Heard the term "sugar daddy" thrown around every now and then, but I've never actually known anyone even tangentially (either the hot 20 some year old girl or the 45 year old rich dude) that actually had a "sugar daddy" relationship. Have you guys ever known someone who has? Is this even relatively common?
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Then you haven’t met enough women in their 20s
Lmao brother it's more common than dating guys your own age at this point in any large metropolitan city. So so so common. More than half the girls on my rotation have a sugar daddy or something similar. It's what motivated me to start side hustles.
I live in shithole Canada where the tax rate is so high I couldn't even enjoy a good QoL with the type of women I'm attracted too because I'm competing with dudes 20+ my senior with a shit load of assets. But that’s life, it’s not fair.
P.S. Fuck Trudeau, fuck the Queen, and fuck the CRA. Cash is king and they make it impossible for young dudes to accumulate any type of wealth through hard work (labour). I hope everyone that can moved away.
The Queen is dead brother
I know; she’s a stand-in for the Royal Family (fuck them).
>I live in shithole Canada where...
God, I hope you get out soon!
Thanks brother, I’m trying!
Come to America my friend. We’ve got guns and are not yet a completely socialist country.
https://www.canadatousa.com/immigration/moving-to-the-usa/
I relate to this so much
Yes but spots w/ sugar daddys will be more competitive after the Goldman layoffs
Yes
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sorry I'm confused...what kind of 45+ year old dudes are hanging out at the club?? Lol when I go to the club I rarely see anyone older than early 30s
depends on which club you went to. I see it a lot of older men and women mixing and dancing freely with younger folk in Europe clubs.Going to the club at any age is a great way to meet new people.Some clubs have an almost entirely under-25 crowd and it might be a bit weird to be the only 40-year-old there.
Legal prostitution
In my opinion, Sugar dating is not prostitution, in the sense that money is not offered for a particular service. It is an exchange of financial support and companionship that are integral to the relationship. I rather call sugar dating a new lifestyle that many are getting used to.
I’ve seen it in bigger metropolitans like Chiraq and New York. It is actually very common - bunch of balding dudes in their 4/50s holding hands with some way younger chicks. Heck I even saw a couple in my hotel elevator. The concept is truly disgusting. And I truly wonder what’s wrong with our society every time I see things like this
...until you get to your 40s...then the idea suddenly starts to seem ingenious.
That’s so pathetic. Imagine being in your 40s and still pays for sex. everything still revolves around transactions huh mr banking god. The sugar baby and daddy thing is just gross. If I know someone that in real life, I would avoid like clap bc I’m hanging out with the wrong crowd
Not sure why this is getting MS. Of course it's an f'd up thing that doesn't reflect well on society. For the guys, never found someone to settle down w/ and are heaping gifts/cash on women who don't care for them in exchange for faux intimacy. For the women, they're basically prostitutes with a less explicit quid-pro-quo and are having sex with older men they aren't attracted to and don't care about at all in exchange for purses/shoes/trips/etc.
I knew this hot Russian chick in NYC that mainly would only get with sugar daddies. She was successful and worked at GS, but she only dated guys with yachts. We made out one time at the club, but she wasn't into me because I didn't have a yacht in Manhattan. Most of her Instagram photos were her on yachts with chubby bald rich guys.
Lol, what an amateur. The ones I know post pictures of the sugar baby lifestyle but never actually show the dude that's paying for all that stuff, for obvious reasons.
100% a thing. I know at least 3 sugar daddies at my firm - older guys, not particularly attractive (no hair, too much weight, etc), and they keep hanging out with girls who could easily pass as their daughters. lots of gifts, trips, etc
all that you need is just money, lol! I wonder how some of the girls are even comfortable being seen with their SD. I know a mid-aged divorcee, decent looking and loaded who loves showing off his Sugarbook found Sugarbaby to us. Surprisingly, they are still accompanying each other for nearly two years now. He travels mostly with her and annoy us with their pictures.
Brother worked at a boat club and saw them constantly. One sugar baby more or less befriended my brother and admitted she was a stripper who’d get paid to hang out on the boat all day with this guy (honest response to “how did you two meet?” Lol). It didn’t even sound sexual as she was one of many that were hanging out on this boat. Or maybe it was. Who knows.
