Relationship Advice

How old are you? This happens a lot with 21-25 year old girls. Don't take it personally, if you love her, then wait it out and make sure you let her know you're still there.

Don't give her too much space, otherwise she'll think you've moved on

We're both 21. I've made it very clear to her that I'm still here and I'll wait for her, but I think she needs a bit of space, just not sure how much space I should give her.

1) Wrong forum. This isn't Lavalife.

2) Her excuse was probably BS. She probably lost interest in you or found someone else.

Network, get a SA internship and you will be on your way to getting a FT IBD offer!

Good Luck

If you were in the way of her progressing in life than you should not wait for her. Either her life moves on without you and she will attribute her stagnation with your relationship or another man will help her see what she is missing.

I broke up with my last gf over the same reasons in a sense. I needed to buckle down and take care of some things professionally and it wouldn't be fair of me to have her waiting around for me while I handled those issues; e.g. staying in on weekends to study / working later to help myself progress.

Also, if I really cared for her I would have stayed with her. But I didn't care for her enough to keep her around. In the end I am sure she is happier, I am indifferent.

Or, your girl likes the taste of other men and was too chicken to tell you face to face. Sorry.

Food for thought.

SIX MONTHS LOL

She's not that into you. I personally said similar thing to my ex.

Just leave her alone, if she comes back, you know she's yours.

lac258:

Hey everyone,

Long time reader, first time poster

I could really use some neutral advice right now. Basically, my girlfriend and I broke up the other day after 6 months. The reason for the breakup was that she needed to figure out her life (her career path for example), she was under a lot of stress from life, and she felt like she didn’t treat me as well as I treated her.

I love this girl, and she still loves me. She says she just needs some space to figure stuff out and that she doesn’t know what she wants in life. I treated her extremely well, and she knows that she won’t find someone better than me (by her own admission).

Should I wait for her? What should I do, just give her space and hope she comes back? If any of you guys could maybe shoot me a PM I’d really appreciate it. I just feel pretty lost and empty right now.

Thanks guys

Pro tip: the amount of niceness a girl displays while dumping you is usually proportional to the intensity of her pity and/or guilt. So either she thinks you're lame, she misled you, she cheated on you, or all three.

You should assume she cheated on you, because it'll give you the fuel you need to ditch the bitch and go get a job that will harden you up and take up all the time and energy you're currently spending on rumination and self-pity.

lac258:

Hey everyone,

Long time reader, first time poster

I could really use some neutral advice right now. Basically, my girlfriend and I broke up the other day after 6 months. The reason for the breakup was that she needed to figure out her life (her career path for example), she was under a lot of stress from life, and she felt like she didn’t treat me as well as I treated her.

I love this girl, and she still loves me. She says she just needs some space to figure stuff out and that she doesn’t know what she wants in life. I treated her extremely well, and she knows that she won’t find someone better than me (by her own admission).

Should I wait for her? What should I do, just give her space and hope she comes back? If any of you guys could maybe shoot me a PM I’d really appreciate it. I just feel pretty lost and empty right now.

Thanks guys

Go out with another good looking girl for about 7-10 days, then text the gf that you found someone else that you care about and think you both should move on. Then she will be jealous and worried about losing you. Then you will be able to control the relationship there after.

Thanks for the advice everyone, I really appreciate it.

Treat them rough

try following site, might help: http://personalexcellence.co/blog/top-12-signs-its-time-to-move-on-from…

Good luck!

She is 21 and wanted to bail ship. Speaking from experience you should just move on. It was only 6 months. She probably took atleast 3+ dinks while you were "separate". You'll lose all shred of self respect if you go back.

lac258:

Should I wait for her?

Sour milk never goes fresh...you can do the math. Go out and get some fresh and you will feel better. Don't feel sorry for yourself, be glad you found out that she was cheating now instead of 10 years from now.

No one's talking about break-up sex?

And I thought people on this site knew how to close a deal..

bang her sister, if she is of age or her mom...Seriously 6 months is nothing to trip over, you will bounce back we all do.

are you mad bro? because you should be. get mad and use that as fuel to find someone better

I've been dumped twice by a girl who used that very script. The first time was in high school and after only a couple months, so the whole situation can be seen now as comical and meaningless. The second time was in college and occurred about 9 months after I told my girlfriend of a year that I got drunk and cheated on her. What this means is this, that if my girlfriend--who was livid/heartbroken by my cheating on her for a very long time--was able to put me down plaintively, thoughtfully, then it had everything to do with my not being the right guy for her and nothing to do with bad shit I did. I'm a lame person, and I am not saying that you are, but she just isn't excited by you anymore. However she does care about you.

Look man, girls are naturally attracted to guys that have better shit to worry about than them (THEY probably don't even realize this). Find something to focus your energy on and get after it. Anything... building a career, getting in shape, playing a sport. Just pick something and focus on getting as good as you possibly can at it. As your focus on a goal increases, your "giving a shit" of what girls think of you will naturally decrease. This mentality, along with your progress towards the goal, will naturally attract them. There's a reason I cringe every time I see a new "gaming" thread on here, because the best form of "gaming" is no "gaming" at all. But be careful. What starts off as ignoring girls because you'd rather focus on something less fleeting than "feelings", will eventually turn into an inability to even form them. Then you'll end up going to see a shrink asking "why can't I form feelings for someone anymore!?". There's a reason these old ass business dudes are sleeping around with Thai hookers and 18 y.o. space women. They literally don't even know wtf love is anymore. While this unfortunately won't help the way you feel now, it can certainly help you avoid having to go through it again. Anyway, it's a slippery slope so chose your poison carefully. Now go forth and prosper. /rant