Anthony Bourdain. The man who inspired me to live truly free of contraints. Is dead.

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I will never forget watching his first episode(s) of Parts Unknown on CNN.
This was back in 2013, just around the time when I and my peers were engaged in the drudgery known as the job search.

It was then that I knew being in a cubicle would mean certain (emotional and physical) death.
Seeing Bourdain's candor and no-nonsense attitude as he traveled the world from city to city, country to country.
It really pushed me to explore alternative future paths after graduation.

When it came up in conversation, I would tell friends and professors that Bourdain was, unequivocally, the luckiest man alive. And I meant it. (And still do today after his passing, since you or I cannot say with certainty he isn't in a better place.)

This is not to say I ended up being a chef or television personality. I am nowhere near as charismatic or clever. But his lifestyle was always in the back of my mind as I created paths for sources of income that allowed me absolute geographic freedom.

Looking back. The past 5 years of my life, despite having Everestonian swings in mental wellbeing, investment returns, and overall life satisfication, is something I wouldn't trade the world for. Having lived for at least a month in nearly 2 dozen countries (and countless more cities) on 4 continents (many for as long as 6 months), it's really an incredible experience, however cliche that sounds.

I can say that, with a few trivial hesitations, I'd be generally happy and content if death were to thrust upon me today.

RIP Anthony Bourdain
the inspiration for me to be who I am.
to live a life not tied down to any one city or country.
to travel, explore, dare.
to be free.
you will be greatly missed.

Comments (58)

Jun 9, 2018

So your life's inspiration was a hedonistic narcissist that lived and died as a lonely, unrooted caricature of peak globalism? Wouldn't expect anything less from you MM. For fuck's sake, we're living in clown world when people start to think that "travel" (something every 19yo instawhore thot puts in her profile) is the pinnacle of culture. Shameful.

Seriously, your life isn't your job or your instagram account; it's the few people in it that would drop everything to help you in a pinch. Tell your parents and your closest friends you love them, make time for these people, find a good woman, pop out of bunch of kids, and don't rely on mindless consumerism to make you happy.

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Jun 8, 2018

Well you sound like an unfortunate tourist.

There's a (big) difference between travel and living somewhere.

And for the record, I don't (and never will) have Instagram.
In fact, I have absolute no social media.
Only the insecure engage in behavior for recognition/attention of others.

Is there something wrong with me buying experiences to impress myself, and dying empty?

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Jun 9, 2018

There's nothing wrong per se, but it's sad to think that this (clearly) deeply depressed trainwreck of a man is your life's inspiration.

You didn't live anywhere to set down roots and make a life; you were simply passing through on an extended stay and LARPing as a citizen of the world. That's a dead end. Hopefully you figure this out sooner rather than later.

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Jun 8, 2018

I'm glad there are people like you. The ones who prop up corporate revenue and investor returns.

And I say this without malice, but rather, with full admiration.

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Jun 9, 2018

He has a daughter and was married for a long time. Divorced on good terms. Relationship with his GF seemed good. This is the first celebrity death to actually make me feel sad. I think it's because he was outwardly seeking fulfillment and happiness. He wasn't some woe is me celeb slitting his wrists for attention. I sympathize with that internal struggle.

And dude. Travel is dope. Family is dope. You can have both. He tried.

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

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Jun 9, 2018

Well said!

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Jun 9, 2018
Pmc2ghy:

So your life's inspiration was a hedonistic narcissist that lived and died as a lonely, unrooted caricature of peak globalism? Wouldn't expect anything less from you MM. For fuck's sake, we're living in clown world when people start to think that "travel" (something every 19yo instawhore thot puts in her profile) is the pinnacle of culture. Shameful.

Seriously, your life isn't your job or your instagram account; it's the few people in it that would drop everything to help you in a pinch. Tell your parents and your closest friends you love them, make time for these people, find a good woman, pop out of bunch of kids, and don't rely on mindless consumerism to make you happy.

Honest question: have you ever lived in another place? I don't mean travelled or spent a few weeks - I mean lived.

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Jun 9, 2018

I like the MS for asking a question lol

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Jun 10, 2018

RIP wanderlust.

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Jun 10, 2018

He was very up front about being privileged... he was also up front about fuckin his life up with drugs... and also up front about his continued recovery and fight with depression.

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Jun 10, 2018

His "food show" was on CNN because it got ratings. They poached him from the travel channel. Your statements on other cultures/ countries speak for themselves.

