Ladies - Valentines Help

Calling the ladies of WSO: help me plan a good Valentine’s Day. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a little over a month. What would be your ideal Valentine’s Day if you had been dating your boyfriend for ~one month. Thanks!

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I'm a guy and have been with my girlfriend for 3 years, but I remember for our first Valentine's Day I took her to a nice sushi restaurant. Then we just went back to my place to watch a movie and drink cheap wine. I got her an inexpensive bracelet as a gift, and she got me a quarter zip sweater. Since you've only been together for a month I wouldn't try to go overboard. Take her to a restaurant that she would like and get her a decent gift but don't blow the bank. 

 

Flowers, dinner 

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Suggest making dinner together. Get a bottle of wine and a nice Italian recipe, Chicken Carbonara or something. Drink the wine, chit chat, have fun cooking, and enjoy the company of each other.

Dining out is a waste of money to me having been a cook myself. Practice cooking and soon you’ll wonder why anyone pays $50 for the cheap tablecloth and fancy plate of mediocre food.

 

Seconding this. Although I do enjoy eating out more for the experience than food itself.

Italian food is harder to screw up (chicken and pasta that is). On the wine front, Trader Joe’s has some great options. I can barley taste the difference between wines of the same category, so getting something for $10 will be fine. Just get a fancy looking bottle and nobody will know it’s $10.

Get a lighter pasta (like angel hair), it’ll help not feel as bloated after eating. Get some chocolates but not cake (for the same reason), like dark chocolates that are smaller.

Lastly, make sure your place smells pretty nice. Washing your sheets, plugging in some air fresheners, and lighting a candle will help. This entire thing should cost under $50

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Threesome with her sister and/or her hot best friend. Nothing less will suffice.

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Hey man, Bateman was all about prostitutes not all of this Alabama style talk you got going on here, let’s have some standards please.

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Lmao he asked ladies for help and I bet he has only gotten male replies

There have to be better places to go than WSO, if you are looking for advice from ladies.  For the most part, the only ladies here are males in high school trolling as ladies.

 
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Given the relationship is SO fresh, I think you’ll get more points for creativity than you will for an actual material gift of value. I don’t recommend jewelry or anything like that unless you really want to set the tone for the relationship.

Think back to the conversations you’ve had and if there were any particular ‘unique’ things about her that you could use. For example, I started dating a girl whose birthday was two months into our dating. She had showed me some of the artwork that she had drawn and mentioned how she wanted to do more work with watercolors and acrylics. So I went out a bought her a set of acrylic paints and other tools she could use to get started. She was grateful not only for the gift, but also the demonstration that I was actually listening to her. Similarly, I had told her that back when I traveled to other countries, I used to buy Haribo gummy bears at all of the airports and it became a tradition. She bought me a pack of gummy bears (as well as a few other things). It was thoughtful and didn’t require much effort on her end.

Flowers never hurt, but they shouldn’t be the primary gift. Also, wrap the gifts, even if you are horrible at it. Presentation matters.

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I would focus on experiences rather than material gifts. She will remember it more. Maybe a broadway show or an amazing underground eatery / restaurant. Thats what my boyfriend did on Valentines.  

 
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I've been with the lady for the better part of 8-10 yrs and we have never celebrated Valentines day save for the first year of our relationship where it felt obligatory. I save the firepower for her birthday. Before I was with her, whenever I'd date someone it'd somehow always fall around valentines day so the most I'd do was take her to dinner but nothing more. It's really more the gesture which counts as long as you're not dating a psycho who expects gifts and what not considering you've been together a month. Flowers wouldn't hurt (I never did) but I wouldn't buy anything else gift-wise haha. Can't set that precedent ;)

 

Have flowers delivered to her work (preferable if not WFH) or home (especially if she has roommates). The 'I got flowers' flex on coworkers/friends is worth more than you think. For dinner, be creative if her expectations aren't going to a nice restaurant. Cook, cheese/charcuterie, takeaway sourced picnic, etc. Being rushed through a meal at a packed restaurant with a pre fix menu is over rated.   

 

been with my wife uninterrupted for well over a decade, never celebrated valentines day in any big way. every twat, dildo, and hairball wants to take their woman out for valentines day dinner at some ridiculous restaurant, so I'd just strive for something different. I'd recommend 2 paths depending on the type of girl she is

  1. if all she wants is to impress her friends and take pictures of your v-day experience, dump her
  2. if she's chill, follow my advice here, not just for v-card I do some date ideas: https://www.wallstreetoasis.com/forums/how-to-lose-my-v-card

if it were me and I was in NYC, I'd cook her something nice, drink some wine, maybe make her a cocktail, hit up a comedy club/jazz club, and then you know the rest 

 

Lady commenter here.

I think if your place is nice aka a cozy, clean apartment without people barging in you should cook for her. If you really like her, this is great way to get to know her.

No stress of reservation, booking cabs, etc. It's really stressful for women to dress up to go out, less so when we stay in. Not saying she won't make an effort, just without the hassle.

Ask her about herself, make her laugh. If you want to gift her something- stick to flowers/cookies/scarf etc. Anything more may freak her out.

If you do the deed, do read up on what we like. Don't go by what you think we like. Listen to real experts or ask a lesbian friend.

 

McDonalds. Nothing more romantic than the Golden Arches. Upgrade the meals to a large too

 

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