Mod (Andy) note: Good forum thread below on choosing between a relationship / location / career
I am going to be doing S&T abroad this summer, and assuming I like it, I hope to stay abroad full time for at least a few years if not longer. I have a lot of wanderlust, so even in a different career, I would like to see the world, and I think your 20's is some of the best time to enjoy living abroad.
Now here comes the issue...I'm in a really amazing, long term relationship, and my boyfriend is definitely going to be super successful...but he's also going to remain in the US forever, and more importantly, during my 20's.
So, I'd really like to hear from women here who decided to pick their career over their boyfriend (or vice verse) and how it turned out for them.
senior year relationship dilemma
Our users feel that you should pursue your career interests while you are young rather than sacrificing an opportunity that you want to pursue. That being said, our users point out that long distance is an option particularly in the context of a summer internship.
I am a female and I have done the living abroad more than once as well as the long-distance relationship etc. My advice is don't do this to yourself - go live your life! I have also ended relationships due to the distance thing and I don't regret it. Never look back, follow your dreams as life is short and you better enjoy it now.
You're still in your 20s. Focus on your life & experience everything you want. You don't have to think of this break up as permanent. After working abroad for some time, you may realize it's not for you & you'd come back to the US. If so, there is a chance you two can get back together. You never know what can happen in the future. You have to do what's right for you.
And breaking up after college is quite normal because of long distance or because you both have different interests. If you both break up for some reason afterwards & you didn't take this opportunity, you'd regret it.
My GF and I are fairly open and honest about the future. I've been working since last June, and she is graduating in May and currently looking for job opportunities. She's looking in SF, New York, all over the place - and I WANT her to do that. As many posters have said, I would never want her to sacrifice her career for me, and vice versa I'm not going to sacrifice mine for her. Looking to the future, we obviously want to stay together, realistically you have to think about what city/region you want to live in, and everything else will fall into place after that.
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