Calling someone "bud" or "buddy"

Bud and buddy are the bane of my existence. Unless you’re Canadian or talking to a child, there’s no excuse.

“Buddy” is attempting to incite violence

if it’s in third person it’s fine “me and my buddy…”

Worse than this is calling someone “Guy”.

Ok Guy.

Hey Guy.

Guy!

How is this any different from saying "man", "bro", etc?

"What's up man" is the exact same as "What's up bud". I think you're referring to the tone in which it's delivered, which certainly makes a difference

Listen, bud. You're gonna have lots of experiences in life that you don't enjoy, if this is the hardest thing you come across that tests your patience consider yourself lucky. Personally, I laugh when someone tries to speak in a condescending manner because it tells me they feel the need to make me feel inferior to stroke their ego (i.e. they actually view me as a threat). 

Take that as you will. 

When I was a first year (~15 years ago), I addressed someone a few years older who I liked/looked up to as bud (i.e. "hey, what's up bud?") at a social event in a way that I intended to be friendly/endearing. A few years later, when we were on close terms, he (when very drunk) told me how much it pissed him off, but he realized soon after that it was not intended to be condescending and moved past it because I am just a very casual / non-calculating person. I never even had it on my radar as a term of which to be wary. But alas, it appears to be a landmine for some people.

I call my much younger brother “bud”. If you don’t want to incite violence, stick to calling people “chief” or “hoss”.

There's a VP in my office that does this. Honestly not a bad guy, but he was A2A so he's on the younger side...might be overthinking this but assuming he subconsciously does it to flex authority lol

Ok buddy boy 

You got it champ

i refer to other friends in conversations as buddy if that counts? like i'll say "yeah my buddy was there" - def is tone-dependent

"buddy" always triggers me. makes me feel like an infant and the person is inflicting/implying some sort of power imbalance. 

boss/champ is just blue collar talk that should be left in the deli at breakfast

Its maybe only sort of ok if someone is ~20+ years older than me, even then it's a bit of a wtf

Have a friend that goes 'buddyyyyy' whenever I do something stupid. So yeah tone dependent but not really positive when referring to me lol

I like to be reffeered as (bud/buddy) as my

Pronouns

Ok, Buddy Buddy. We are back in business on Bluestar!

It reminds me of South Park: 

Only one guy in my office that I consider very ready to backstab anyone, aka a true snake. Oh, and he calls me "buddy"....

Is “boss” acceptable?

If it's your best friend then it's okay bc you are buddies. But I think you mean the average jo calling you buddy or the guy that came from money. Yeah super weird I just think okay and move on

Get them back and call them “pal”

Depends on who you're talking to really. I don't necessarily appreciate it but I understand 99 times out of 100 its not mean to be malicious in any way. It can come off as somewhat condescending tho -- that's my initial reaction to it.

How should one feel at work when someone junior to you says ‘hey man’

This surprises me. I never had a problem with anyone using buddy or bud with me. Seems like a term of affinity. What is the problem?

What about “pipsqueak” or “champ”?

"Yeahhhhhhh buddyyy" - Ronnie Coleman

Growing up skinny and short, bud, buddy, pain.

Come to SF everyone calls each other "bro"

only dudes that don't fuck call other guys bud or buddy, end of story

Bud Fox has entered the chat*

So what’s an alternative? Call each person by name is fine. But after a while it’s a bit cold no? So what’s a better term of affinity?

When you work in middle market M&A in Chicago or Minneapolis you get used to it, bud

"Bud" or "buddy" is so condescending. That's why I call everyone "superchief." This has totally NOT gotten me into multiple bar fights, and I would highly recommend using this one as a sign of respect for your peers.

i only say buddy when at the gym

in the office I prefer to use daddy. when my VP may shit on me I tell him "daddy chill" 

Was gonna take shots at this post, but then realized that I indeed, only call 'buddy' when it's a 6 year old or when I'm using it condescendingly, like when I'm confronting someone who cut in line

So many condescinding NE'ers in here saying calling your friends bud or buddy is somehow negative. Let's hear what happens when I call you dude? Because I bet you have no real idea of what that word means either. Down this part of things, bud or buddy isn't even negative in the slightest. The opposite. I mean for fuck's sake I go to the local gin joint and the British bartenders greet me (and my buds) with "hey buds, what's up?" They couldn't give two shits (and it's couldn't btw, not could give less. GRAMMAR you muppets! I learned from them as much as they learned from us).

Sure thing, kiddo

This is Miami Pal, where you can't even tell the players without a program!

All of you who get so rilled up about the use of buddy are likely the lowest performers in your groups.  For fucks sake why would you care?