Worked with a Nepo kid now all I feel is ressentiment

"ressentiment"

Jfc you should feel good you got to the same place as someone with all these advantages 

Comparison is the thief of joy 

Felt a similar way until I met someone worth hundreds of millions bc their entire family died in a helicopter crash. You can be from the richest family and be incredibly sad and unhappy, can also be from Philippines selling ice cream everyday and be the happiest man alive. Everything is relative, you weren’t as lucky as a nepo baby but I’m certain a ton of people in the world would see your upbringing as a blessing. Of course idk your history and you have every right to feel the way you do. Just as an example, grew up poor but had parents who heavily emphasized education. I hated it at the time but that in part helped me get into finance and be in a better position than 99% of my peers. I feel very lucky for having that because I know a lot of people who’s parents didn’t give a shit about their grades or success. 

"But only a child expects perfection of his elders." 

- Masako Adachi

Donald Trump In 2004: “I try and tell myself it doesn’t matter. Nothing matters. If you tell yourself it doesn’t matter, like you do shows, you do this, you do that and then you have earthquakes in India where 400,000 people get killed. Honestly, it doesn’t matter. That’s how I handle stress.”

Also, read book “Gap and the Gain”, it would help you

Your misspelling of resentment reminds me of the way Brits call it "Aluminium." 

This is cringe. Worry about yourself and what you leave for your family instead of being mad at your ancestors over what they didn't do for you. You're in America working in investment banking, you'll be ok. If you play your cards right your descendants can have trust funds too.

Might as well scream into the abyss that you weren't born a king. Your parents set you up to get you where you are today so take this opportunity to build generational wealth and grow your family towards your "vision". Ask your parents about their regrets so you don't make the same mistakes. 

Contrary to some of the comments above, I think it’s ok to feel this way. Yes, some people were born in to many generations of heavy focus on growth and prosperity for their offspring and others may have been as well but just were not so lucky. Or maybe they were more selfish. It’s the reality of life. The odds of beating the cycle in a big way are low, you could have a good life as a hard worker for financial institutions and if you have decide to have kids use your salary and the assets you build to set them up the best you can for their futures. 

At least you made it to the stage of receiving an offer side by side with this example of the kid who was born with a lot, maybe you can keep pace with him to get promoted over and over again. Maybe you split off and build a business and make generational wealth and get to be the one who your kid’s and their kids remember. Will you get stuck in the cycle of comparison or at least try your hardest to break out of it and be one that others compare to? It won’t be easy either way 

Yeah it sucks. I grew up with oligarchs at my school and I try not to think about it too much since there's nothing you can do about it and it's just wasted emotions. Better to just find your own happiness and make do what you got. It be what it be.

For some of us, money isn't end all be all. 

I've been in a class project with someone whose family's net worth is estimated to be in the $20-30B range. I didn't think much of it once I found out nor did I feel intimidated (friendly person, had an impressive rolodex which is what made me wonder about their background). I only found out through some googling that my classmate was part of that 'family.'

I can't imagine the pressure of having to deal with having that family legacy, at least where I went to school - their family was legendary in the region for their business prowess.

Me, I just ignore it, there's always going to be someone richer or poorer.  What matters is your life.  You won't even remember these people's names after a while.  They don't matter.  None of this matters.

But if it's really eating at you, here's how you mentally hatefuck the situation:

1. You're looking at this wrong.   Meritocracy is the great leveler.  You're a hungry wolf.  They're a domestic animal.  THEY summered.  YOU grinded.

2. YOU changed your family legacy and are going on to great things, despite generations of disadvantage and having to figure it all out on your own.  You're a fucking winner.  

3. THEY had all the financial backing in the world to do something actually interesting like art, music, or found something, or for fuck sake start a mini fund and get by on even mediocre returns....but they lack vision and balls to do so and now they're in the same dump as you.  They're fucking losers.

4. Outperform them, become their boss, FIRE them, and then hire more people who fought their way in from the cold.  Anyone who throws shit at this post can lick my nuts.  Suck it.

