Living in a city I don’t like

Is this SF

I did 2yrs at umm fund in a city I didn’t like and someone regret it. Really thinking you want to do PE for the next 10-15 years because you are in your 20s once

the combination of (1) liking your team (2) good wlb and (3) a credible shot to make it to vp is extremely hard to come by so would think three times before giving that up

every city has something unique to offer - look harder

Don’t live in a city you don’t like — you only live once

That said, it may be best to move after a VP promotion if everything else about the oppty is solid

Started my career in Houston and forced my way out to NYC.. 5 years later trying to go back since I have kids now

Left NYC banking for SF MF and was a big mistake to leave nyc. if you like nyc, can't undersell how much more fun it is than any other city in yours 20s. going back shortly

Name the city if you want help. There's a big difference between SF or some tier 3 city in the burbs versus options like Chicago, Miami, Austin, LA, Dallas, etc

I can’t imagine living in any other city than NYC or perhaps LA (maybe Miami is a distant third) in this country. So I deeply understand what you mean. American is about suburbia, family, nature, the outdoors, and a slower life in general. Americans get the “partying” out of their system in college (to a European or Latino that phrase get the partying out of your system makes no sense at any age). 

So if it’s not for you, move.

Something has got to give. You either have to choose to sacrifice the job or the city. 

I personally choose the job. I’d much rather live somewhere I love where I can be close to friends and family than do my absolute favorite job. If my dream job is something I’d rate 10/10 would love to do every single day of my life, I probably wouldn’t compromise to anything lower than a 7/10 or 6/10. After all you do spend the majority of your life at work so pick wisely. That being said I’m taking the 6/10 job and 10/10 city any day of the week.

you have to also take into account your circumstances when making this decision. Meaning is there parents you gotta take care of or financial obligations that you need the money from your current job to fulfill? If that’s the case then the city has got to give. Assuming you can’t make the same $ elsewhere. 

Whats the in office mandate at your firm? Also what is the geographic focus of the firm?  If you volunteer to do most of the dilligence traveling you can make the case that you need to be in a market with a robust airport (think NYC, DFW, LA) to maximize travel flexibility.  If you are in a market like OKC where pretty much all flights need to connect through DFW, ATL of Chicago then there is a good case to be made to allow you to move to a major market.