What lessons you learned the hard way so everyone else doesn't have to?

Hi, I'm a graduating senior and incoming analyst.  Wanted to hear about mistakes you have made and lessons learned the hard way from a career in private equity / finance in general.  Not neccesarily scared to start full time, just don't want to mess anything up I don't have to. Appreciate the help!

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Quickly off the top of my head:

  1. Having one foot out the door on day 1 - Don't spend all your energy thinking about your next role / opportunity. I think this website sometimes places too much emphasis on the IB -> PE -> MBA -> PE path and it can be detrimental to early professionals. If you are only thinking about what role you are going to do next its very easy to lose focus and underperform at your current role
  2. Make sure you master the simple things - Two examples:
    1. Version control / drive protocol - learn how your firm saves and cleans up files / the drive. Very easy thing to forget to do but goes a long way when a superior is looking the final version or latest draft of materials 
    2. CRM - you want to know what I hate is going to look for an interaction in our CRM and the analyst didn't log it or upload the call notes.
  3. Building rapport and relationships with your boss matters - Don't be the guy / girls that only talks about work and can't hold an interesting conversation outside of that.
  4. Oversharing vs. undersharing - There is a balance between telling your coworkers what is going on in your life and giving too much personal detail.
 

Assume everything you put together is fucked up in someway no matter how small of a task, whether that be a Working Group List - triple check every single phone # and email, a simple comps output - f2 everything for your EV builds, check your factset estimates to make sure they make sense cuz they can be wrong (confirm w/a research report, latest IP deck for mgmt estimates etc) to sanity check your shit then do it again. In models, take a step back and make sure everything from top line volumes->revenues->cogs->Opex all make sense (ie theres not a double negative on a cost line in your formula, your sums are capturing every row, debt isn't going negative, etc) and your IRR isn't 672% or something. Be a freak about lining up your axis's on charts in a slide, your text boxes are perfect, your line spacing is consistent, and every word makes sense, those 20-30 extra minutes of review will help you find so many things and will give you goodwill with your VP's and save you an hour or two a night which goes so far.  

Echoing the guy above on version control, I sometimes go a little overboard on v'ing up my work, but avoiding a disaster where you spend 2 hours updating a model and accidentally fuck somehting and #REF it will make you want to jump off a bridge if you don't have a recent draft saved, truly nothing more demoralizing than that. 

Make an effort to build the camraderie with your class, venting about shit once the seniors leave at night truly makes you feel like you're all in it together, and when you're in a bind having your buddy the cubicle over lend a hand is a godsend.  

 

Sure, it’s all about how you position yourself, manage the perception of yourself, and navigate the political environment of your situation.  Also important is stepping back from your role and even current job/employer to ask yourself if what you’re doing and where you are will get you where you want to go.  A lot of times people think if they just work harder or make their immediate supervisor happy they’ll get ahead….and they might….but I’ve found the most diligent workers often would benefit from stepping back mentally and looking at the big picture, and then doing something about it.  
 

Personally it’s frustrating to realize that the worst people are the most inclined to “manage their career” and climb the ladder while the folks focused on doing good work get stepped over…and later stepped on.  The good news is that when diligent people develop their awareness and learn to navigate the politics, they generally do get ahead, and they make the better executives in the long run.

It took me a while to realize that once you learn the skills toolset of your space, the rest is how you interact with people and position yourself.  Very very very few people at the top are indispensable in any way, they just know how to play the game.  And, further, whenever the folks at the top say “just work harder” what they really mean is “just work harder FOR ME”….no thinking person should ever blindly work harder without looking at what it will get them.
 

In short, you have to create and search for your opportunity and then take a chance, and not wait to be rewarded….because that day may never come.  I lost a few years like this and now I am hyper focused on always understanding how to make a situation work for me.  And I’m honest, I think you should too.  Think about your situation realistically and look at what your opportunity is and how you can leverage yourself to what you want.  As an aside I’d also say that building alliances and quietly stacking the deck in your favor is a much more reliable way to get ahead than engaging in showmanship or engaging in zero sum competition; leave your ego out of it.  
 

