Secured top BB offer but feeling empty

Secured offer at a solid IB group at one of the top BBs but feeling very empty inside. All of those hours put into interview prep and not going out or having fun in the last year. Lost a few friends on this recruiting journey also (some can't understand the time commitment needed and we grew apart).

FWIW I'm not even interested in going out and getting drunk every night anymore. I know this makes me sound like a nerd but I'd rather spend time on learning more about investing as I grew to like researching stocks and want to work at an equity l/s fund down the line. 

I feel like I'm becoming anti-social (everything I think about is finance-related & how to get the best bank & the best group) but I don't want to be. Does anyone else feel like they can't just flip off the switch right after recruiting season is over and you suddenly have all of this free time and don't know what to do with it?

 

i went back to what brought me joy (playing basketball, eating out etc), so thats what i have been doing with my free time

 

It sounds like you’ve grown to have an actual interest in finance — what’s wrong with that? There’s nothing wrong with liking investing, industry research and so on, just about every successful person in the industry has a genuine passion for finance.

Embrace and incorporate this new found passion into your life like any other hobby, spend some time doing it, find friends who are into it. Finishing recruiting doesn’t mean you have to forcefully cut finance out of your life.

 
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It sounds like you've grown to have an actual interest in finance - what's wrong with that? There's nothing wrong with liking investing, industry research and so on, just about every successful person in the industry has a genuine passion for finance.

Embrace and incorporate this new found passion into your life like any other hobby, spend some time doing it, find friends who are into it. Finishing recruiting doesn't mean you have to forcefully cut finance out of your life.

I have the same feeling that you have. I totally agree with this response. All my former bosses that I knew all have a lot of interest in their industries and finance. 
To be more specific, I had this Director telling me that a lot of the time seniors may require ABCD for us to deliver, but it is up to us to go beyond those deliverables. And I think the motivation to beyond those deliverables are true interest in the industry. 
I’m now just super excited that I can actually focus on school and learning. It is exciting to receive an offer, but it’s also just an event. 

 

Step 1: go grab a few mates that live with/near you or are in your friend circle

step 2: set aside $100 for drinks only and make sure that you spend it all - get drunk live a little

step 3: don't be the first person to say they are going home. 

step 4: shoot your shot with a girl you like, worst thing that happens is if they say no

step 5: FOR THE LOVE OF EVERYTHING DON'T MENTION THAT "IM AT A TOP GROUP IN A TOP BB" nothing screams insecurity more than that. 

 

Felt this way too for like a week or two after I got my offer. But most of this was because I spent a lot of time in my room with nothing to do other than think about this shit. Once I started actively making plans again and going out(doesn't have to be drinking but it helps), your mind clears up a lot as you have fun creating memories and stuff. Even if it's things you do by yourself like playing video games, sports, or working out, keep your mind busy on other things. And also try to limit your time spent on WSO. If you can, block this site completely for a month or something to just purge yourself from the finance recruiting world.  

 

Looks like someone couldn’t land HL RX and ended up at Laz M&A

You’re are either making a dumb joke (hence my response) or flexing your offer - neither will help OP and I’m sure his offer is great. Not everyone wants EB RX above everything 

 

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