Just ended a serious relationship couple weeks back and ready to get back into the dating jungle.
How much time do you guys spend going on dates a week? Is anyone out there getting dating fatigue? I've been on a couple since I broke up and already getting tired of disappointments/boring/lame dates. What are some ways to reframe "bad" dates and make it bearable to keep meeting new people.
4-5 times a week when I'm actively hunting prey (different women), 7+ times a week when I'm ensaring prey (same women).
this is you
Vance from Hitch
This is psychotic. Stop referring to women as prey.
The fastest way to date:
-Invite on coffee dates. 30 min long - do two one after the other. Verbiage is "I have some time during lunch"
-If it goes well, then do a dinner date.
Now each date is like...$5 and 30 min.
coffee is like $10 per cup nowadays, but yeah
Starbucks is overrated and relatively unhealthy.
McDonalds/Dunkin Donuts, etc. is the way to go.
Throw this in the off topic champ
How are these dates boring and lame? That might be on you as the planner tbh. Try and put yourself in scenarios where you can either escalate, or leave, as quickly as possible if there’s no mutual attraction
I personally feel coffee and dinner dates are boring as hell and come off interview-ish. Do something outdoorsy (doesn’t have to be rock climbing) or after work drinks to loosen up
Del., misread
Agree with UCSDThrowaway.
What? How are drinks a bad first date? This is probably the best first date as 1-2 drinks loosens you both up and it doesn’t cost as much for the guy (vs paying for dinner in a 1st tier city)
Would probably schedule this on a Fri-Sat instead of post work but to each their own
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Fuck dates. Go find someone naturally through your hobbies/interests/sports. That's a much better way to meet someone.
Cool comment, but have you ever done this? Based on your post history I would guess not
a man can dream
This is exactly what I thought you would say Pizz. "Get laid." right?
Haha nice
Honestly the best way to look at it is that it’s either a good date or a good story. After the worst dates I’ve had, I always remember afterwards drinking a cold one while laughing with my friends at how boring she was and how I couldn’t wait to get out of there. It’s all part of life and honestly even a bad date can result in a new perspective or you learning something about someone new.
Dates have honestly just confirmed the types of people / characteristics I value vs. don't value
Yup, I've learned that I cannot date someone who is so lame that they can't hold a conversation :)
Forgive me for asking a stupid question: how are you single if you have dates every week?
You're no longer single if you're going on multiple dates with the same person, then you're "dating".
This is false. You can be single and dating. You’re not an item until you have “the talk.”
it depends on my mood. sometimes I spend months without any dates so I can focus on work and my girlfriend and save money cause these dates stack up quickly (~$50 per date, if going every day will cost you $1500 per month). other times I might go 3-5 times a week. fatigue is definitely very real, especially if you hit a row of bad dates when you spend money and time and don't get any ass. it usually ruins morale and leads to bad next dates. so at this point, it's good to take a pause.
You should pay for the first date if you asked her out
You guys still pay for your dates?
These guys didn't catch the fact that you're going on dates and have a girlfriend at the same time lmaoo
It's [current year], open relationships are a thing. Not really newsworthy
I thought I was the only one lmao
What is this the Aldi budget date scene?
how much do you spend? I don't take girls on fancy first dates anymore, cause a lot of them just want free food, so I take them either out for drinks or to an affordable burger or taco place. usually drinks though.
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too much effort to talk to someone on hinge then actually dressing up, doing hair/makeup just to meet some you're gonna forget in 3 months time
and keep getting blown up in the evenings and weekends
More interested, sorry to hijack, but more interested in how much you single guys are spending per date (only 1st dates) and where you're taking these fine ladies. As someone who has been wifed up for years, I'm very curious to know what the "Average" finance guy is dishing out for dates. Feel free to include those you know are going poorly as well as those you know will end exactly as you wanted. Given I haven't been single in over 7 years, I've always wondered what it would take financially to get back out properly these days.
To be clear my lady and I go out but we do what I would consider culinary experiences for the most part (ie. nakazawa / freyo etc) which I would never casually do with some girl I just met.
Probably like 80-100 depending on where you go. I like to do pretty nice cocktails or wine which can be 15-20 bucks each, maybe you have 2 each, can easily be 80+ with tip etc. My friends all spend pretty similar if not more.
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