I'm not happy. Please help.

A lot of people dilly dally around every single day without even realizing it. Dream about something you really want, create a plan to get there (break it down by months then weeks with small goals), slowly you will see how your day to day actions influence your whole plan. Every day you will do something that will affect your own “timeline” of life. The decisions you make now will tell you your future.

Manifesting! I might sound crazy to some people, but it works. The same way you dream about something - you manifest it. Your brain will slowly focus in on the things that you want.

Another thing, next time you’re walking to your class, take the long way because WHY NOT! You never know what you could run into. You could catch that girl by accident or better yet find a new one. Personally, doing spontaneous things here and there have done me good for my mental health. I learned it from my girlfriend now. Sometimes you gotta add some spice to life!

Stay in shape, trust me when you’re staring at the mirror all built, your confidence will shine through. A nice body is something you work for. You will stare at yourself proud because of how far you’ve come.

I wish you the best of luck!

Gaming helped a lot when I was stranded on campus at the start of the pandemic

ik sometimes making friends can be tough, however try your best to talk to people from your class start the convo about some school work and them go with the flow, as for the girl go ask her out, you only need 10 seconds of courage to really get something u want you have nothing to lose you clearly don’t have a friendship to ruin loll i am just fucking around, one thing is start working out the gym has really changed my life give it a try u wont regret it, one more tip its fine sometimes to play video games/ watch netflix to blow off some steam so do it but be careful not to fall behind of schoolwork

Join a club you’re interested in. Do you play sports? Join pickup games

Freshman at a state school here. Def join clubs/greek life or try and play club sports, I joined Delta Sigma Pi and the rowing team and it has honestly been amazing as I didn't have much of a social life in high school. Most of my friends were guys I met online playing games like CSGO and Rust. A lot of them turned out to be my best-friends, this summer im actually going to London to meet a few of them.

Get a piece of paper, draw  a line right in the middle of it. The left is who you are right now. The right is who you want to be. Now draw out a flow chart how you can change yourself from left to right. I did this and my life improved. 

The above comments are spot on - you want to join activities / do hobbies / from there a common interest with someone will form a relationship naturally rather than feeling forced. Also don't go out and do a certain hobby with the intention of meeting someone. Do it because it makes you happy. 

Have you thought about transferring schools? I ended up transferring after my sophomore year due to fit, didn't land a great junior internship but worked out ok for full-time.

Learn to get along with your dorm mates.  If you can't make friends with similarly-aged people in similar circumstances in a not-really-real-world place like university, then your social skills need work. You can't escape this. You're going to have to learn how to make friends. Consider this just life teaching you lessons.  Learn to be kind, helpful, generous to those around you. Learn to break ice. Learn to be interesting and interested.  That's your task. We are transformed through lessons and hardships. This one is yours.

How do you ask a girl out?

"Would you like to get dinner?"  It's that fucking simple.

Something that could help is staking your happiness to personal experiences, goals, and values instead of other people. While we are inherently social, it can be tough to find a group. You could instead start a snowball of small positive experiences for yourself. Think about things you’ve always wanted to do and don’t be afraid to pursue them alone. When I was in a rough spot I started going for drives to a cool city near my campus. Invited a guy from my class one time and he’s become one of my closest friends. Continually put yourself in positions to be a good friend for someone.

I wouldn’t worry about the girl for now.

This might sound stupid but trying to do something that you are too lazy or shy to do has helped me a lot. I wasn't in your exact same position but was completely unhappy a couple of years back (not happy now but I feel much better, mostly with myself).

You are too lazy to go to the gym? Force yourself there

Don't have any friends in your course? Talk to the guy (usually easier to talk to) or girl sitting next to you when the class ends and try to be slightly funny either by mentioning something you can both feel identified with or something about the classes (had a teacher that literally behaved like a sim and asked this to 2 people in my course with a 50% success rate). You can leverage some of these relationships to making friends or something.

You see the exact same person almost everyday? Joke about them following you (please not about you following them) = This is a hit or miss, if they are bored they will give you conversation which you can then leverage to some kind of friendship. If they don't want to talk to you, back to square one (it might be weird now but is key to not care about what others think of you).

Other tips:

• stay in touch with family and if something remembers you of someone you met in the past (HS, sports team...) drop them a message (could be a meme or anything). I didn't really talk to this guy but saw a story of him at the gym and sent him: "me vs the guy she tells me not to worry about" (idk why I did it), now whenever I see him we have great conversations.
• 90% of your conversations should be about the other person you are talking to, if you don't care about their life = fake it. Don't be that annoying girl that only talks about her life.
• when doing anything in this life ask yourself: "would a nice person do this?" Try to be the nice person (be honest and treat other with the most polite and respectful behaviour), literally tell people who try to sell you shit on the phone to have a nice day.

Hope this helps, please keep us posted!

Furthermore, regarding girls: don't waste much time chasing them (i.e dont deprive yourself of sleeping just to talk to this random girl). Yeah you might hit, but you can try this while your at a party or something and it's easy to do so (opportunities never stop coming to you). This is my personal opinion, I expect others to disagree with this last opinion.

Bro you better be hitting the gym hard as fuck. If you arnt already, what on earth is wrong with you? There’s no surprise you’re not happy if you’re not getting exercise. 

However, the real advice is you need to be doing a group workout class that is social: either CrossFit or a martial art (Muay Thai, BJJ, or MMA). It is hard NOT to make friends in these environments. Sign up for a class and come back to this post in one month and you won’t recognize the person who typed out the post.

Come to Europe! Here you always find someone

You can do it OP. Rooting for you.

You're one of the lamest people I've read about. All of this is your fault and you seriously need to quit making excuses. Now how do you change this?

I'll tell you straight up. Require yourself to only enter your dorm after dinner and before breakfast. The rest of the day has to be spent outside of your dorm. You are allowed any spot on campus but cannot be in your dorm hall. 

As for dating, I get the concern with crime, but is there really no decent restaurants on campus or social areas like a game room that you can invite her to? I get that there's no Michelin Star but as long as it's better then fast food it works imo.