Dating in gen z is cooked, and nobody can convince me otherwise

There must be something in the water because dating as a person (male) from gen z is the worst. It’s like trying to find a needle in a haystack but there’s no needle so you’re just wasting your time….

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What exactly is dating "in" Gen Z? You are Gen Z or you date people in Gen Z?

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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AssetWrangler

I am sadly part of gen z

Oh man, I'm sorry to hear that. Good luck with that bro. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

What exactly is bad about it? Sure, dating apps suck, but they suck for everyone, and there's nothing stopping you from approaching women out in public. Yes, men are expected to pay for dates, but is that such a big deal? You're taking a girl out... 

I'd argue there's never been a better time for dating. Especially if you live in a big city like NYC. 22 was rough but now that I'm a few years out of college, making decent money, have my own place, it's really not half bad. 

 

CRE

Have you tried being good looking?

dude, you just said the quiet part out loud.   As an older millennial I've never had issues, and my kill count spans five continents, (the aussie gymnast came back to revisit me-I tried taking him skiing- horrible fail trusting that he was good when he said so, but generally these were one and done situations) but apps have made the dating thing odd.

The only difference between Asset Management and Investment Research is assets. I generally see somebody I know on TV on Bloomberg/CNBC etc. once or twice a week. This sounds cool, until I remind myself that I see somebody I know on ESPN five days a week.
 
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All generations where many are in their early-mid 20s tends to suck for dating if you're an average person (I'm a millennial). People overall tend to be much more mature around 28-29 from my experience. I remember all the stupid drama / immaturity I saw from both girls and guys in their early-mid 20s. Less than half of my guy friends ended up marrying their HS / college girlfriends (some of which were 3-4+ year relationships).

People tend to be more straight up as they age - if they just want to have 'fun' or are looking for a 'life partner.' I have friends in both buckets now in my early 30s and as long as they're honest with people they're seeing, dating tends to be a lot easier (as long as you're not too picky).

 

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All generations where many are in their early-mid 20s tends to suck for dating if you're an average person (I'm a millennial). People overall tend to be much more mature around 28-29 from my experience. I remember all the stupid drama / immaturity I saw from both girls and guys in their early-mid 20s. Less than half of my guy friends ended up marrying their HS / college girlfriends (some of which were 3-4+ year relationships).

People tend to be more straight up as they age - if they just want to have 'fun' or are looking for a 'life partner.' I have friends in both buckets now in my early 30s and as long as they're honest with people they're seeing, dating tends to be a lot easier (as long as you're not too picky).

This. As an older dude here, I’ll add, kind of like in a lot of things, try to know and understand yourself and what you like in a person. Don’t over compromise on that or change yourself too much because you will fail and be miserable and waste time. Lord knows I wasted a ton of time. 


If you are straight up and ask people out and treat them well in general you will do great. Sure you’ll get shot down a lot. Most people do. And that’s ok! 

If someone disrespects you? Cut them out and move on. A lot of the bad eggs will just go away and the people you do end up with will be awesome. 

Dating got much better for me in my late 30s (dating women between 32-42) because they appreciated me being respectful, truthful, nice and because I had a good job and worked out. They didn’t care that I didn’t have millions of dollars or whatever.  But I also cut people who I knew would not be a fit or treated me badly. I did so nicely and no one reacted poorly because I didn’t waste their time or energy. 

Good luck. 

I used to do Asia-Pacific PE (kind of like FoF). Now I do something else but happy to try and answer questions on that stuff.
 

Ask yourself;

If you were a girl, would you fuck you? If the answer isn't a resounding yes then have some accountability and work on yourself and forget about what the rest of the generation is doing.

p.s: fuck the chiefs, go birdssss

You can catch flies with honey, but you can catch more honeys looking fly
 

Go birds 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Get off dating apps for a year at least and pursue genuine active hobbies. Nothing passive like media consumption. Spend all of the time money and energy you would spend on dating apps on getting outdoors, doing things you love, joining groups. Instead of being desperate, in pursuit mode, shopping / hunting for a chick on your phone, you will become totally comfortable in 4-5 different contexts outside of work. That comfort brings confidence which is attractive no matter how you look. 

Will give you the opportunity to be a great guy that comes into many peoples’ lives naturally instead of coming in the front door like every other guy on dating apps. They are basically useless for a lot of guys - if you’re not getting matches and dates on the apps they’re not designed for you. 

 

OP learning how rough dating is when you’re ugly, fat or bald - or all three lol.

The truth is most people are trash, men and women. America today is slothful and selfish and lazy. We are too far removed from the greatest generation, that defeated the nazis and our worked the world, and where all the smartest immigrants flocked too.

I mean then pendulum has completely swung lol, most people on this forum and obviously in America, wanted trump in power. Can you imagine 50 years after we died against the nazis we elected Trump?

 

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