Mental Health Struggle - College Undergrad

Im a current sophomore in college and a few weeks ago I started to realize how much I took on this semester was way too much. Last year I started a medication called accutane and it completly destroyed my mental state, I became extremely anti social and just overall felt shitty every day despite having a great life that I am extremely grateful for. I managed to get through what seemed like 6 months of hell with a 4.0 GPA my freshman year which I was extremely proud of. Fast forward to the start of this semester and I decide im going to take on as much as possible to look the best I can for IB recruiting. Right now I am a Teaching Assistant for macro, Resident Advisor, Teach a freshman introductory business course, finance club treasurer and I compete at the varsity level for rowing which has changed drastically since being a freshman. My parents said I was crazy however I thought this was a good idea... everything has kind of hit me at once and I have no free time what soever to decompress and it feels as if someone constantly needs something from me or there is a hw/project/exam that I need to be working on. At the start of the semester I also met my current girlfriend. When I met my girlfriend she was extremely addicted to cocaine/other drugs and had clearly been through alot. She ended up opening up to me close to when we first met about the past past year she has went through some serious trauma that I just feel so bad about because she is the nicest person I have ever met and really just got mixed into the wrong crowd. She quit cocaine and all was good for a little however then she started abusing other medication to cope with withdrawals which led to her going to a rehab program. She has since gotten out of the rehab program but has become extremely depressed which makes it extremely hard for me to watch. Between everything I have going on at school and now my girlfriend struggling I truly do not know what to do and it just a-lot for me to handle. Ive decided im not interviewing for on-cycle recruiting as it would just be too much for me in my current situation. I know my chances of getting the job I want aren't over if I do this im just beyond stressed and think it would be a terrible idea to start studying for interviews on top of everything else going on. Should I go for a MSF at MIT/Vandy and just hold off on IB recruiting and just let thing settle? or are there maybe some other options? I appreciate anyone who took the time to read this and any advice would be appreciated. 

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theAudiophile, what's your opinion? Comment below:

WolfofWSO - You know what to do sir.

-If this is real, lighten the fuck up on your self imposed load. Never once in there did you say other people were putting all of that on you, just that you signed up for it thinking you could sing the "Ghost in the Shell" theme in your head all day every day about being the perfect soldier and taking it on yourself. Again, if true, and she's already been to rehab at that young an age? Grab the last 'chute, bail out and learn to enjoy the freefall until you finally pull the rip cord.

In the meantime, again, supposing this is all true, brush up on your grammar skills too. Little things stack up fast. Like the grammar comment I made (no pun intended), simply doing laundry or dishes, calling family just to shoot the shit for half an hour...replacing the damned deep cycle marine-esque battery in your car that happens to be a Passat of all things but still boggles the mind in complexity and overengineering...

if you haven't seen it yet somehow.

Put homegirl on the back shelf and pull a Gekko/Glenngary Glen Ross and remember your ABC's as applies to your life. Ease on up the scholastic demands, and look at getting at least a mid-tier internship for the summer to give a view about your real purpose and a view on the final objective professionally.

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1mo 
WolfofWSO, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Sad to say, but this looks real, or it's a very well orchestrated troll planned over a long period of time. 

Go to your schools counseling department ASAP.  The advice you'll get here will be untailored at best, and outright rude/insulting for a worst case scenario.

Dump your GF.  I had a friend who hung around someone who used drugs.  He got caught with the drug user having some product on him in a car and they both were cited for possession.  Needless to say he accepted the fact he'd never get a corporate job after that.  It's not your job to be her white knight boyfriend.  There is zero upside and unlimited downside here.

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1mo 
EH_10, what's your opinion? Comment below:

Was in a similar situation to you and it destroyed me honestly. My best friend from childhood died right in an accident over Covid and I was the support system for his younger brothers & his gf at the time and was still gunning for IB. Also had a gf at the time who was always fucking depressed about something and the entire ordeal made things extremely stressful on myself with all the extracurriculars, schoolwork etc.

Take a step back, you need to support your own wellbeing before another person as well. Although you may love your girlfriend, she needs to be able to cope for herself. My mum said the same thing to me "you are not a therapist, let her stand on her own feet". Been there done that it's a lot to handle and can become extremely mentally draining. I'm regards to extracurriculars, just take off til after the winter break and just have that time to yourself.

If u ever need someone to speak to I'm avail

1mo 
flyfishchad, what's your opinion? Comment below:

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flyfishchad

For the love of god please format your wall of text 

I'll be the elephant in the room. You do realize how ironic your post is given the attempt to call OP out about grammar and formatting, but then failing that own supposed set of standards?

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