think it makes sense to stay where you are. That pay is not at par with your qualifications at ALL. As a first year MBB consultant, I almost made that much and had no kids to think of. 

 

To be fair, I only work 45 hours a week. I've tried energizing the firm to work harder and get more deals done but no one cares so there's no point.

Earning 150k all in and working 45 hours a week isn't bad but I'm also in prime earning years and I can work harder but I don't want to work harder to make the other 95% of the company rich and not myself.

 

Ah got it, IB, Consulting, and larger PE firms are much worse on the hours side, and I'm guessing you don't want to suddenly disappear from your kids lives in that case haha. Would definitely look into CorpDev at big tech co or Strategic Finance / Corporate Finance at big tech or startups. Even late stage startups will probably match your comp + give you equity (obviously less job security there though, especially in this market). CorpDev at big tech could be cool and more stable (as long as its not Facebook), I imagine many of those firms will be hunting for acquisitions with all the struggling / shrinking startups right now. 

 

MBA pivot? I understand that may be difficult with a family already. Just trying to throw an idea out there that may help. You may be beyond that opportunity, I'm not sure if / how that would work. Maybe network with some of those larger buy sides and see how it would be perceived and what doors that may open for you at the VP+ level

 

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