NoFap experience

I've seen a fair number of posts about everyone struggling with jerking off all the time because of WFH (I also struggled with it). About a month ago decided to try NoFap, so I thought I'd give my experiences. You see a lot of stupid shit on reddit that's pure broscience, so this is purely my experience, none of that bullshit, just a period-by-period breakdown

Day 1
Not really a lot to say here, just a normal day, no real difference
Day 2
Slight urge to jerk it, brain felt kind of foggy, honestly felt less tired
Day 3
Starting to feel aggressive at this point, strong urge to mastrubate, tons of energy, definitely more assertive, able to work out intensely and didn't feel all that tired
Day 4 - 6
Same feelings as day 3, I legit didn't need coffee to wake up at that point. Seriously I woke up feeling refreshed as a mf

Note - my urge to mastrubate during days 4-6 was strong, felt hella sexually frustrated. I mean that shit was hard. My general productivity was significantly higher. I also started having way less anxiety. I felt very assertive in conversation, and gave way less fucks in general.

Day 7-9
My standards started going down...saw some solid 6's on walks that I thought about fucking in a heartbeat. Would've never looked at those chicks before. I also gave zero fucks about what anyone thought/said at this point. Became a total mother fucker on desk too, zero time for anyone's bs, others noticed as well...

Day 9-12
Sexual desire disappeared, felt weird honestly. Still very assertive/aggressive and tons of energy, felt great about myself

Day 12 on out
Had better days than others, relapsed once, and it was NOT fun. Severe headache the next day, very tired, very depressed. Others on Reddit mention relapse symptoms, they are very real for me, and the side effects make me not want to mastrubate in general

Results from my experience:
- More energy in general
- Became very aggressive/assertive
- Ability to work out longer
- Clearer level of thinking, it is noticeable
- Significantly more sexually frustrated
- Started giving zero fucks
- Consistent boners when I woke up
- Actually started seeing women less as objects
- More productive at home as well (not jerking off all the time allots you more time to accomplish menial tasks you'd normally put off)
- I became cleaner as well
- Also more alert
- Smaller bags under my eyes as well

Some myths I'd like to debunk:
- Women will not notice you more than they already do, the Reddit community thinks this is a thing. It's not, they're incel weirdos. Now the general aggression/assertiveness you'll put off women will notice, but that's in social situations. Chicks will not just be magically attracted to you. You'll also have lower standards due to sexual frustration, so you'll consider options you never did before
- Skin was not clearer at all. I have pretty good skin to begin with, but the small acne I had did not clear up
- Your eyes won't be brighter, this shit is not real

I would say the experience has been positive for me. I think a lot of us in high finance suffer from compulsive mastrubation addictions to porn due to high stress, and it's unhealthy. It's a real addiction no one takes seriously. And porn in general made me think of women purely as objects which was not a good thing. So for any of you out there thinking of trying NoFap out, I hope my experiences give you an idea of what you can expect

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  • Intern in PE - Other
May 20, 2021 - 6:52pm

Went the first two months of college without beating off. I was noticeably more irritable/aggressive after week 3 because I wasn't getting cooch either.

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May 20, 2021 - 7:00pm

Ngl I've been jerking off a lot more then I normally would. I've been averaging 3 times per day for the last two weeks. I tried the no nut thing before and couldn't get past the 4 day mark, it was just too hard (pun intended). I've cut back on porn so that's a plus. I'm going to give it another go soon, trying for a week this time.

  • Associate 1 in S&T - FI
May 20, 2021 - 7:03pm

Yah man that's a lot, I'd say you have an addiction at that point. Was in a similar position though, NoFap really helped get through it

May 20, 2021 - 7:12pm

Maybe it is an addiction, but is it really that bad? Masturbation itself has no negative consequences and as long as it isn't affecting my daily life to the point where I do it in the office or have an uncontrollable urge to whip it out on the subway, it's not hurting me or anyone else. Porn can be damaging but I've cut back on that quite a bit, so that's all good. But again, I want to try no nut and see about these benefits for myself.