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Jun 10, 2018
wsobroski:

He was on CNN to show you how "beautiful" and "exotic" backwards inbred stone age low iq Third World crapholes are, so you schmucks lower your guard and welcome an invasion without a shot fired.

You seem to have a lot of hate in your heart. Hopefully that changes some day.

p.s. didn't realize that you're the guy who made the thread that shit on his own family, your posts make perfect sense now

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Jun 10, 2018
wsobroski:

Meh, he was 61, not some teenager. The old man was famous for eating and getting drunk on TV while shoving globalist, open-borders crap down gullible viewers' throats. You really never questioned why a "food show" was on CNN? Use your head. He was on CNN to show you how "beautiful" and "exotic" backwards inbred stone age low iq Third World crapholes are, so you schmucks lower your guard and welcome an invasion without a shot fired.

....or he just made good television for people that like food and travel. Wtf is wrong with you kids today.

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Jun 11, 2018

"We're living in clown world when people start to think that "travel" is the pinnacle of culture. Shameful."

100% disagree with you. You think that traveling the world to experience other people's cultures is shameful? What's more enlightening than seeing how other people of this world live, eat, enjoy, go about their daily routines? Expand your horizons, go see the beautiful places on this earth, eat exotic food, meet incredibly friendly people. That's the height of culture.

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Jun 11, 2018
m8:

"We're living in clown world when people start to think that "travel" is the pinnacle of culture. Shameful."

100% disagree with you. You think that traveling the world to experience other people's cultures is shameful? What's more enlightening than seeing how other people of this world live, eat, enjoy, go about their daily routines? Expand your horizons, go see the beautiful places on this earth, eat exotic food, meet incredibly friendly people. That's the height of culture.

100% disagree with you. There are many personality types and not everyone is going to fit the mold of those who love to travel the world. It's fine for some people; for other people, it's not so fine. Your position is like saying that spending time with new people is the pinnacle of culture when 1/4 to 1/2 of the population would blow their brains out to consistently spend time with new people. Not all personalities are equal.

Personally, I hate traveling (flying is a miserable experience) and I don't respect Third World cultures so I'm not the type of person who is green with envy over the Instagram photos of people climbing on rocks in [name the country] that look crazy similar to the ones at my local park.

Jun 11, 2018

You don't respect Third World cultures, interesting. At least you're honest, I guess.

Tell me then, what is your idea of cultured?

Jun 11, 2018
m8:

You don't respect Third World cultures, interesting. At least you're honest, I guess.

Tell me then, what is your idea of cultured?

My idea of culture is irrelevant. The point is, there are 7.6 billion definitions of "culture" and "ideal living." Traveling around the world in a totally self-centered and hedonistic way is not what I want for my life. If that's what you want then more power to you--as a EU/US/Canadian citizen, you're a free man to pursue any useless endeavor you want.

Jun 11, 2018

Well, its relevant because I asked you.

I'm interested to hear what your ideals are in life, since you think that traveling is miserable, self-centered, hedonistic, useless, and you don't respect over half of the world's population.

I'm genuinely interested to hear what you find enlightening.

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Jun 11, 2018
m8:

Well, its relevant because I asked you.

I'm interested to hear what your ideals are in life, since you think that traveling is miserable, self-centered, hedonistic, useless, and you don't respect over half of the world's population.

I'm genuinely interested to hear what you find enlightening.

It's an ever evolving answer. In general, I'd like to do something with my life--contribute to the greater good. It's the Protestant and German work ethic in me that built the USA from an impoverished backwater of American Indian to landing on Mars and hopefully to interstellar travel one day. Hedonistic pleasure is an unfulfilling dead-end, at least for me. It's not something I think should be celebrated, and I find people who pursue that way of life to be detestable degenerates--also known as hobos and drug addicts.

Jun 10, 2018

Lol. How in the world did travelling become an inherently hedonistic endeavor that precludes one from contributing to the "greater good" (whatever that is)? I'll take "what is a false dichotomy" for 500, Alex.

p.s. why bring Hobos into this...

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Jun 11, 2018
BobTheBaker:

Lol. How in the world did travelling become an inherently hedonistic endeavor that precludes one from contributing to the "greater good" (whatever that is)? I'll take what is a false dichotomy for 500, Alex.

The context that we're discussing: spending your life traveling around the world and trying new cuisines and "meeting new people" and experiencing other cultures--that is a purely self-centered life devoid of real meaning.