Handling strippers is strange. Dated one in college, obviously Pizz level wild, but she never did anything outside of our relationship. Hang out in some jerkoff's pool for money with other girls, sure. Hang out in his bed? No. Like the girl talking to your brother, she was so blunt about it, I knew she was being honest (my old gf that is). She was always upfront about the "weekend plans". She'd actually drop cash on me vs the other way with what she did the next week.
When I was a kid at Disney (like 14), I ended up talking with this older hispanic girl while waiting in the line for the river ride. We were just talking about where we were from and such. I mentioned that I was with my parents, who were behind me, and asked if she was visiting the park with her 40+ year-old father.
I didn't realize until my dad explained to me after the ride why her smile dropped and the old dude was pissed. Great memory every time I think back on it, and the only open sugar daddy thing I've personally seen. My dad still laughs about trying to explain that to me.
But yeah agree with other comments, gross to think about from either side. That girl must have been under 20 at the time.
I am friends with a few guys who do this. They are mid 30s and early 40s. Its kind of weird and I don’t really like being around it.
Yes, very common, but most of these wealthy older guys using them get burned eventually.
You don't need much money to maintain one (think 100k per year).
do these broads report this income to IRS or is it all just tax free gifts?
I don't know, I've never done it bro
There are also a host of female Andrew Tates who create "courses" that cost hundreds of dollars which teach you how to find a rich man and get him to buy things for you.
My wife had the displeasure of taking a group fitness course with some girls who were allegedly in relationships with wealthy guys and selling these scams. She felt something was off about them, and sure enough after the fitness class ended they dm'd her trying to sell her that garbage.
Yeah it’s a thing. There are girls who get paid $xk per month to sleep with a certain guy, basically subscription prostitution. There are websites for it and an insane amount of “normal” girls do it. They go to good colleges, have normal jobs, whatever. Lots of regular looking guys in their 30s do it too, you wouldn’t necessarily be able to spot them at a bar
You mean like a wife? Jk
I personally don't know anyone who is a sugar baby(?) or a sugar daddy (I'm cringing really hard just by typing this). I think it will mostly depend on your social circle or where you are living. Hang around a lot of party girls with no class or ugly fat degenerate rich guys? Then sure. I just don't really see anyone that has a fulfilling life going down this route. Maybe I am just not "rich enough", who knows.
Ngl, if a rich woman under the age of 50 (that's not completely busted) wanted to pay me thousands of dollars on a regular basis to hang out with her and occasionally bang her, I'd sign up in a heartbeat lol
If she is under the age of 50? Don't you mean 30? lol dude really
Guess you don't mind the scent of menopause and loneliness. Imagine shoving your dick in an arid dark wilderness the Devil might crawl out and tempt you like he tempted Jesus.
You're right about that. Male sugar babies actually have to keep an erection, which may or may not be possible given the circumstances. Female ones on the other hand just have to fake moan for 5 minutes and then enjoy the good life.
It's almost a rule in Shanghai. (Lived there for like 4 years).Wealthy men from all business backgrounds always have a sugar baby. Many of these were married with children and they were giving their sugar babies/mistresses 40,000RMB per month as a flat rate fee, gifts and trips not included. Some were dumb enough to fall in love and buy houses or cars for some of the girls, especially the ones from Vietnam since houses are much cheaper over there. One of my professors at university said it's very common a young woman would walk up to a guy that looks successful and just out right ask to be a sugar baby. I got so used to it, it honestly feels weird that some people have a problem with it.
Big cities like NYC are where sugar daddies thrive.
I know a girl who dabbles in it. Everything she's told me about it is absolutely horrible. If you think about it, a lot of these people couldn't find a partner through normal channels because they're such a horrid person nobody could get through a couple dates with them.
Yeah, my ex gf has one now
good thing she’s an ex then, that’s just bad
I do not know any thank god. It’s literally whoring yourself out, anything else is sugar coating
I remember my first week in NYC eating at a bagel place with my friends, we overheard these smoking hot blonde nurses talk about their sugar daddies funded their night out last night. As a naive intern, I was like... wtf?!
It's definitely common, but not THAT common. The chances a random girl you meet has one is pretty low.
And as much as guys say "when they're 30 they will be miserable- nobody will want to marry them," if you're an attractive girl, you can always find some insecure tech/finance guy who has never seen a women in his life and make him fall in love with you and think you're 'the one,' and just go around spending all his money.