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  • Analyst 1 in IB-M&A
May 20, 2021 - 7:13pm

There's really no need to drive yourself recklessly into aggression or depression because some dude on the internet says so. These are brain chemicals you're going up against. As long as there aren't any clinically proven health detriments around masturbation, just put it off to the back of your mind and do it every week or so when your sexual drive becomes a distraction. If you're jerking off multiple times a day chances are you have too much free time and not enough on your plate - just find some stuff to do and don't overthink "no fap"

  • Analyst 2 in IB - Gen
May 24, 2021 - 11:32am

They're not, main point of nofap is really just to get rid of porn addiction. Some people have even split off into fapping without porn as the focus (/r/pornfree)

  • Prospect in IB-M&A
May 20, 2021 - 9:22pm

It definitely helps with focus, self-confidence and energy levels. I also think that the improvements in these 3 things are most noticeable in the first 60 days but beyond that point they sort of level off.

  • Prospect in IB - CB
May 20, 2021 - 11:28pm

I have also done this and I didn't have the same benefits. I'm 18 so I masturbate once a day, but for the past two months I started doing twice and even three times a day because I'm a senior and I don't have anything to do. I did feel weaker and depressed, so I started NoFap. It was so hard I relapsed after three days but then went 20 days without jerking it. I did feel a little bit more energetic but I was still horny af. I didn't watch a lot of porn before hand. I started masturbating every 2-3 days which made me more happier and confidence. I don't think pure abstinence is a good idea but like 3-4 times a week is a good limit.

  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
May 20, 2021 - 11:35pm

yup started doing this after i got together with my gf a few months back and had an incident where i just couldnt get hard, was a little concerning, started this and feel fucking amazing

  • Intern in PE - Growth
May 21, 2021 - 2:33am

You know man, that thread is kinda what I´ve had in the back of my mind for a few weeks now. Been into some fucked up shit for the last few years, and now that I got a girl in my life, I don´t want these thoughts to ruin my relationship.

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May 21, 2021 - 3:42am

NoFap is total garbage.  Its like a magic bullet for virgins who can't talk to girls.  Instead of becoming more social which is too complicated and way out of their comfort zone, they think if they work hard keeping their hands out of their pants they get rewarded.  Lifes not that fucking easy snowflake

The only benefit is it lowers your standards and makes you into fat girls and girls with shitty personalities, I'd only recommend it if your goal is to get laid as much as possible no matter the girl.  And it also causes premature ejaculation, I "did NoFap" when my fiancé was away and surprise surprise I did not last long when she came back

And LOL to the people who say it makes you not objectify women.  I see my fiancé as much more of a sex object when I've been without sex for a few days but not right after a good fuck.

May 23, 2021 - 1:30am

Abd Allah ibn Abbas was one of the cousins of the Islamic Prophet Muhammad and he is considered to be the greatest mufassir of Qur'an. In Ibn Hazm's Al-Muhalla, he said that "marrying slave girl (concubine) is better than it, and it is better than fornication/adultery, and that "it is nothing but rubbing one's private parts until a fluid comes out." It's not ideal but also not considered Haram.

أمنيتي الوحيدة: جنسي مثلي الجنس العربدة وقذف القضيب

I bear witness that there is no deity but Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad is the messenger of Allah.

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May 21, 2021 - 7:58am

OMFG How you going to do 12 days NoFap and say what is and what isn't true lmao.

Ive one almost 90 day streaks before. Im on 10 day streak now. 

I can guarantee girls look at you differently... you need to go for longer than 12 days. It's either the increased eye contact, confidence, less approach anxiety OR they can smell the testosterone emanating from your pores. It's true. And eyes will be whiter. 

Another thing people try to debunk is deeper voice. I can assure you go for a month and you will have a deeper voice. I've been meaning to record myself pre-nofap and 1 month in to it, to prove it on reddit, but I can never be fucked. 

edit: you will flatline after 2 weeks and it makes it easier to continue the nofap 

May 21, 2021 - 8:33am

And what happens when you actually get with one of these girls who are allegedly drooling over you?  Premature ejaculation and then no sex 90 days again?

NoFap is just a coping mechanism for kids who are afraid of talking to girls and want an easy alternative.  They think if they do something difficult, they get a reward, like beating a difficult level in a video game (which I'm sure they spend way too much time playing.

May 21, 2021 - 10:29am

No you fucking dimwit. Ever heard of a tactical wank?

Girls aren't the reason to do nofap. If you did one ounce of research its to realign your dopamine receptors. 

