Would you get back with an ex if they had sex with people after you broke up?
Title says it all really. But if your interested in my relationship story and reason for asking the question read below. Open to advice.
I'm in a situation like this now where I still love this girl and she still loves me. Easily the most fulfilling and deepest relationship I have ever had. She has said the same. Could marry this girl in a heartbeat and would have if I was out of college when I met her (met her at the end of college when she had already graduated a few years before). We had to breakup awhile back for mostly location/long distance based reasons. Once those reasons are sorted out (in the next couple months) and are no longer a problem I would definitely like to get back together. She would too. The problem is that I have some nagging thought in my mind that since she slept with other people after we broke up the relationship is dead. I cant shake it and I have always been this way. With other chicks I would just say goodluck and not give a shit but this relationship was so great that I am considering going against my gut feeling.
I obviously haven't confirmed if she has slept with anybody else because I don't wanna ask that question and I definitely dont want to know the answer. But I am assuming in the time between us breaking up and us getting back together there has been or will be at least one dude.
This bothers me despite the fact that I know she didn't care about whoever this random dude was AND knowing I have fucked around with other girls and will continue too over the next couple of months. Huge double standard I know. Am I wrong and immature for thinking this way? I am aware this a form of jealousy and possibly comes from some insecurity but is it a normal and healthy jealousy/anxiety? I mean who the fuck wants their girlfriend having fucked people in between you guys saying "I love you". Only reason I am even considering this is because I truly believe the chick is marriage material.
Wanted to throw out there I'm not the one throwing MS at any of these comments. I appreciate everybody reading what I was going through and giving their advice no matter what side they are coming from. This thread was super helpful.