Should I confront my rude associate?

I have an Associate whom I think is pretty rude and difficult to work with. For the record, I'm a new Analyst and still coming to grips with the job. Everyone else in the team adopt a mentorship approach apart from this Associate who says they "don't have time to check everything" and gets very condescending and rude for small things which you can nicely ask about to fix, like the date on a footnote. They even had a go at me for why a number was wrong on a piece of data that I didn't even work on or build? And goes further to chastise me saying "this isn't the first time" and insinuating I cannot even do one slide correctly. 

Oh and not only that, they had a go at me for what some numbers meant when there was a legend right on the page.

How do I constructively say that I think that their tone and way of speaking/giving feedback is not productive? Or should I just flag to my staffer.

For the record, no one else in the team is like this and this is not the culture of the team either. This person is on rotation from elsewhere but I feel like if I raise that I don't appreciate this person's disrespectful tone, I'll be seen as the problem.

I'm always calm and collected in all my responses to this person. This person also feels the need to chastise over text messages lol on Teams, never once in person.

Also, frankly kind of insane, but they were asking around for my personal number to call me about where some random case study was saved! Thankfully the person they asked messaged me first and said they were doing this... I said no, of course.

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That's not exactly it. I just think it's counterproductive to lose your mind over things so tiny as that. Even when I admit my fault and say it won't happen again they continue to condescend? Why should we tolerate just ill spirited people who take out their stress on you when this just isn't the norm - literally no one else does this in the team.

I'm not saying I need to be spoken to in a certain way or that I am entitled to make mistakes (where did you even get that from?!), I'm saying that I want (and deserve) a foundational level of respect.

I also didn't say people can't call me on my cellphone... But there is Teams, Zoomphone, and my work mobile in my signature that they could have reached out to. But I do actually take issue to someone calling me with a bullshit ask like "where is this saved". 

These things just are not normal, I don't know if you had some monster boss or something but bad culture only continues for as long as it is allowed to. Here I have an opportunity to nip it in the bud by either confronting the Associate in a respectful way asking him to be mindful, or whatever. 

I really don't see what I am saying here to be controversial?

 

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