Back story: I am in my young 20s. Been at the bank I am at now for 7-8 months. New consultant joined 2-3 weeks ago and is a dime. One year younger than me and sits on a different floor but some of my team work indirectly with her, and we know each other from hanging out after work a few times.
Whats the game plan here? Feel like I can't straight up ask her on a date as if she says no, my team will never let me live it down and just awkward confrontations going forward. Maybe ask her for coffee? I don't see her often or really at all at work, so what do you guys think of asking over Lync/IM? Creepy, pathetic, or normal? ... Feel like Im overthinking it but would appreciate personal stories or tips here in general for handling office crushes.