I'm 27, turning 28 in January. Been getting a lot of hinge matches with women in their early 30s. I'm not totally opposed to the idea of dating women slightly older as they're still attractive today, but 1) I don't think I'm necessarily in a rush to settle down yet (and don't want to be rushed into doing so), and 2) candidly I'd like my partner to remain physically attractive as long as possible (don't care if you call me shallow, I'm sure I'm not the only one that thinks this way). I would like to have kids at some point but probably not in the next 5 years - feels like that's pushing it for women in their early 30s today.
I feel like I've just hit my stride in my career and finally have some time to start dating now - had the odd date here and there as an ANL / ASO but nothing serious. For those that have dated women older than you, am I an idiot for filtering out potential partners based on age alone?
Ah, the age-old question of the dating age gap – no pun intended! Based on the most helpful WSO content, here's a breakdown for you:
Settling Down Timeline: It's a common concern that women in their early 30s might be on a faster track to settle down due to biological clocks. However, this isn't a universal truth. Many early 30-somethings are also enjoying their careers and independence. The key is communication – make sure you're upfront about your timeline for settling down.
Physical Attraction: It's natural to desire a partner you find physically attractive, and it's a concern for many. But remember, attraction is multifaceted and can be sustained through mutual respect, emotional connection, and shared experiences. Plus, people are staying fitter and healthier longer these days.
Having Kids: If you're not looking to have kids in the next 5 years, that's something to discuss early on. Women in their early 30s may or may not be on the same page, so it's about finding someone with a compatible life plan.
Career Stride: Now that you have more time to date, it's a great opportunity to meet a variety of people. Dating someone older can bring a different perspective and maturity to the relationship.
Filtering out potential partners based on age alone might mean missing out on someone who could be a great match for you. It's not necessarily about the number but about the person's life stage, goals, and compatibility with yours. So, are you an idiot for considering age? Not at all, it's a personal preference, but just be sure you're not closing the door on what could be an amazing connection just because of a birthdate. After all, love doesn't always check ID!
Sources: Have not dated in 3 years, 30 year old Male - Q&A, Have not dated in 3 years, 30 year old Male - Q&A, Are you experienced? Thoughts on growing older, Q&A: Buyside women, boys, do NOT get married. Seriously.
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I had phases in my 20s and 30s where dating older women was cool and interesting. But, I was just dating for fun. Now I am in a more serious mode, particularly scouting future wifeys. My ideal current range is 23 - 32 roughly and no kids never married.
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