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May 21, 2021 - 8:49am

2rigged2fail

Another thing people try to debunk is deeper voice. I can assure you go for a month and you will have a deeper voice. I've been meaning to record myself pre-nofap and 1 month in to it, to prove it on reddit, but I can never be fucked. 

Stop spewing incorrect bullshit here. There isn't a single study out there that concludes the lack of fapping increases testosterone levels in the body to a significant level of significance. In fact, there are a few studies that suggest the opposite, that increased fapping increases test levels, but to levels that aren't statistically significant. Given that testosterone is the predominant androgenic hormone affecting the pitch of your voice, there is 0 science backing your claim, but several articles suggesting the opposite. 

May 21, 2021 - 10:27am

I didnt say you get a deeper voice because of testosterone you dullard. Once you have the discipline to do it for 30+ days, we'll talk. But for now, keep wanking yourself to sleep.

May 21, 2021 - 7:58am

STOP THIS NONSENSE. turn off the porn, don't avoid what your body wants to do. also, nofap is great for focus, but also bad for preventing prostate cancer

https://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/326586

if you're getting laid 21x a month, great. but avoiding clearing the pipes is just nonsense, porn is the issue, not what your testes make.

May 21, 2021 - 8:23am

I don't get half these benefits when I stop churning my butter - I actually get worse mentally at work after a few weeks of it.

I'm not a daily sinner (self administered or with a lady) now but have been a daily doer for both methodologies in the past and they are equally rough mentally for me, but for different reasons. My girlfriend and I are long distance but she has a much higher sex drive and when we live together it often drains me after a few weeks (champagne problems, I know).

Treat it the same way you would any health thing - develop a routine and do it in moderation. I know guys who are on both ends of the spectrum - one swears by abstaining from it for focus, the other needs it to focus. YMMV.

May 21, 2021 - 8:44am

I would not recommend. I go long distance with my gf with 2-3 weeks between visits. Did nofap whilst not seeing her, literally lasted about 2 thrusts before finishing, just embarrassing. Lasted pretty much all weekend too, couldn't go over a few minutes.

  • Associate 1 in S&T - FI
May 21, 2021 - 10:37am

I think that guys who haven't had a lot of sex and do NoFap struggle with premature ejaculation. If you've had several gf's with consistent sexual routine, it won't be an issue IMO. If anything it's made me go longer, and if I get off too early I can immediately get it back up and keep going

  • Analyst 1 in IB - Ind
May 21, 2021 - 10:24am

I figured out I was living with high functioning depression after speaking with my doctor about not getting morning wood or boners unless I was having sex ever since I was 16.

Sucks to suck.

May 21, 2021 - 10:56am

Anyone read the Muhammad Ali biography. Ali talks about how many renowned boxers restrain from sex to help them fight. Then he talks about the time when he and his buddy were about to compete in a tournament the next day that determined whether they could go pro or not. They get prostitutes and get laid. The next day they both end up losing to underdogs in the preliminary round although they both were projected to have good results. Later he tells how he had sex with a girl the night before his only amateur loss in Louisville. He talks about Sonny Liston who would abstain from sex, building up a "tremendous store of vitality and drive." They would then take out this energy on opponents. He later ends the chapter with "A fighter who has sex regular, the way these doctors talk, would be a placid, easygoing pussycat with no drive, no resentment, no anger. The doctors don't know the fight game".

May 21, 2021 - 11:46am

Nothing against you sharing your experience, but I'm gonna share my opinion that much of what you felt (being more assertive/productive, headaches after relapse, etc) was a strong placebo. That being said, placebos can lead to real results 

  • Intern in IB - Ind
May 21, 2021 - 2:42pm

Though I see no point in quitting, I've severely decreased my frequency and I'm better off. Pre-COVID I'd been a 2 or 3x a day kind of guy. It's been a subconscious shift but I'll only do it 2 or 3x a week now. Definitely in a good place mentally and don't feel like it affects my productivity. It's definitely the most addictive 'drug' out there. I completely agree with your point that girls will not notice. There's such a misconception that jerking off or not affects your 'game' with women. If you're good you're good.

