Having a girlfriend as a young investment banker

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What are your opinions on having a girlfriend as a young investment banker (1-5 years experience)? Under what conditions is it possible? Do you consider that it is worthy for the support or extras that come with it vs just going out?

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Nov 3, 2014
Nov 3, 2014
Nov 4, 2014

Yea it

Incoming Ash Ketchum, Pokemon Master
Literally a problem, solve for both X and Y, please and thank you.
Hugh Myron: "Are there any guides on here for getting a top girlfriend? Think banker/lawyer/doctor. I really don't want to go mid-tier"

Nov 4, 2014

All fun and games until you run into someone from work because you chose to walk to the nearest strip club listed on Yelp. Aka how I learned to search by best

Incoming Ash Ketchum, Pokemon Master
Literally a problem, solve for both X and Y, please and thank you.
Hugh Myron: "Are there any guides on here for getting a top girlfriend? Think banker/lawyer/doctor. I really don't want to go mid-tier"

Nov 4, 2014
Red3:

All fun and games until you run into someone from work because you chose to walk to the nearest strip club listed on Yelp. Aka how I learned to search by best

It is this kind of real-life insider info that you just don't get at business school that keeps me coming back to WSO.

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Nov 3, 2014

Is this even a decision WSO can help with?

If you have a girlfriend and WSO says dump her, will you actually go through with it? Or, is it more likely that you have no girlfriend and never get any action and you know WSO will say no girlfriend is preferable, so you ask the question and feel better about your forced abstinent lifestyle in some small but meaningful way?

On the one hand, comments like this make me wonder why I waste so much time here. On the other hand, comments like this are perfect fodder for tearing to shreds. Damn you OP.

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Nov 3, 2014

Many analysts at my MM had girlfriends. Either back at school/home or in the same city. I honestly was surprised by how many people did, but it's definitely doable.

Nov 3, 2014

If you can find a girlfriend that is willing to put up with all the banking BS, and she is in the same city, it is absolutely worth it. As an analyst you will have no time to put much effort into picking up girls except the occasional night out, and even then, you might not get so lucky. I would say its preferable in my opinion. Can focus more on what matters and you always have a girl there in your down time

Nov 4, 2014
LehmanMeHangin:

If you can find a girlfriend that is willing to put up with all the banking BS, and she is in the same city, it is absolutely worth it. As an analyst you will have no time to put much effort into picking up girls except the occasional night out, and even then, you might not get so lucky. I would say its preferable in my opinion. Can focus more on what matters and you always have a girl there in your down time

Got to agree completely with this. I'm at a MM in London which is somewhat of a sweatshop, average week being 100 hours, with it regularly as bad as 120 a week.

I've had my gf since I started (c.18 months ago) and made it clear from the outset that I would always be late and cancelling last minute. Luckily she's down to earth, and the only issues really arise when I get the 8pm fire drill on Saturday night and she's already waiting at a restaurant table for me... Definitely beats being single though who are on some pretty impressive dry spells.

Compared to the single guys on the floor though, it's definitely best to have a gf if you can find a decent one. There will be no time to get girls, and on the odd occasion that there is, you will either be far too drunk and scare them off, or have such terrible M&A related chat you will bore them off. That said, with them being annoyed at your absence the whole time, it can also be a lot of unnecessary stress too.

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Nov 3, 2014

It isn't an issue of having a GF, it's an issue of having lose morals.

Nov 3, 2014
TNA:

It isn't an issue of having a GF, it's an issue of having lose morals.

Well said. Probably the best advice you'll hear.

Nov 5, 2014

... Although the statement doesn't actually make sense. Did you mean "loose" morals?

Nov 4, 2014

I'll echo @LehmanMeHangin as far as putting up with the banking BS. You'll have to make it clear you'll be really unreliable. Go for it though, it's nice to have that support.

Nov 4, 2014

As a woman, I'd imagine it's more doable for you to have a girlfriend than for a woman banker to have a boyfriend during those years...

Oct 13, 2015

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Nov 4, 2014

My only experience on the matter is as a summer analyst in NY. I had a girlfriend going in but 3 weeks in I realized I had no time to even think about her, my morals began to deteriorate, I was mesmerized by all the 'talent' around me and cheated on her. Ended up breaking up with her drunk while taking a shit and had no moral hangover about it the next day. She and I both expected it to happen, as the long-distance aspect was also a contributing factor. That said, if you can make it work, a good gf is a way to hedge against becoming bitter and unhappy.

Also, two SAs I worked with that went to the same school were dating when they started. Ended up breaking up a few weeks in. Made the rest of the summer a little awkward for them. Funny thing is, I think they both accepted the full-time offer.

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Nov 21, 2014

Oh my god I are you stalking me and relaying my life over WSO as your own?!?!?!?!???

Nov 4, 2014

Do whatever works for you - depends how needy she is with your time, and how good you are at carving time.
As a 2nd year analyst I once had a bunch of completed work sitting in my outbox (about 5-6 documents) that I released bit by bit every hour or so during Valentines day dinner during a live deal. Sht like that went a long way to keeping girlfriend, doing well at work, and having time to go out.

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Nov 5, 2014

This is a question you ask your friends, not your colleagues or acquaintances, and certainly not faceless internet usernames. That being said, having a gf/bf is manageable as a junior banker. It's not like owning a dog that will die if you don't come home and feed it throughout the day. Your gf/bf may shit on your floor if you don't play with him/her for a few days, but that's fine. Just put a paper towel over it and clean it up when you can.

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Nov 21, 2014
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