(but again, it ultimately buys you nothing to be a hater, just live your life, sincerely, guy who wasted some time on being intensely jealous and looks back realizing it ultimately changed nothing)

It might be helpful to look at this another way. The nepos are deprived of knowing that they have ever having built something up completely from scratch without their parents’ help. If you are even in the same firm or same type of career as them, it is a testament to how much more you have accomplished. If money is your only goal, then I suppose you will be at a disadvantage permanently if not for a very long time to come, but I don’t believe that it should be the only goal in life. I think your efforts and achievements should matter more, particularly as you age and progress, and to this end, none of them will ever be able to compare what they have achieved compared to you given their advantage throughout their lives (better early education, access to network, parental mentorship, etc).

If you're born middle class in the US there's nothing you can't do.  And whatever ancestors did to get you to that point, was a gift.  Not to mention whatever your parents did to make sure you're now a healthy educated 20+ y/o.

Also, compare your quality of life to the median global citizen and compare a billionaire's quality life to yours.  The gap is much bigger between you and the median global citizen.  You're someone else's billionaire effectively.

You were not dealt a bad hand and you have no idea how bad it can be. The McDonalds comment and resenting your parents for not being rich tells me you are an insufferable, ungrateful pussy. Stop focusing on woe is me BS, nobody is going to cry for you and it wont make you richer.

Do you have every right to be bitter towards your ancestors, some of whom may have been shmucks who didn't value money at all? Sure absolutely. But there is no point because all you can do is be the better future ancestor who sets it up for his next of kin and enjoys some in the process. Don't be them. That's the only thing to do. Work your ass off, take risks, have a fire in your heart. 

Also you never know, there could have been a point your family tree had money but some great event led to losing it all or some idiot squandered it. This happened to my great grandfather whose brother took all the family wealth and left my grandfathers side dirt poor, which my dad had to live through. My grandma was bitter about this in a way similar to you and wanted to fight the other side of the family for what she felt was rightfully ours. My father let it go and didn't feel it was worth it and just focused on his education and working his ass off to rebuild it for the rest of the family. 

Now imagine if you worked next to ~gasp~ a black person, and they got an offer!  Imagine how frustrating THAT would be.

OP, I somewhat get your frustrations. Which is why its really, really important for you to find friends who are in as similar a boat as possible. Yes, you'll never have the life of that nepo kid. Focusing on that fact is only going to increase negative feeling. Instead focus, to an almost sociopathic extent, on your own selfishness and your own life.

Another commentor here summed it up as you are effectively "a corporate serf who will do this for 30-40 more years so that they can buy a mediocre house and hopefully afford their kids college tuition." Who cares? That mediocre (and it wont be mediocre, at least above average) house is YOUR house that YOU earned with YOUR effort. No one else's. You did that. There is gratitude and fulfillment to be found from hyper focusing on your own works, possessions and what you're able to get through your own blood sweat and tears.

And those nepo kids? They don't exist. Their lives literally have no meaning to you and they shouldn't. 
 

If the intern came from a working-poor background, you wouldn’t care because there’s nothing in their situation to envy.

some people get so affected by this that they want to prove themselves even more and make MD at 30 or build the next Amazon

others go home, open the laptop, and journal about it in a forum like a teenage girl

check ur balls OP, just to make sure they weren't left trapped between the elevator doors... the concierge might still have them... call!

Think of the centuries of peasants working hard in the fields day in and day out just to put food on the table for the next generation to survive....

...And now after centuries, finally one of your offspring makes it to investment banking and lives every day in the lap of modern luxury only for his bitchass to complain how those centuries of farmers performing back-breaking work did nothing for him.

You are in the wrong industry if you’re going to have resentment towards rich people.

There is also zero benefit to having resentment towards your past/upbringing. You need to focus on the variables you can control to have a shot at a better future. You’re not the only one in this industry who grew up poor and had to pay their own way through college. 

Consider yourself fortunate enough to be part of the poor, smart, and deep desire to become rich category of people. You have a chip on your shoulder and ambition that most trust funds kids don’t have. Start thinking of this as a strength and quit dwelling on the past. It’s not good for your own mental health, no one else cares, and it’s not a productive use of time. Compartmentalize that shit and move on with your life. 

then go work at McDonalds