I feel lost in life and lack purpose? What should I do

I’m in my early 30s and have been feeling completely lost and empty. Most days, I struggle to find any sense of meaning or purpose in my life, and it’s starting to weigh heavily on me. It feels like I’m just letting time slip away, with each day bringing me closer to death, yet I’m unsure of how to truly live.

I’ve never been someone who has done much with their life. For instance, many of my friends are passionate about traveling, but I’ve never been interested in it, it actually feels draining to me.

I’ve noticed I struggle to be present in the moment. Whether I’m attending events, or even visiting friends/family, my mind is often not present. I find myself stuck in my own little bubble, just waiting for it to be over so I can go home. Yet, when I’m back home, I look back and realize how quickly the time passed, and I regret not fully engaging or appreciating those moments. This happens with almost everything in my life.

Work feels meaningless to me. I go in every day, but it feels like I’m just going through the motions for a salary, which I need to survive. But then I question, what’s the point of all of it if my life lacks any real meaning?

I struggle to sleep at night because I feel I've not accomplished anything during the day and have no fulfilment so I just stay up thinking about how I've wasted the day and done nothing so I feel unfulfilled to sleep.

I often feel lonely and empty, even when I’m surrounded by people. I have no trouble meeting others or even meeting and dating girls, I even regularly have girls I've dated in the past saying how much they like me and to become official in a relationship, but I always feel nothing back and none of it fills the void I feel inside.

I don’t know where else to turn. Has anyone else felt this way? How can I improve myself and find a sense of meaning and fulfilment?

2 Comments
 

As you said you’re in your early 30s - what’s stopping you from figuring out what you like from now on? Many people find a passion for things much later than 30 in life. You’re not born with a pre set passion, you’re going to have to try different things and figure out what gives you enjoyment - think of it as a good thing you already figured it out that travelling isn’t one of them so that’s crossed of the list! And in terms of living in the moment maybe think of it as respect - give the people around you your time and respect.

 

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