In my view you don’t want to be the fastest gun in the west because you will inevitably get cut down.  Even if you really are the best, someone is eventually going to shoot you in the back.  That’s your ego talking, convincing you that somehow you’re special when most likely you’re just another cog in the wheel.  You know who you never hear much about in the old westerns though?  The wealthy cattle rancher who quietly employs all the cowboys, the guy who is building an empire and buying up all the land while all the little people compete with each other for baubles and bragging rights.  Play for keeps.

…..and that was a much longer answer than I’d intended

Get busy living
 

Not directly but second hand: Don't quit on your worst day. Push through and make a clear headed decision once you're on the other side. Longevity in this space is often about just getting through the tough periods, not necessarily always being perfect. And always have a good attitude. This goes a long way early on when you're still learning / not adding much value. 

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Always remember who you work for. You definitely don’t work for your VP. You don’t work for your Partners. You don’t work for your company. They might review your work, they might pay you. They might benefit from all the amazing hard work that you do. But it isn’t about them.

You work for you.

When you’re double and triple checking your work, it’s because you are a detailed oriented professional. When you bang out presentation comments, it’s to learn how to effectively and attractively synthesize information. When you stay up until 2 AM modeling, it’s to become technically proficient. When you work 3 weekends straight to get an M&A deal closed, it’s to add a win to your resume and deal sheet. Even when you’re handling random bullshit asinine tasks, you do it to develop mental fortitude, patience, and resilience. 

You work to make yourself better, stronger, faster, smarter, more capable, more skilled, more valuable, more adaptable. You're just using your company as a resource to get mentorship, deal experience, institutional capability, learning opportunities, client relationships, etc. Always, always, remember that everything you’re doing is for you, and do it to the best of your ability because it’s you who will reap the reward in the long run. Go get what’s yours.

 

As stated above by multiple posters, I cannot stress enough the importance of honing your attention to detail, especially at the beginning of your career. The less simple mistakes your Associate, VP, etc. have to correct, the easier your life will be.

Additionally, providing context when speaking to anyone internally or externally is incredibly important, and a lot of people tend to struggle with this. Before diving into the details of topics that people have varying degrees of familiarity with, you should strive to set the scene -> What's the background? Where did this task originate from? Whose been involved to-date and who will need to be involved moving forward? What does success look like / what is the ultimate end goal?

On a related note to the above - it's inevitable that you'll make mistakes (as we all do!), but I am a firm believer that you should aim to knock it out of the park in any aspects of your role, or even life itself, that are within your control. This encompasses not only attention to detail, but your attitude, work ethic, coachability, etc. If you have a firm grasp on this concept, I can assure you that your time spent at work will be much more fruitful.

There's a lot of gems on this thread already, but hope this was helpful. Good luck!

 

A few things come to mind:

  • More than anything, this shit is a game of attrition. If you can show up with a good work ethic, be able to work well with others and always as yourself "does this shit make sense?" You will immediately be in the top-half of performers 
  • This is also a game of reps, and you need to continually put yourself in situations where you're uncomfortable in order to grow. The first time I presented in front of clients, I was nervous as shit, but you continually learn and get better. Make sure to get those reps
  • Think about where you want to be 1, 3 and 5 years from now - how does what you're doing today get you there in terms of experience, relationships or compensation?
  • Find out who matters in your organization and who doesn't it. You don't want to be stuck working for people who don't matter and then burn you come review time. Cultivating relationships with the right seniors will make all the difference
  • Lastly, find people to mentor you and make sure they feel as if they're invested in your career success. Proactively reach out to them for advice, take their advice and then circle back with them to show how their recommendations helped you. Rinse and Repeat

Good luck

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