Girlfriend asking me to be more 'romantic'?

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For her bday this is what I’d get to be romantic:

Send her 144 roses with gold petal tips, a family of teddy bears, and a package with diamond studded AirPods, a diamond encrusted card with a published poem written for her in it (call her eternal diamond tiara princess & future queen of the universe), a Tiffany's necklace with a heart, key, & lock, and roses preserved in a display box with rubies spelling out “I put the pussy on a pedestal.”

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 

Ok, I don't know you or this girl, but how much more romantic can you be? If you were to do less than half of what you did on her birthday I would've thought it was romantic. You went full cheese and she still isn't satisfied. From the limited info you provided she might be the problem.

 

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"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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Some people eat up Lifetime or Hallmark dramas, and others (like myself) abhor them. Perhaps it would make sense to watch a few and get a sense of how people can act toward each other. If you want to, I think you can find your inner "starry-eyed" person in love. Banking creates a bunch of pragmatists, but it pays to be a bit more whimsical sometimes. This involves being less rehearsed, more spontaneous, and doing random acts of affection. Understanding "love languages" sounds like a lot of woo sometimes, but I actually think it's helpful when framed as plain old human motivations.

 

These other people are beating around the bush..

Why the FUCK are you seriously dating a 20 year old? Add LDR on top of that?! Holy fuck the people on this forum are definitely on the spectrum 

 

Hard to go off of such limited information man but judging by what you mention that you've bought her, it sounds like you have focused more on the materialistic side and don't actually have any shared experiences which may or may not go a long way for some. You buy her nice stuff but do you actually know what she likes and what sort of experiences she enjoys? That you are even questioning why she might feel this way despite you buying numerous things shows that there is some disconnect.  I think it's the transactional approach that you've taken that is putting her off, i.e. just giving her stuff; There are some girls out there who will just be satisfied if you buy them whatever, but it certainly doesn't seem that way for her. Do more experiential things/shared moments (which are materialistic in and of themselves) - going out for dinner/having dates, travelling together, surprise visits/pop-ups if long distance, as much intimacy as possible when actually together, any other activities that she actually enjoys.  It's time to stop showing how much things you can buy and show some effort so that she can see that you actually care. If these are not possible, then may as well end it.

 

Hard to go off of such limited information man but judging by what you mention that you've bought her, it sounds like you have focused more on the materialistic side and don't actually have any shared experiences which may or may not go a long way for some. You buy her nice stuff but do you actually know what she likes and what sort of experiences she enjoys? That you are even questioning why she might feel this way despite you buying numerous things shows that there is some disconnect.  I think it's the transactional approach that you've taken that is putting her off, i.e. just giving her stuff; There are some girls out there who will just be satisfied if you buy them whatever, but it certainly doesn't seem that way for her. Do more experiential things/shared moments (which are materialistic in and of themselves) - going out for dinner/having dates, travelling together, surprise visits/pop-ups if long distance, as much intimacy as possible when actually together, any other activities that she actually enjoys.  It's time to stop showing how much things you can buy and show some effort so that she can see that you actually care. If these are not possible, then may as well end it.

Please DO NOT listen to this guy

LDR with a 20 year old is not going to fucking work. Period.


Cut your losses now and move on

 

Go outside and get some fresh air instead of replying to everybody you don't agree with, retard. Imagine how miserable your existence must be and how much of a fucking loser you are if you're being an angry reply guy to everybody you don't agree with, and imagine getting so worked up over somebody else's problem/situation. lmao Everyone here is apparently on the spectrum and you're some angsty, manic reply guy, sad! If OP wants to date an 18 yo in his city or even in another country then that's his prerogative.

 

For once I agree with you on this, she is eight years younger than him but she’s the emotionally mature one in this relationship

 

With all due respect, it's time to drop her. Date women that are within your area. I was in a long-distance relationship and it is something I won't do again. There is a high probability of this ending badly and you'll be the one hurt. Women typically won't let go of one without having secured another. I'm not implying your girl is cheating on you, but don't be surprised if she's projecting her doubts and naming it "be more romantic."

 

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remind her that without you she would be working a retail job for 13$ while her friends are out cheating on their boyfriends. Its 2021 less romance more world domination 

 

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