For a "liberal," you're pretty antagonistic to the notion of something greater than the individual. Individual rights is the first imperative, but a life without a community--without a purpose greater than you--is, to me, a meaningless existence. "Contributing to the greater good" could be anything from changing the world with solar energy innovation to serving food at the homeless shelter to raising your children to be good citizens. Traveling the world to pursue your own pleasure has no meaning to me. It's detestable. Thankfully, a lot of people died to give you, me, and everyone else in a free society the right to pursue immoral, selfish desires if that's what we want.

Jun 10, 2018

Oh didn't realize the discussion was around spending your entire life traveling, I think you've framed it that way. I wish I had the time and money to travel like that and of course if I had such funds plenty of my time would be spent on charitable endeavors. As for traveling in general, there is absolutely nothing wrong with seeking pleasure in life. Hedonism is dedicating your life to seeking pleasure not taking an enjoyable vacation a few times a year. Additionally, I'd say Bourdain definitely served the "greater good", regardless of whether that was his express intent or not. Alot of the worlds ills would be solved if people just looked at each other as people and built an understanding that we're all just trying to live life on this insignificant rock. Bourdain's show made great efforts to get that message across while educating an audience around the world of how others live their respective lives. He was also not one to stick to the "typical" locations, you don't take a canoe down the river Congo and arrive to a village with no electricity or water just to satisfy your need for pleasure. You do it because you want to present a perspective to the world that was otherwise unpresented or under presented. But go on, tell me how your apparent disdain for 3rd world cultures does anything to further the "greater good".

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Jun 11, 2018

I don't know anything about Bourdain nor do I care. The first time I ever heard his name was when his suicide was announced. I'm speaking specifically to this notion that traveling the world and becoming cultured is the ultimate way to live; I think that's a fucked up and disgraceful way of thinking. I've known one person like that--a high school acquaintance who had an HGTV show about her global travels. What a vapid and uninteresting individual she was (if she wasn't titanically hot nobody would have even tuned-in to her show).

Jun 10, 2018

Oh okay. Yea I generally ignore MonacoMonkey. You should watch Parts Unknown, it's on Netflix. I'd bet it's entirely different from that HGTV show (which I've never heard of and I like travel shows).

Jun 11, 2018

Wunderlust bro. All about the IG.

Jun 11, 2018

I think this where we're losing each other:

Why can't you do both? Do something with your life AND travel in your spare time?

Jun 11, 2018
m8:

I think this where we're losing each other:

Why can't you do both? Do something with your life AND travel in your spare time?

Because that's not the context of the conversation as originated by this thread's OP...

Jun 12, 2018
Pmc2ghy:

So your life's inspiration was a hedonistic narcissist that lived and died as a lonely, unrooted caricature of peak globalism? Wouldn't expect anything less from you MM. For fuck's sake, we're living in clown world when people start to think that "travel" (something every 19yo instawhore thot puts in her profile) is the pinnacle of culture. Shameful.

Seriously, your life isn't your job or your instagram account; it's the few people in it that would drop everything to help you in a pinch. Tell your parents and your closest friends you love them, make time for these people, find a good woman, pop out of bunch of kids, and don't rely on mindless consumerism to make you happy.

If I had to guess, you are probably from the Midwest or the South and probably believe in god. Any chance your mom and dad share the shame last name?

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Jun 9, 2018

See, it's not old fish -- it's a whole new thing. And the best thing is, they're eating 3-day-old halibut. That is a CDO.

"Work ethic, work ethic" - Vince Vaughn
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Jun 10, 2018
Yankee Doodle:

See, it's not old fish -- it's a whole new thing. And the best thing is, they're eating 3-day-old halibut. That is a CDO.

Unlike a lot of the cameos in that movie, I think he actually got what he was talking about there.

Jun 11, 2018

Other liberals should take his cue.

A degenerate heroine addict who could have dedicated his life to helping people and chose to leave his young daughter without a father.

Rip him in a hole and move on.

Jun 10, 2018

RIP wanderlust.

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Jun 10, 2018

The consistent hate and politicization of every single topic by the same few members of this site is outrageous. Some of you need serious help. You have to be DEEPLY unhappy/ angry to consistently post the vitriol that you all do. Dude seemed like a chill guy and I enjoyed his show. Depression is a crushing disease and has no political bounds (can't believe I have to say this). My friend took his life in 2016 and we never saw it coming. Bourdain leaves a legacy of embracing other people and other cultures, in the U.S. and around the world. I hope when I die I have an impact like he did. R.I.P.

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Jun 9, 2018

You're projecting.

