Dealing with other men mean mugging you in public when wearing a nice suit

In my early 20s, here. I have a lot of Made to Measure suits from Suit Supply that deliver great value for the dollar. They shape my body silhouette very well. But when I'm in public, it seems like everyone, both male and female, is trying to size me up when I'm wearing a well tailored suit.

Like males will try to lock eye contact with me, and if I look away first (I'm tired/I don't care about this whole alpha bravo shit), from my peripheral vision I can see them sneer as if they somehow one-upped me by getting me to look away first.

Same with attractive females as I cross paths with them. They will try to make and hold eye contact with me, and expect me to hold it but at the same time, some days I don't give a damn and look away. In the most genuine way possible, I sometimes hate the attention and feeling like I have to be "in the zone" all the time. Sometimes I just want to walk to the coffee shop and not have to give off a commanding presence/charismatic aura in public, it's exhausting. But it seems like everyone I pass expects me to

It's the same people at my train station every day, and some days I just don't want to be "in the zone" all the time.

It's sort of exhausting when you dress well and everyone in public is trying to size you up 24/7. How do you guys deal with this? Is it just a mind state thing? Genuinely curious if similar situations happen to you guys and how you deal with it on a day to day basis

Comments (55)

Apr 8, 2019

Never Happened.

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Apr 10, 2019

The soy is strong with this one.

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Apr 8, 2019

Let me guess, you paid 2000 pounds for the suit and prefer to wear it with handstitched oxfords?

Apr 8, 2019

I mentioned Suit Supply, not to flex, mainly just to emphasize that I didn't spend much on my suits for the value they give

The question is how young analysts deal with other males sizing them up when in public constantly

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Apr 8, 2019

It helps not being a beta soyboy.

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Apr 8, 2019

I would have guessed OP is mentally challenged, but I guess that's a fair assumption.

Have you ever thought of investing in real estate?

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Apr 8, 2019

yeah well that's a shit story. but there is a guy in a hotrod pickup doing burnouts in my alley and i just called the police on him. ive sorta become who i hate. but you're a piece of shit too i bet
https://images-na.ssl-images-amazon.com/images/I/51pJPs1sMHL._SX320_BO1,204,203,200_.jpg

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

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Apr 9, 2019

Burnouts? I don't even bother to call in gunshots anymore. Did the police actually show up?

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Apr 9, 2019

Yeah dude I moved to the suburbs they better show up. Where do you live there are gunshots at?

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

Apr 8, 2019

If you are outdoors, wear sunglasses
If you are indoor, just be comfortable with wearing nicer clothes. If someone makes a mean comment, standard response: "Sure"

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Apr 8, 2019

Yeah, that's a good idea for when I'm walking down the street.

It also happens indoors at cafes and grocery stores too where I'm just minding my business in line and such, guess I'll just have to live with it

Apr 8, 2019

I ride the train sometimes, I can confirm this is a thing. Let them have their win, it's petty. At the end of the day they are the ones that have to live with whatever makes them stare down someone in a suit.

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Apr 8, 2019

I've never once had any issues. Are you just one of those guys that looks condescending and then a suit makes it even worse? Like the male version of RBF.

Apr 8, 2019

I don't think so, I'm pretty neutral/friendly looking.

It's more to do with my age, I look like I'm 21 years old. And older males see me and realize I'm an investment banker, earning a certain amount more than them that ticks them off, and they get mad and try to "one up" me in a staredown.

Never happens when I'm not dressed formally

Edit: I think I'm gonna take the advice given here such as wearing sunglasses when I'm tired/don't want to deal with passive aggressive confrontation. Still open to more suggestions

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Apr 8, 2019

Reading your responses makes me think that it's your giant ego and condescending attitude that people don't like.

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Apr 8, 2019

Lol no one automatically assumes you're an investment banker, much less that you earn a "certain amount more than them."

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Apr 8, 2019

I am 100% certain this is entirely in your head.

Apr 8, 2019
Apr 9, 2019

underrated

thots and prayers

Apr 8, 2019

Lolololol

Apr 8, 2019

13 replies later this thread is still hilarious and my reply is still the best by far

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

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Apr 8, 2019

OP: you talking to me

Apr 8, 2019

Also OP, as for the whole 'alpha bravo' stuff, it's actually alpha beta

Apr 8, 2019

And OP, don't feel bad about being beta. There need to be some betas out there for us alphas to exist, otherwise we'd all just be the same

Apr 9, 2019

OP, Why would you even make and hold eye contact with people anyway? I personally never make and hold eye contact as don't 99% of people around me, as far as I can observe occasionally. They have their eyes either on their phones or on non-human outside environment most of the time, when not socialising / interacting for a purpose (asking for help/directions etc). In the free world, this is also known as "minding your own business".

Unless you're a pick up dude, a street salesman or just generally someone who "wants something" from others, you shouldn't even normally be making eye contact, let alone holding it for more than a split second when eyes meet randomly.

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Apr 9, 2019

You just sound insanely insecure. People have literally no time in their lives to do this. You're 100% imagining this.

Apr 9, 2019

Maintain eye contact with them while taking a dump on the street to establish dominance. Only real alphas can survive in the jungle while wearing $400 suits.

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Apr 9, 2019

This is quite literally the dumbest post I have ever read on WSO.

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Apr 9, 2019

Do what any normal person does and just look at your phone whilst walking

Apr 9, 2019

Who cares? I can't believe you wrote all that, when you can just ignore them.

Apr 9, 2019

Maybe they think you look a bit off/ strange, so they stare. Then when you break their glance they smile in disbelief at what a strange looking dude they just saw.

Apr 9, 2019

What kind of insecure ass shit is this? Get off the internet.

You're fucking delusional if you think people care about you that much. You're not the only guy in the city wearing a suit.

If people do hate you, it's because you probably act and talk the same way you type on here.

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Apr 9, 2019

Literally reminds me of those Virgin vs Chad memes.

"The virgin suit supply wearer vs the Chad commuter"

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Apr 9, 2019

Have you ruled out the metro look you're flaunting is catching the attention of gays?

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Apr 9, 2019

Yo @GoldenCinderblock tell him about the time you had a gangbang with that dude on the train who was wearing a $400 suit.

Apr 9, 2019

There literally are people vouching for me that this type of thing does happen. I was only asking for advice

God, this community is so toxic

Apr 10, 2019

No its not haha this thread was dumb. Just ignore them. Why do you really care if someone stares you down cus youre wearing some fucking suit?

Also, nobody looking at you can tell you're a banker or whatever. So many professions wear a suit. This is a ridiculous notion. If you're so worried just stare back. What are they gonna do? Fight you? Yeah right.

Apr 11, 2019

OP probably grew up in the hood where people with suits where seen as people with money. Since op probably has money he now thinks he will get mugged because of him wearing a suit on hating on him for being rich.

Apr 10, 2019

Why not just smile and wave?... or better yet, look at your phone and don't hold eye contact if it bothers you. I don't think most people really care at all that you are wearing a suit and if anything, maybe they are just are curious why someone so young looks so formal. I doubt they assume you are in any specific industry, but maybe they are curious which makes for more stares/looks. Either way, you don't have to be "on"...just look at your phone inside, or smile more. Smiling has a lot of benefits.

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Apr 10, 2019

An immediate challenge to fight to the death is the only reasonable solution.

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Apr 10, 2019
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just google it...you're welcome

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Apr 12, 2019