Associate Targeting Me

What would you do in a situation where (as an analyst) an associate is constantly targeting you? This person is nice to all the other analysts but is constantly rude to me, ignores me when I try to be nice or even say hi, and sends me passive aggressive messages and emails. I don’t know why he acts like this toward me when I haven’t done anything to him. I work for a smaller group with only a couple associates so hard to avoid him. What you would do in this case?

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Talk to him/HR depending on the severity of it. Workplace discrimination and harassment are serious issues and not worth tolerating. He’s likely done it to other analysts in the past.

Legally they cannot retaliate against you but of course depending on his position you should expect reasonable repercussions. More than likely though if you just talk to him 1:1 about how you’re feeling he will understand and cut it out.

 

1. Ponder over your past interactions/ behavior. Something happened that ticked him off.

2. Talk to him.

3. If that doesn't work:

- treat him same way. Be nice to other associates, and formal with this guy.

- loop in his supervisor.

I wonder if there is some gender/ race related factor at play.

 
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I would talk to other analysts/associates that you're close to, because if this person really disliked you, then I'm sure they shit-talked you at some point to someone. And if they didn't, you still might get some context – for example, it could be that they're nice to others at certain points, but are dicks at other points that you're not aware of. I'm definitely not saying this is the case but it is a possibility. And if this is not the case, then hopefully the rest of the juniors now know they you're being unfairly treated.

I don't know how productive it is to confront this person if they're already treating you poorly, honestly it could make it worse. Would treat them at arms length and try very hard to get staffed with other Associates whenever possible. If you suspect some form of discrimination, then definitely do the supervisor / HR route

 

Maybe I’m not socially and emotionally competent enough to navigate it, but I’m not sure what you could say to accuse an associate that’s treating you unfairly (and has the power to make your life more hell) that he wouldn’t deny. Will probably make him more mad. What you need with him is good interactions. Bring him flowers and White Castle next Monday. Tell him thank you for giving you more experience than the rest of the analysts, and make sure the seniors see it.

 
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Tell him to fuck off or you’ll drop his name and address on WSO

 

Put an ad on Craig's List that says “I have a car/something nice and I just need to get rid of it for free. Call at this number and we can set something up.” We did this to a buddy in highschool and he got at least 10 phone calls an hour for 3 days until we deleted the post

 

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