Agreed that this topic shouldn't be political, but not everyone has to bow down before the foodie God. Drug addict, divorced, current gf cheating on him, likely leaves his daughter with permanent emotional trauma, fake global citizen; none of this is to be admired. I can't believe people actually think this guy is admirable.

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Jun 11, 2018

Virtue signaling hardcore. Stack him and Kate Spade together to save money in the crematorium.

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Jun 10, 2018

1.) you immediately made the thread political by using it as an opportunity to criticize globalism
2.) no one said to "bow down before the foodie God", this is classic strawman garbage
3.) he was a drug addict and got divorced, his GF is cheating on him (didn't know this or anything else about his personal life honestly, just the drugs). What does any of this have to do with his contributions?

You know why he is admirable? because he is an accomplished author and made probably the greatest travel show ever. So many iconic moments. He was in Libya during the arab spring, he was in Turkey before elections speaking with the young people who wanted Erdogan out/ his power reduced. I remember the celebrations on the streets when they thought Erdogan had lost, only for Bourdain to narrate at the end of the episode that all those election victories were empty. We now have Erdogan meandering his way to becoming president for life. What you want to do is focus on his addiction and family life like that somehow discredits his work, because his work doesn't agree with your political beliefs. It's fairly obvious. Your implication is that because he got a divorce and was a drug addict he can't have done anything admirable. That's false. That's bullshit. That's your consistent politicized world view showing itself. At the risk of getting political, our current president, who you support, is on his 3rd wife who he cheated on with a porn star, he paid said porn star 150k to keep it quiet. Yet you want to get on here and pontificate about Anthony Bourdain's amicable divorce and his drug addiction that he battled back from. Such shameless hypocrisy. You're allowed to admire Trump for his policies and his marketing prowess and leave the personal shit at the door. I can admire Kurt Cobain for his contributions to rock music without admiring his personal life. Goes the same for Bourdain.

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Jun 9, 2018

As usual, you post a bunch of TLDR trash.

OP started with saying Bourdain was his life's inspiration, and I pointed out how ludicrous that seems. My reference to globalism here wasn't political, but you couldn't help make it so. I'd be surprised if his unrooted existence didn't significantly lead to his downfall, but you probably find it inspiring or some nonsense.

Then of course, you can't help yourself and you bring up Trump. Another clear sign of liberals' "Trump Derangment Syndome." I love the guy and what he is doing for his country, but I would never aspire to his personal life; and still, he seems to have a large family that deeply loves him, so it could be worse. He is a flawed man, but everyone who voted for him knew that going in. In the meantime I'll be awaiting your new thread that denigrates CNN for their 24/7 Stormy Daniels coverage, as such personal attacks are clearly beyond the pale according to your newly professed world view.

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Jun 10, 2018

Lol, your reference to globalism is inherently political, I don't have to make it so. Other posters before me took your political cue and ran with it. Bourdain's life is an inspiration, he was an accomplished author and experienced the world in a way almost no one else can, that's inspiring, regardless of his personal life. You love Trump and of course that's fine. Just don't come here pontificating and whining about hedonism and divorce while glossing over that shit for those who you love. I don't watch CNN or any other news channel, I don't really care what they cover.

TLDR? I'll summarize for you: stop being an overly political hypocrite.

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Jun 9, 2018

Bourdain was a heroin addict that lived and died for himself while Trump is a teetotaler who sacrificed his cushy life to try to change the country for the what he and millions of others believe the better (regardless of whether or not you agree) but hey, EXACT SAME, amirite? I'll stick with hedonism, but thanks for playing.

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Jun 9, 2018

I won't tackle the Trump side of the comment as I feel like the thread is becoming very political but as for Bourdain himself, you really think stupid decisions made in the past should brand you forever?

Bourdain opened people's eyes to world food and as an extension different cultures. Sure, he made money from it but travelling around the world to show people what is out there isn't doing something just for yourself. He advocated for the improved treatment of latin chefs in the US and sexual abuse in kitchens.

You're really hung up on the heroin part huh? Drug use is widespread in professional kitchens. Tim Raue in Berlin was in gangs in his youth and fucked around all the time, yet now has a 2 Michelin star restaurant and is considered the pioneer of enhancing the image of food in Berlin and Germany to an extent. If you've ever eaten in a fine dining restaurant chances are the chef either had a drug/drinking problem.

