The Real World
I'm deviating a bit from my thematic postings today to focus on a few observations of adulthood that I'm curious to hear your input on WSO. It's funny – we all grow up a significant amount in college, but I feel that I've grown more in my single year out of school than in my previous twenty-two having lived on this planet. And what fascinates me even more is that there's still an entire life of learning ahead of me.
In my case, the growth I experienced was highly correlated with weaning myself off the parental dime. First, it starts with reducing the frequency of contact – I went to a school 1,000 miles away, so the weekly calls turned into bi-weekly calls, which have now turned into sporadic monthly check-ins since I moved out to California. Moreover, both the content and the context of these calls have changed. What before were conversations revolving around advice, guidance, and frankly asking for help with next semester's variable costs have now turned into a dialogue something like this:
- Me: Hey Dad – Happy Father's Day! How are things?
- Dad: Hey, thanks for calling. Good good. Not too much different around here. So and so says hey…yeah not too much else to update you on really… you need anything?
- Me: Nope, all good on my end.
- Dad: Ok – guess I'll talk to you again soon!
This is by no means a bad thing. It is just amazing to me to think about how my relationship with my parents has evolved versus two years ago when I was in the midst of the post-undergraduate job hunt. It's even weirder when you see them in person. Do you buy your parents rounds of drinks? Do you let them still pick up the tab at the expensive restaurant you loved back home? Do you let them come out and party with you in the first place?
Such is the peculiar transition that happens once you make it to the real world. I should also add that working in finance tends to make the transition even weirder – the majority of us will be earning a salary and utilizing the financial savvy to have a healthy degree of disposable income. We don't need to be on our parent's insurance anymore, we can make our own car payments, we're slowly building credit histories, and Amex is falling head over heels to get us to sign up for their rewards cards.
Anyway, with that being said, I turn it back to you – prospective monkeys, what are you most apprehensive about in terms of leaving the parental safety net (if at all)? Current monkeys like me, do you echo my sentiments, or has your experience been entirely different? And older monkeys for whom my musings may have little or no relevance, do the bills honestly just keep coming? I just found out today I needed renter's insurance…