Referral etiquette

Hi, I heard having a referral helps a ton when it comes to internship recruiting. Should I always wait for them to offer me a referral, or is it okay to ask if I can put their name down as a referral / ask for one directly? 

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Based on the most helpful WSO content, here are some key points on referral etiquette:

  1. Asking for Referrals:

    • It's generally acceptable to ask for a referral, but timing and approach are crucial. After establishing a connection through a phone call or email exchange, you can ask if they would be comfortable referring you.
    • Example email template: Hello Name, I hope you're doing well! Thank you for taking the time last week to talk with me about your experiences with company. After hearing from you, I was inclined to look more into the company and was driven to apply to company as a Summer Intern. Would you by any chance be comfortable with sending my resume to the talent acquisition team if possible? I'm aware it's difficult to stand out from the competition, but I have faith a referral from you would increase my chances with company. I can send my updated resume to you, plus a brief introduction that you can quickly forward to the talent acquisition team. Also, no worries if not, I can also send my resume directly if you're not comfortable sending it. I appreciate any help you can give. Thank you very much Name, and I look forward to hearing from you.
  2. When to Ask:

    • It's best to ask for a referral after a meaningful interaction, such as a 20-40 minute phone call where you discuss their experience and advice at their firm.
    • Follow up after the initial conversation to maintain the connection before asking for a referral.
  3. Appropriateness:

    • It is appropriate to ask for a referral through email, especially after a follow-up. Ensure your request is respectful and acknowledges their time and effort.
  4. General Tips:

    • People often enjoy helping others, especially if they have been in your shoes before. Establishing a strong connection can make them more willing to refer you.
    • Think in large numbers; sending out many requests and follow-ups can increase your chances of getting referrals.

By following these guidelines, you can effectively ask for referrals and improve your chances in internship recruiting.

Sources: How to ask for referrals?, Isn't it better to ask for internship directly?, Getting referred for internships, CS Interns - Resist the temptation to email a banker/staff to ask about your internship, My FT Recruiting Process

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