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Jun 11, 2018

This was very well written. Even if his personal life wasn't the best (can't say anyone has a perfect one), the concepts behind some of his actions and ideas really shown through with travel and the basic human experience of sitting down with others for a meal. There's nothing more human than coming together, setting aside your differences, and sharing bread. Even Jesus said that for Christ's sake.

Jun 11, 2018

One can be happy and still realize hypocrisy. Don't you have a safe space to cry in?

The guy left his young daughter without a father. He could have done a bunch of other things with his life, yet he chose to eat, drink and fuck.

I feel pity for people who are suffering in this world. This spoiled douche gets none. And the endless virtue signaling whenever a celebrity dies is lame. You think he gives a fuck about you or another one of us?

Jun 10, 2018

You're clearly unhappy bro, your posts reek of it.

He left his young daughter without a father, which is a terrible thing. Depression is a terrible disease and often leaves heartbreak in his wake, what does that have to do with your statement on liberals and all this other shit?

I feel pity for anyone suffering from depression, and I def feel pity for the friends and family he left behind. I don't need him to "give a fuck" about me to feel that way.

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Jun 11, 2018

You want to cuddle?

I think YOURE unhappy. Let's get into a kindergarten argument about "no, you prove it".

Jun 10, 2018
TNA:

You want to cuddle?

I think YOURE unhappy. Let's get into a kindergarten argument about "no, you prove it".

EDIT: fair enough, I can't know for sure what your mindset is. I'll leave it.

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Jun 10, 2018

@Pmc2ghy , @wsobroski , @TNA

Go the fuck outside you loonies. Real life isn't as scary and threatening as Breitbart News' twitter feed makes it out to be.

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Jun 8, 2018

The only 3 people in this thread worthy of mention is Pmc2ghy, BobtheBaker, and myself.

Everyone else must live sad little lives to have such vitriol against a man with a lifestyle they could never attain.

And Bourdain was MUCH more than just travel + food. He showed us a side of geopolitics that we would otherwise never see. Perhaps a highlight was his 2014 interview with Nemtsov, in Moscow. 1 year later, he [Nemtsov] was killed, shot 5 times in the back. An obvious assasination.
But in return, and thanks in part to Bourdain, we really got a glimpse of the Kremlin.
A very interesting 3 minute watch that, although stating somewhat obvious facts, comes from the horses mouth. 2nd video is Bourdain's thoughts on the interview.

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Jun 11, 2018

Never heard of him

Jun 11, 2018

Since when did a passion for traveling the world, immersing one's self into different cultures, and enjoying wide-ranging cuisines become a way to criticize someone and label them a "globalist" (I still don't know why this term is supposed to be pejorative)?

Broaden your horizons, folks. Live a little. It must be tiring to live with so much constant vitriol.

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Jun 8, 2018

correct, there is no correlation.

i am a protectionist trader (anti-globalist) but travel/live in other countries for the sake of understanding different cultures.

this is not to say I like/agree with the dozens of cultures I've interacted with. in fact, some of them are quite weird, backwards, and ocassionally repulsive.

what I have is a common respect for all (ok, 95% of) cultures. who am I to judge if a "way of living" is ok or not. in fact, one of the most egregious moral crimes of the 21st century is the West trying to impose what is/we call "acceptable" onto other cultures. more lighthearted topics include what constitutes as edible food. more "serious" cultural qualms include treatment of homosexuals, child marriages, age of consent, capital punishment, etc. it's not our place to do so.

and the comments below are correct. my passport name is (obviously) not Monaco Monkey and i post here precisely because of the anonymity. it's also a way to keep track of my (wandering) thoughts for me to reflect in 10 years.

stay curious.

Jun 11, 2018

"And for the record, I don't (and never will) have Instagram.
In fact, I have absolute no social media.
Only the insecure engage in behavior for recognition/attention of others."

You post on here all of the time for the recognition/attention of others....

Jun 9, 2018

MM posts a lot with a fair amount of existential crisis shit, but I'm pretty sure he posts for himself and doesn't give a shit about attention/recognition from others.

Jun 11, 2018

lol yeah to be fair i don't think MM gives a shit about what others think of him. it's kinda admirable in a way actually.

Jun 11, 2018

I think if Bourdain was still alive today, he'd say he too thinks by June 8, 2018, he'd be satisfied with dying. He never let anything hold him back. What an inspiration.

Jun 11, 2018

It's easy for someone to judge another human-being behind a desktop screen. Anthony Bourdain accomplished a lot, enjoyed a hell of a ride, and left this world on his own terms. Rest in paradise, you won't be forgotten.

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