As you all know, I'm a bit older, but not one of the oldest guys on WSO, been with my wife for a while, and we're at the age where people are constantly asking us when we're gonna have kids, as if it's a guarantee. now, I realize that it's probably abnormal for us to not have and (at least currently) not want children, but I wonder if I'm alone here.
let's talk about this - do you want kids? if so, why? if not, why not?
I'll start. I don't want kids, at the moment. I'm at the age where biologically it makes sense (don't want to be an old parent), but I still just don't want them. they're expensive, slow your career (precisely at a time where my group is crushing it), a drain on other activities that are important to me, take away from time with my wife, and studies show that having children has a pretty high correlation with depression. compound that with the fact that I see friends with kids and while it may be fun to visit for a weekend, I am so glad to get back to independence, and my wife and I both look at each other with that "thank god you're on birth control" glance. finally, and maybe least importantly, there are too many fucking people on earth. why should I add to the problem?