What's it like at a high school reunion?

I'm not far off into my career to have gone to one, but to those who have, how was it?

I'm assuming it's a lot of dudes flexing about their corporate success. Do you think that's a fair assessment?

To those with experience, any other insights?

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Apr 3, 2019

I got my 5 year (closer to 6 now) supposedly coming up soon. Should be interesting. I don't really have any beef with anyone from my class, and have no intention to try to flex on people. Don't really care if people try to flex on me--I'm doing quite well relative to my class and I don't get insulted by that type of stuff. I'd be much more jealous of someone out exploring the world compared to someone who thinks they're hot shit because they work back office at State Street and thinks they're #WallStreet or whatever. I think it'll be nice to see the people who I didn't stay or even become friends with, and hopefully everyone is more mature and amicable.

But seriously, people who think they should be flexing their iNvEsTmEnT bAnKeR nuts need to get their fuckin reality checked. Its a job, and good for you for getting it. Trying to one up people with it doesn't make you cool, it just makes you an asshole. Like seriously who cares if people know what a job in finance is or not. Have real human interaction and just connect with people. Not everything needs to be a contest.

Apr 3, 2019

Correct me if I'm wrong, but are you saying your high school reunions start at 5 years and then have annual reunions?

Apr 3, 2019

Nah its like every 5 I think. I was just saying that our 5 year reunion is gonna be more like 6 years just cus they havent yet scheduled the thing and that 5 year window is closing.

Also learn how to kick field goals.

Apr 3, 2019

A story I saw on the internet:

A guys approaches the restaurant where his reunion is taking place and sees a former classmate smoking a cig outside. The guy smoking the cig says, "There is a lot of unfinished business in that room."

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Apr 4, 2019

I had close to 0 friends in high school.

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Apr 4, 2019

Somehow I doubt that's changed

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Apr 5, 2019
Esuric:

I had close to 0 friends in high school.

I'm not shocked my guy. I did not attend my HS reunion.

Apr 4, 2019

I have fond memories of HS and have hung out with a couple ppl from back then now and again and enjoyed it.

That said, 0% chance I would ever go back to my hometown for a reunion. Maybe I'd consider it if I still lived nearby and Netflix was experiencing an outage, but I still think I'd rather get in a couple extra hours of sleep even then.

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Apr 4, 2019

The girl you had a crush on still won't sleep with you just because you're a banker now, if that's what you're asking

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Apr 5, 2019

Make no mistake, that's what's being asked. Good news is she's fat now.

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Apr 6, 2019
Banking Sucks Guys:

The girl you had a crush on still won't sleep with you just because you're a banker now, if that's what you're asking

Hometown girls are pretty easy to smash when you come back around, especially if you upgraded to a superior city.

OP, i'd recommend you try and fuck that girl you had a crush on. However, if you are from a small town like me, chances are she is already married with a dog, a mortgage, several extra pounds and is planning for a kid.

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Apr 4, 2019

I never understood the point of a high school reunion

Apr 4, 2019

Eh I'd be down to go to a 10yr instead of a 5yr. You're a little more confident (less tryna flex) and just see what everyone's up to, maybe laugh about dumb shit you took way to seriously]

At least, that's what I think it'll be like

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Apr 4, 2019

5 year seems too early (just barely out of college at that point), but I'll consider going to 10 year if it works into my schedule. I haven't really talked to any high school friends since basically graduation, and it wouldn't be bad to catch up. I'm cringing just thinking about all the pathetic flexing that will probably be going on, though.

Apr 5, 2019

I've never heard of a five year reunion. It seems everyone I know had their first one at ten but I felt it was like scrolling through Facebook. Lots of people humble bragging about their children and talking about how they thought life would be different after ten years. It was pretty pointless.

Apr 5, 2019

Never gone to one since I'm not a loser lmao

Have you ever thought of investing in real estate?

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Apr 5, 2019

The 10 year reunion was based on the idea that, after 10 years, most people would have settled down, married, and had a few kids. Most would be set in their 9-5 job-for-life. Today things are much less standard and many people in their 30's are still single and without children, and still trying to decide on their career path.

Looking at my class, I see very few "surprises" in how people ended up. No one is surprised that I work in finance (I was a geek in high school) and generally people have ended up in jobs with pay that matched their educational standards and ambitions.

In terms of the people, most have matured and the guys who might have picked on you for being a geek have outgrown that behavior. People are much more open to talking to people outside their clique and, generally, less worried about appearing "cool." As for girls, what you tend to notice is the hot girls in HS were the ones who peaked early and have often gone down hill. Girls that you ignored may have blossomed into really beautiful girls with great careers and interesting personalities. Guys who were shy and quiet will likely have grown in stature as their careers have taken off and their confidence has increased accordingly.

I'm sure a few of you have this fantasy of rolling in as some hot-shot hedge fund manager in a saville row suit with a babe on your arm. In reality, most people won't really care about your success, or failure, as most people are too busy focusing on their own lives and families. Also, you don't want to be that bitter guy who shows up and has a point to prove over the way you were treated.

Apr 5, 2019

Go ahead and end the thread after this one. This is pretty much it with the occasionally drunk people talking about the days when they peaked thrown in as well.

Apr 5, 2019

This is fucking depressing......does anybody actually have any cool stories ? I'll kick things off....