Not really correct, yeah when you’re a hot 35 year old girl who’s been with 70 dudes yeah you can potentially find a sugar daddy (though it’s a lot harder cause that guy is going to be looking for chicks in their 20s), but just cause you’re spending that saps money doesn’t mean that brings them happiness
id wager that most of those still single girls in their 30s are generally not happy. If money bought happiness no rich guy would ever get married either
Its 2023 and that is the growing (and alarming trend)-- that men AND women aren't getting married as much. Having children is becoming even less common.
FYI, I'm married, but my wife's female friends (mid-30s) are single and childless and claim they are happy and not actively looking to change their statuses. Your guess is as good as mine if they are for real and just coping.
How much does it cost? How is it different from prostitution with a long-term contract seriously?
Yes lol. Had a coworker who was making probably $50-60K (from a blue collar family) at the time and was flying out business / first class to places like Dubai. I never confirmed but it was pretty obvious she wasn't paying for these trips. Not sure if it was paid by someone in NYC/a travel buddy (one of our EVPs had a 7 figure annual comp and they were very close, a lot of people thought he may be cheating on his wife with her here and there) or someone in Dubai who flew her out there.
I found out through Instagram and she went private immediately after she realized me and my other coworker saw some of her stories.
Had a friend in college who would go on dates with this dude in his 60s weekly and then they’d go on shopping sprees afterwards. Nothing sexual ever happened (at least that’s what she said) and this girl would not only get new designer shit every week but would get hundreds in Venmo’s every week. Here I am slaving away in banking tho
Lol she would never ever admit to fucking a senior citizen. But you don't have to struggle you can find your own Glucose Godfather pretty sure there are websites out there.
Yeah no joke. If the guy didn’t care about sex with a nubile 20s girl then why not pursue a companion of similar age? Makes 0 sense otherwise
She was def getting some old dick, just won’t admit. Don’t trust anything these chicks say. Scandalous
Why would it not be real? For starters, women have zero issue dating an older man in general. My friends who are divorced and in their late thirties - early 40’s are finding zero issue with younger women - think early twenties. That is without any sugar, just hooking up and general dating. Add in ‘gifts’ and you’re going have close to zero issue.
I find it hilarious
Fr? I've seen some in uni. In terms of within the industry, I know a girl from another uni who was pretty focused on Spring Weeks and recruiting and stuff, then SA'd in in-house PE at a BB London. She keeps spamming her socials about her dates with her various sugar daddies, a lot of the daddies are partners at PE firms and VCs too. I think she also got together with a partner during her 1st year PE internship. I have no comment on her tendencies, the only thing I have to say is that seems kinda risky spamming all your socials about the partner in your PE firm taking you to insane hotels, vacations and shopping trips, and even the bed in the hotel room which heavily implies they sleep together. Tbf she never shows the daddies' faces, just say they are partners in PE/ VC
It's totally a thing. I know a woman who's an exotic Eastern European model type. Met this rich 50+ year old while still in her 20s. Actually even married the guy, and now she doesn't have to work ever again, so... good for her?
Anyway he ended up running for office and getting elected to lead the country, but that's a story for another day.
this is a real "happily ever after". it is true that not all sugar relationships are just short-term funs but some do end in serious relationships and beautiful marriages. One of my friends in his late 40's, met his second wife on sugarbook 2 years ago (of course after the divorce). he started seeking for someone to chill out with him but who knows they both really liked each other and got married in less than a year after dating. it is a win-win situation.
You seem really into this lifestyle bro. Just cop to it
Lol and she had all the toilets removed / replaced from the house they got to live in.
Dating is crazy in 2023
Do you think women are gonna walk around with a shirt that says “Yes, I have a sugar daddy”??? Seriously, it’s more common than you think, like girls doing OF to pay the bills, but obviously it’s going to be way under the surface.
This thread has been so depressing to read. Now I am absolutely terrified that I’ll have to marry some groupie hoe instead of someone I actually love respect and would want raising my children (especially if i have daughters).
It’s not as widespread as everyone is making it out to be. I mean obviously girls do it. But if you walk down a busy street or into a popular bar, odds are none of the girls there have done it.
You can make an account on a sugar dating site and see for yourself. The number of “girlfriend material” girls on the sites - even in a major city like NYC - is only a few thousand. If you’re a guy that does well for himself (has high standards), I’d say that number drops to a few hundred
Sugar baby stuff is just palatable higher end prostitution in most cases.
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