  • Intern in IB-M&A
May 21, 2021 - 3:45pm

There are a lot of benefits to nofap. I think the main one is getting away from porn which has the potential to really mess you up. If you go too far off the deep end you can start getting turned on by some weird ass stuff, which can definitely mess with things in your day to day. Also if you're on a long streak you're not super horny all the time which for me saves a lot of time and keeps me out of awkward situations (like checking out girls much less often)

May 21, 2021 - 4:21pm

this reads like something straight off the /r/steroids OT thread which ends in the guy being arrested

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/
  • Analyst 3+ in IB - Ind
May 21, 2021 - 9:19pm

One thing I haven't heard often when talking about this stuff is the sleepiness and fatigue you get after doing it. If I do it in the morning, I feel lethargic the entire day. If I do it at night, it's much harder for me to get out of bed in the morning. Ngl I still do it at least once every couple days. Also, doing it more than 2x a day literally makes the third time pretty painful and much harder to complete. 

Does no one else feel the above? I'm also the type of guy who gets super sleepy after having any Starbucks or coffee so maybe I'm just weird. 

  • Associate 1 in S&T - FI
May 21, 2021 - 9:26pm

Yah bro that's the biggest noticeable change for me, you have tons more energy. Wanking literally exhausts everything I have for the day, you're not the only one

May 22, 2021 - 8:11am

Used to be addicted to jerking off in middle and high school, was doing it 2-3 times a day for that 7 year stretch. Now that I'm in college I switched to girls and haven't jerked off in a long time, good fix and more fun.

  • VP in RE - Comm
May 22, 2021 - 10:46am

Know an IB analyst who was addicted to porn. One day he started using money to get pornstar escorts in NYC. I think he saw quite a few of them. He had decent savings given his income. He was able to achieve his dream. Later on he mentioned he kicked the fapping habit but if he got cravings he would just get another pornstar escort. I think it was a fantasy for him.

May 22, 2021 - 7:37pm

I don't get doing NoFap for more than a week. Whenever I didn't jerk off for too long I would just have a wet dream, resetting any biological effects I would get up until that point. Maybe it makes sense if you're addicted to porn, but I've never been so I can't tell.

May 23, 2021 - 4:58am

My record for this was 153 days. I developed consistent healthy morning habits like meditating, reading the Bible, and journaling, and nightly habits like self-reflection. While there were times when I experienced better energy levels and mental clarity, I should say my balls fucking hurt. All I ever thought about was sex. I made some adjustments. 
 

While I agree that porn shifts your brain to objectify people and should be avoided, I think something needs to be said about stigmatizing masturbating without porn. I shifted my strategy from nofap to popping one out each night before I go to bed, even on the nights I don't really feel like it (typically do this after I pray lol). The reasons I switched to this are as follows:

1) Ejaculating releases melatonin which helps me sleep better.
2) It regulates my hormones to healthy levels during the day time.
3) If I consistently just jerk off to mental images, my temptation for caving to porn goes way down.
4) I downloaded Covenant Eyes on my phone. It essentially locks all nude content from all your browsers, providing an additional barrier to break through before you relapse. Surprisingly helps a lot especially if you have a friend to do it with. 
5) McConaughey said jerking off 3-4 times per week were rookie numbers 
 

I came to the conclusion that porn was unhealthy, but depriving my sexuality in the opposite way was arguably just as unhealthy. I needed to find a balance. After years of meditation, I think I finally came to a place where I can consistently be relaxed from releasing all the time without having the urge to cave to porn. I've read a lot about how guys are "more confident" with girls in social situations from nofap but that hasn't really applied to me. I've had both success and fuckups during both nofap and masturbating phases, so I'm not convinced there's a correlation between retaining your semen and getting more girls. 
 

I think the ultimate point is, get help if you need it. Porn addiction is something next to impossible to cure by yourself. Almost, if not all of you are highly ambitious individuals and I don't want any of you to have an addiction that gets in the way of you living your dream life, so I'm here if any of you want to PM me because this is a struggle every guy deals with. 

May 25, 2021 - 11:41am

Point number 5 is the only thing I'm listening to in this thread

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May 25, 2021 - 11:42am

Seriously the number of people saying 2-3x a day for X year stretches, gonna be hard for me to ever shake an interviewee's hand without thinking damn this lil fucker probably just jerked off twice in the lobby bathroom 

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