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Go have sex pls
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Yeah chief I'm sorry but anime girls don't count
Didn’t realize how many nerds there are in IB wow
Can you elaborate on this? That would be more helpful
This guy is an idiot who never has any useful advice. My advice is to not take yourself too seriously all the time and just learn to smile because that will make others more comfortable around you. The funniest guy I have ever met in IB does not drink any alcohol, but has stories to tell in any situation.
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Thanks. This was the only insightful comment thus far. I sorta relate in that I am also incredibly knowledgeable in what I do. I am friendly with everyone I work with but I am not super extraverted/outgoing. I may try drinking responsibly tbh.
There are certain medications you can take to reduce the affects of alcohol. Look into it.
I never get this. Back when banking was fun and you’d go out to bars and clubs with the class and people got shit faced I get it. But now you’re barely in the office the culture has become super professional might as well just hire smart grinders who have passion and will crank out pages no mistakes…
Analysts and associates made most of the decisions as they interacted with the interns the most. The analysts and associates missed the freedom they had in university and only got a ton of company happy hours when the interns needed to be wooed. The interns that were able to socialize with the twenty-somethings still missing college ended up with the best reviews.
This is a very short term point of view. If the banks only hired grinders with no social skills for the next 10 years then who are the leaders at the bank going to be down the road? Hiring and culture are long term strategies. Before a 22 year old nerd can grind away on a deck there needs to be clients to do work for. Someone has to be out drumming up business and those nerds that are shit socially are not the type to do it.
Smile more
Def trying :)
You don't deserve to smile, or happiness or true love because you're too serious and have no friends LMFAOOOO
I said that in a jokingly way, but seriously. One piece of advice I got from my sophomore internship was to smile more and have better energy. I took that advice seriously and every interaction I had started with a smile and it has been a game changer. Not only have I had more success dating, my SA experience went phenomenally well. People enjoyed talking to me, being around me, and it's done wonders. It makes others feel comfortable and brings positive emotions. I know it can be hard to fake but it becomes natural after a while.
My comment was genuine as well. And ya - that totally makes sense and thank you for going into detail about that! Glad to hear that it worked out for you and I hope to see results in the future.
Smoke a lil za?
LMAO ofc I love smoking. Don’t do it too much when I am going out tho cuz bud makes me quiet asf lol
Nah I feel that. As other have said, alcohol is great. Go buy some nice shit, no cheap tequila. Knock a couple casamigo pineapples back and i think you’ll be cool
Make a habit of watching standup comedy. Gives you a good base of jokes and one liners and can sort of teach you how to work a room if you let it.
Holy shit this kid is autistic. I can just imagine him in the room during an ultra-serious DD meeting trying to do a Jerry Seinfeld impression "So what's the deal with a stalking horse bidder? Do we need to get a restraining order on this horse or what am I right ladies and gentlemen!?!?!"
Bro I’m geeking
nice post fanboys, merits a comment from me
Have you tried psychedelics? I recommend LSD and/or psilocybin.
I don't know if you do this already, but I would work out more and read more long-form news (more like the Economist, for example).
Working out serves multiple functions. It will give you more confidence as you feel fitter, and it will give you more energy without relying on caffeine and other chemicals. Your mood will also improve, regardless if you're working out indoors or outdoors.
Reading long-form news will allow you to connect with other people more easily. Everyone has topics that they love to chat about, but no one knows if their chatting partner will know what they're talking about unless you hint that you have a working knowledge of the discussed topic. It could also be interesting for you as you might be learning more about something that you already have some foundational knowledge of.
I have a very similar personality, not talking a lot when everyone else is having a conversation is the big thing that people notice and they generally assume something is wrong but the reality is most of the time they are talking about something I don't care about or I don't have anything of value to add to the conversation beyond what is already being said, not for lack of knowledge but not much point in repeating what everyone else is saying just to be heard. In my experience extroverts talk simply for the sake of talking, generally not adding much value to the conversation but it is still perceived as engagement so it isn't noticed that what they are saying is what someone else said two minutes prior. Often times people forget that listening to what others are saying is actually the more important part of the conversation. I will say that one of the benefits of being more of an observer of the conversation and speaking only when you have something of value to add is that people tend to actually listen when you do speak up.
Over the years I've essentially had to teach myself how to fake interest in what people are talking about, recognize when I'm not engaging, and learn social cues so I know when I'm not being "normal". A lot of people love to talk, one of the best things you can do is ask questions, then you don't have to speak and it's perceived as though you are engaging. I'm in my 30s now so I don't even bother with faking it outside of work anymore, if people aren't interesting then I'm not going to bother pretending I want to be around them.
Thanks for the helpful insight VP! Totally agree
Similar personality type to you and OP, you've described my thought processes and experiences to a T. Especially that everyone listens to you when you do speak. Someone actually once said to me "you don't talk a lot but when you do, its usually good".
OP I'd obviously +1 what this guy said.
Some other tidbits:
* Be a yes man. This should be taken with a grain of salt, obviously have boundaries but if you want to step outside your comfort zone a bit more, say yes to all opportunities that come your way without (or barely) thinking. Just do it. At least once. If it's hanging out with new people, a new activity, whatever. If the opportunity comes just say yes. Even if you have a feeling you might not like it. If you end up being right, fine, you never have to do it again. But if you do end up liking it, the new people etc. it can open up your social life a bit, if that's what you're after.
* Learn the subtle smile. It's like engaging the muscles on your face EVER SO SLIGHTLY. Solves the resting bitch face thing. Makes people think you're engaged (you naturally look less despondent).
* Make good eye contact with people when talking to them.
* Learn to be curious about other people (if you don't dislike them ofc). By asking good questions, you actually rarely have to speak ever.
TL;DR OP isn't "too serious" he's just autistic degenerate_monkey
seriously wtf are these posts nowadays
Where clown makeup everywhere you go.
Lmao def go to WashU (re: "semi-target, T15")
Something I heard that helped me a lot with this: It's not about being interesting, it's about being interested.
Most people just want to talk about themselves so if you show interest and ask engaging questions (i.e., not yes/no questions) then it goes a long way.
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