At my 5 Yr Reunion one of my buds from HS made a passing comment about how a relatively nerdy kid was chatting up a hot girl. That girls HS boyfriend took offense to that and I, my buddy and a third buddy (who at the time was an Army LT who had just finished ranger training) got into a scuffle with him and his friends getting us kicked out of the local watering hole and promptly ending the festivities at ~1:30 AM (30 mins before closing...suburb bars suck).

Not exactly "rolling in as some hot-shot hedge fund manager in a saville row suit with a babe on your arm" but I'm pretty sure every motherfucker in there will remember that when Y10 rolls around....

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Apr 5, 2019

Idk why you're getting MS'd so much but I love a good scuffle. Seems like some fun hometown shit.

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Apr 7, 2019

Apr 5, 2019

My school is a bit different but we have alumni day every year since graduating high school and essentially we go back and talk to the current high schoolers about the college experience. This year was my first time going back post grad and it's pretty cool to see what everyone I went to middle and high school with doing. A bunch of law and med school kids. My culture really knows nothing about a Finance and Consulting. Either way it's pretty nice to see how far everyone come especially since we were all low income

Apr 5, 2019

I grew up in a suburb of a tier 2/3 city that is not heavily finance focused. I went to a high-school a little further away from the city. At my 5 year only one other person even knew what private equity was. If you are trying to impress someone with finance unless your high school fed particularly well into high finance, most people, especially girls when they hear finance they don't know the difference between working selling insurance at Northwest Mutual and working at Blackstone.

Other than that it was fun, drinks were so much cheaper than I could have possibly imagined (Shoutout to suburb bars) In 5 years basically nothing had changed, except some people had definitely taken some serious punches over the years. Most were still cheerful people but career wise couldn't really speak to anyone on the same page,

Apr 5, 2019

If you're from one of the Type A cities (NY, SF, LA, maybe DC) then I have to imagine all the one-upmanship is insufferable.

I'm from a smaller midwestern town and if anyone tried to flex about their Wall St career at a reunion they'd get laughed out of the room, nobody cares about that shit or even understands what it means. If you're lucky, people will hear "banker" and think you were at the center of the financial crisis instead of thinking you're the guy at the chase branch who opens accounts.

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Apr 5, 2019

I haven't been to one yet but I genuinely hope someone plans a 10 year reunion (which is next year for me). I actually want to talk to people that chose a different, arguable more interesting, career path than I have. I find most of my friends now are from a similar socioeconomic class, very career driven, and type-A. Going to a highschool reunion might be a way to connect with people outside of my circle who has shared a common past, albeit briefly.

Apr 5, 2019

The guy who we voted "class clown" in high school got drunk off his ass. At one point he blacked out and fell right on his face. - like if the leaning tower of pisa just kept going. 20 seconds of everyone frozen and staring. Then he shakes, stands up, brushes himself off, stumbles to a microphone and gives a 20 minute rambling speech about how amazing high school was.

He went home that night with one of our high school band clarinet players - think glasses, acne, overweight - who is now very attractive competitive runner for a major shoe brand.

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Apr 5, 2019

I'll be 27 next year. I graduated at 17. Nobody has hit me up yet to go to this shit. I was really looking forward to spending a solid 5 minutes leaned back in my chair fantasizing about showing up to blow smoke in everyone's faces and throw 5s at their wives' feet and then ignoring the message. Such a message, I have yet to receive!

heister:

Look at all these wannabe richies hating on an expensive salad.

https://arthuxtable.com/

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Apr 6, 2019

I moved back to Europe shortly after undergrad - told a few of my friends that I regretted not going to my ten year reunion to see them. They all told me it would have been weird if I had bothered flying over across the world just for what essentially consists of them going to the same dive bar they meet up at regularly.
All my friends work easy jobs, enjoy life, don't stress on a trading floor, don't try to one up each other or stay at the office until 2am every day closing a deal. They are content with a micro brew. They moved to cheaper locations and own a house usually 5 years after high school and tons of land. It took me 15 years since high school to buy a house in London.

Simplicity is beautiful - my friends in high school were simple and I miss them. I should have gone to my reunion and regret not taking the flight. On the bright side I went to one of said friend's wedding recently and that felt a bit like a mini high school reunion. Love them folks. I miss my American high school. Life is easy on the west coast - they even prepared me a bunch of "brownies" when I showed up and picked me up at the airport in one of my friend's busted out old buick. I get shivers just thinking about them - going to go call some of them this weekend as a tear rolls down my cheek and I think of all of my buds from high school I haven't seen in ages.
Six of them made it to my wedding in London five years ago - two of them saved for three months just for the plane ticket. I fucking love them so much and I am not even drunk!

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Apr 6, 2019

I wish everyone friends like this

Apr 6, 2019

No one cares about Europe

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Apr 7, 2019

Damn, reading this just made me emotional.

I'm in my early 20s now but I am just reminiscing on the past times and thinking about what things will be like in the future and reminiscing even more.

I remember the summer before my first internship, I would be eagerly looking into the LinkedIns of my first co-workers, understanding where they all went and deep diving into their career history. Nowadays, I barely LinkedIn check anyone, co-workers of mine just come and go and I have lost a lot of my eager youth

Just looking back and reflecting... what a life we all live!

Apr 7, 2019

Love this. Real friends are the ones you can talk to after a year and it feels like no time has passed.

Apr 6, 2019

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Apr 7, 2019

Same for me

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