How would you react to your apartment mate stealing from you? His sister also recently moved in, without permission, and plans on staying 2 months.

The question says it all. I recently found out that my apartment mate has been stealing from me (2 bed, 1 bath). We also lived together last year at another place and have not received our security deposit back. He was in charge of managing all of that, so I've been going through him in order to bug the apartment. After months of changing stories, "oh they didn't respond to my email," "oh they said they need to get back to me," I found out the truth. 

Long story short, he has been lying. It is true we never got our security deposit back, but only because he pocketed the last months rent that I venmoed him and never paid the apartment any rent at all. That's 1.5K of rent money I paid him that he fully pocketed, along with my portion of the security deposit (1K) now fully forfeited.  

On a completely separate note, his sister has also moved into the apartment. No notice whatsoever. She sleeps in his room (pretty weird), but obviously we share common area. When I asked him how long she is staying, he initially said "a few weeks." Then when I pushed him, he said "roughly a month." Turns out, it is actually 2 months that she is planning on staying here. 

Does anyone have any advice on how to respond? If I had it my way, I'd go ballistic and charge him the outstanding money along with interest, and kick his sister out. I am incredibly angry that he stole to me and continues to lie to my face. At the same time, I need to live with him (and his sister apparently) for many more months, so I want things to be somewhat amicable.

 

damn that sucks dude. I also had a sh!tty roommate at one point and it wrecked my life for months. 

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amonkey33

What happened and what was resolution if any? 

I hooked up with my roommate and her girlfriend and she caught feelings and I didn't. She wanted to go out all the time with me and I didn't want to hang out with her. She got really jealous and resentful that I wouldn't hang out with her. She called the cops on me and lied and said I harassed her. I was arrested, homeless, and then spent 6 months in court to fight her lies. 

She claimed on the record that I called her 6x day for 2 weeks. Phone records show I called her 0 times. It took the prosecution 6mo to accept this evidence. 

"If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there, you must go beyond them." - Bruce Lee
 
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amonkey33

Holy crap .. was this recent or some years ago? Also, did all this get resolved / how are you managing now? 

It was years ago. Since 2015, I've had no roommates. I did not get convicted of anything, charges were dropped.

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I mean... alpha dog him and fuck his sister?

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Well, first of all, as someone who rents out my properties I can tell you what I would do.

Landlords prospective: read the lease and talk to your LL, I’m pretty sure extra person is not allowed in your lease since she hasn’t been through a background check.

Now, regarding your rent that has been pocketed. Talk to your landlord and explain your situation. Since you have all the proof (venmo history of payments), your roommate is in default of his lease and can be legally evicted (depends on a state law tho).

Speaking of your deposit, stealing someone’s money is a crime dude (obviously hah). You can either talk to him and solve things peacefully (I’m sure it won’t be) or you can press him and tell that you’re going to police to file a report.

My advice to you is to stop being nice and finally do something about this situation.


Your to do list: talk to the landlord and explain situation (sister + money owed), talk to your roommate and demand the money, if no action - go to police (and tell him you’re going).

Hope it helps

 

Mod team strikes again with their lame removals. You should seduce your roommates sister and break her heart for a start. Then find other ways you can nickel and dime him to death until your lease is up - food goes missing, belongings anonymously sold via craigslist, shampoo and other consumables used up. Scorch the earth, and if he says a damn word you can hold legal action over his head for the stolen rent + deposit.  

"The obedient always think of themselves as virtuous rather than cowardly" - Robert A. Wilson | "If you don't have any enemies in life you have never stood up for anything" - Winston Churchill | "It's a testament to the sheer belligerence of the profession that people would rather argue about the 'risk-adjusted returns' of using inferior tooth cleaning methods." - kellycriterion
 

This is what I live by. If a person can lie to you there is a higher chance they will steal from you. So, I cut them off including family. I cannot afford to be around people with low values.

SafariJoe, wins again!
 

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