Not Treated Well by Other Interns
I’m genuinely in a weird spot right now. There are times when another intern and I speak normally, and we’ll say hey, whats up, all that.
But in group discussions I can say something and people just ignore me. Or if a group of interns are talking and I come over to say something to try getting along, I just straight up get ignored while they respond to other people. It’s so odd, bc it’s not like I’m interrupting people or talking over them, so I feel weirdly shunned by the intern class.
Honestly tho, I don’t rly see myself becoming tight with any of them just bc of how different in personalities we are. But still, I’ve never had this type of thing happen before, and I get along well with full-timers, so I know it’s not like a lack of corporate etiquette or anything like that.
Almost feels unsalvageable bc everytime I try to include myself, it just falls flat. I plan to lateral to a different bank anyway once I’m full time, but still I’d rather not have my first yr of working be awkward.
Kinda curious how I should go abt this, or if I should just treat work as work. Sucks bc I heard ppl made great friends as analysts from ppl before me.
Weird. Not like it matters (would be pissed if our interns excluded one of their own regardless) but, are there any obvious discrepancies between you and the others? Are you the only non-target? Only target? Only one from out-of-state? Show up later than everyone? Only non-white/asian? Take all the “jump balls” that analysts throw up and leave no work for the rest? Leave earlier than the rest? Only one who talks about family connections/wealth? Only non-wealthy intern? Only sweat in the office? Only intern with external hobbies?
Context would be helpful. There’s usually always something, but regardless, don’t mind them and don’t let that get to you. They obviously aren’t the ones making any decisions at the end of the day, and best to just focus on connecting with your ANs/ASSs.
I was grinding my gears trying to figure out possible points of differences, but there just aren’t any. I’m of a common race in banking and in my group, I went to a school of similar tier as my peers, most of us are out of state, and nothing regarding wealth/connections/work rly sets me apart from the rest of them.
But yea, ig their approval doesn’t rly matter for this summer. Still, it’d be nice to have some friends here in this city, and I can’t rly meet anyone outside this bubble when spending majority of my time in this office.
Just man up
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There’s always a reason …
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Just stay true to yourself and be nice. They just colleagues you don't need to be friends with them its not by force. Just focus on getting that return offer and keep it moving.
It is unfortunate because as you said, the bullpen is an awesome bonding experience with a good group.
Sadly, you're not going to get along with everybody you work with. Just be professional and move along.
Unfortunately when you are in an industry when you need to ego stroke other people to get ahead or kiss ass you gotta figure out how to resolve this since other wise you won’t go far in finance or better yet any where in life. So go figure out how to be liked by them and win their approval fast
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