Silencing The Demons
AN1 doing coverage. Dreamt of this job from the first day my freshman year, and I knew what I was signing up for when I got into this business. What's been rattling around in my kitchen is the loneliness part. Sure I'm close with the other analysts, but not folks I'd call up to truly chill out. Most of my friends didn't push hard to get into IB/consulting or really any other "hard" finance job. Over the past few years, trying to separate myself and try to even break into the industry just broke a lot of friendships. Most of my friends are just content with whatever they have. Idk why I've just found myself to be somewhere between hating myself and being lonely. Maybe it's just trying to generate a bodily response other than being focused for endless hours of the day, but I'm starting to feel like Truman. Everyday is a day moving closer to money and success and feels further and further from anything worth having. It's like I'm just waiting on time to pass. If anyone has tips to fight loneliness and a general what the fuck is it all for plague, I'd appreciate it. Thanks boys.
If your friendships have been severed because of your career choices those people aren’t your real friends
I have a group of 15-20 friends I grew up with. I moved away to pursue banking and the ear of my friends (for the most part) still love back home doing whatever they pursued
These guys still hang out weekend, while o generally only make it back home 2 or 3 times a year
Nothing has changed and we always pick up where we left off
If you are looking for friendship / companionship while you are in the trenches / the day to day I suggest you look toward specific interest groups of things your interested in. Can be anything to ultimate frisbee to video games to anime to working out (literally anything your interested in) to bridge the gap
Chances are, wherever you are, there are people who have similar interests as you, you
Just have to find them and not be ashamed of utilizing non traditional methods (such as an online meetup group or whatever)
Other suggestion is to get a GF
Other thing I’ll say is that as a fellow guy who is probably older than you (29), you’ll eventually come to realize that the world has no sympathy for you and does not feel sorry for you.
You’re going to have to go through shit and just figure it out. And that’s okay.
If you were a girl you’d probably have 100+ simps lining up to comfort you / listen to you.
Not the case if you’re a guy. No one really cares. Just the way it is.
Godspeed