This happened a few weeks ago and it's still quite disturbing to me so I decided to make this thread. I was having awith this group and everything went pretty well. After we finished, I and two other candidates had lunch with the whole team. The lunch was pretty casual and we were just chit chatting. Then, after 15 minutes, I started to realize that when the MD talked, he never made any eye contact with me while he made eye contact very often with the other two candidates. It was like he was talking to them and not to me at all. He was the main talker during the lunch and probably the decision maker for the recruitment as well, so I felt quite uncomfortable and kind of disappointed as I felt like I was left out of his conversation. I tried to add some small talks to get his attention but they didn't work, making me feel more uncomfortable. I didn't get an offer from the group.
Now thinking back, I still don't really understand why I was ignored by the MD. I thought that during the interview, I connected with him pretty well and we had some good conversations. But even if the MD wasn't very interested in me, he should still have made some eye contact with me as a basic conversation etiquette. The only thing I can think of is that I'm the only Asian/international student in the lunch (everyone else, including the candidates are white) and somehow, that led to the whole situation. Not sure if that makes any sense.
Also, I want to ask how important a post-superday casual lunch/dinner is? Will people in the team still use that time to evaluate each candidate? Since the group I interviewed with was very small, I thought fit was the most important factor so I tried to talk quite often and have some fake laughs during the lunch in an effort to get people to like me. I myself felt I was pretty fake at that moment since normally, I am not very talkative. Is there a better approach on how I should deliver myself?