I'll be honest, I've not particularly prioritized the whole finding someone part of life just out of nature of always having something to focus on, be it university studies, CFA preparation, or the work. And I think anyone who comes from South Asia (or other immigrant backgrounds) also understands that there are certain cultural expectations that really limit opportunities.
With that said, I'm approaching the second act and have decided to prioritize this part of life, but with apps being what they are, and societal norms being what they are, I have a genuine question for the room: Where do you go to meet someone you may want to strike up a romantic relationship with?
The former generation used to go to bars, clubs, then the generation just before mine had some success with apps, and social clubs (run club, sports, rock climbing, etc.), but post-COVID, I've not heard of anything outside of mutual friends, school, or work. As I work in an industry with the average of "I have grandkids", have been out of school for some time, and there are only so many opportunities among mutual friends, I'm unsure what avenue to consider.
I'm pragmatic at heart, I may just try some dating service for the convenience of it; I also find that approaching someone for conversation has become increasingly rare which limits organic connections or opportunities.
Now, I'm aware this whole piece reads like a sociopath's guide to finding someone; I've been advised my apporach can be a tad clinical. So if anyone's found a better way at things, I'm all ears.
Everyone is outcast these days.
You still have to do things. You have to get off the internet and have hobbies out of the house.
It doesn't matter if the hobby in question is "cool." It doesn't matter if the hobby is the gym, or golf, or having dinner at restaurant bars and talking to the other single diners, or going to concerts, or a book club, or playing rec sports, or buying manga in a nerd shop, or going to bars, or even studying in-person for that CFA of yours.
Mutual interests immediately give you things in common and if you are good or accomplished at whatever the hobbies are, competence is sexy.
Based on the most helpful WSO content, finding someone in 2026 is far from a lost cause, but it does require a strategic and proactive approach. Here are some actionable insights:
Expand Your Social Circles:
Leverage Dating Apps Wisely:
Focus on Serendipity:
Consider Professional Matchmaking Services:
Be Open to Organic Opportunities:
Mindset Shift:
Remember, the key is to balance pragmatism with authenticity. By putting yourself out there in environments that align with your values and interests, you'll increase your chances of meeting someone compatible.
Sources: Selfish Ask for Help in Situation, Have not dated in 3 years, 30 year old Male - Q&A, IB Dating, IB Dating
Do the things you mentioned in your post. Bars, clubs, apps, run clubs…
Yes, because that's where you try to find a future wife...
Better than sitting at home cranking your hog…
The real Q is how do you find a wife
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