She’s going to pass soon

On the last day of my SA stint, I called my folks to tell them that I got the offer only to be told that my dog has late stage cancer and probably wouldn't make it another two weeks. We're here now and she's doing really bad. It's hard for me to accept how sick she is because she'll seem fine in one minute then not be able to control her bowls and vomit in the next.I'm 21 now but she's been a part of my family since I was 9. I won't ever forget the day that I came home from school and saw the empty crate in our garage only to open the front door and see a puppy looking back at me. The two of us grew up together really. Growing up in my house was tough at times for a bunch of reasons that I'll spare you and having her there was such a source of mental comfort; honestly, since everyone in my house loved her, the family dynamic probably was a lot better than it could have been absent her.I've seen loss before, but I have a tough time processing these things. I'm not really sure why I felt compelled to share this with you monkeys, but it might be nice to hear from those who have been through this before. Regardless, I wish all of you well

Edit: We recently put her down. I want to thank everyone for their thoughts and prayers. It was remarkable to have so much support from you guys. Your stories and lessons helped me through this process a whole lot and I wanted to share how grateful I am.

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  • Intern in IB-M&A
Aug 13, 2021 - 11:07pm

My condolences friend. I had a rough childhood too - having that extra bit of emotional comfort from pets really does help. I wish you the best as you continue to grieve.

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  • Intern in IB - Cov
Aug 16, 2021 - 9:48pm

lol I think all the replies ironically enough proved OP's point

  • Analyst 1 in IB-M&A
Aug 14, 2021 - 9:36am

Can feel for you bro. My family dog is getting old and I am scared of loosing her soon. I literally love this creature more than any of the girls I dated. 

Hope you will get to see her before it happens. Even if not, carry the good memories you had with her and get own dog once your WLB is more stable (late Associate/VP or non-IB roles). That is what I am planning to do.

  • Analyst 1 in IB-M&A
Aug 14, 2021 - 10:40am

We put one our dogs down after my sophomore year of school, after having her in our lives for about a decade, so the time frames are very similar. She was old and it was her time. The walk into the vet was hard, but once we were in the room we all sat around her on the floor. She knew she was loved and we gave her an amazing life. You might be able to keep it together until you get to your car but feel everything as intensely as you're meant to. This painful moment is the price we pay for having the absolute best creatures as part of our families. 
 

Side note, this kinda gives some insight to our relationship with dogs and is cool as fuck: 

Aug 14, 2021 - 12:21pm

My condolences, friend. Don't be too sad, wherever she is, she is still happy. Also, she left this world as a beloved and a happy pet. It is the rule of life, death will come, sooner or later. The most important is how she left this life. And your message shows that she left this world as a happy pet.

Aug 14, 2021 - 1:59pm

I got so sad reading this thread and it just gave me vibes from Bastille's Happier video. I'm really sorry about your dog and I hope you'll cherish the memories. I hope the next one you get will love you even more!

  • Associate 1 in IB - Restr
Aug 14, 2021 - 9:08pm

Lost my dog last summer.  It's amazing the capacity that those animals have to love people - there really aren't any other animals that have that.  Still miss the motherfucker - grew up w/ him, got him riled up to run circles around our yard, wrestled w/ him, and hung out w/ him all the time.  Found out recently that when my sister was little, she used to sit across from him and tell him about her day for ~15 minutes several times per week when she got home from school...and he'd stay still, sitting across from her until she was finished. 

Sorry brotha - they really are a part of the family.   

Aug 14, 2021 - 10:41pm

Stay strong my friend. I too am 21 with a dog who has been given a short time to live actually, and I dread it.

13 years ago I moved to the US from the Netherlands, and as I cried about losing all my friends, my home, my familiar places, I remember something my dad said to me that resonated so deeply through me; I think about his words probably every week. He asked me: "Is it better to have loved and lost, or to have never loved at all?"

I hope you can find peace in her final moments and take the time to remember all of the good ones. Although loss is painful, the opportunity to love a creature such as your dog is such a gift, and I hope my dads cheesy yet profound words might help you take on a mindset of appreciation and work through this tough period. Sending strength your way

Aug 15, 2021 - 3:15pm

All you have to ask yourself is? Did she have a good life with you? If so, then you can sleep well at night. Life ends, she had a good run, she was happy, loved and was loved.

Never discuss with idiots, first they drag you at their level, then they beat you with experience.

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Aug 16, 2021 - 11:34am

I went through this 2 years ago with a dog that I had for 9 years. First time that I ever went through loss, if the dog is terminally ill and it's about to pass… I would say that don't make the dog suffer anymore and put her down. It's a tough decision to make, but if you notice her behavior is different and doesn't want to eat, play, etc. the dog most likely no longer wants to live. It was one of the toughest decisions I had to make but I didn't want him to suffer anymore and after I put my dog down…I got with my family and we remembered the great times we had with him, the happy home we provided him during his best years and how loved he was. This gave us peace that we made right decision after consulting with 2 vets… I recommend you do this as well. It's going to take time to get over this, but with time your wounds will heal and you might tear every now and then… but you'll get to a point which is where I am now that you'll only remember the good times and good memories.

Lastly, not sure how you or your parents feel… but maybe after some time you might get a new dog to fill the void. Trust me… there will be a void for sometime.

Anyways, best wishes and hope you and your family get through this tough time.

Aug 16, 2021 - 11:42am

Sorry to hear that, it sounds like she was a great dog.

I went through something similar but I was in grade 12. I grew up with my dog for 14 years and he developed a tumor on his lung and started to lose his ability to walk coordinately until we decided to put him down. 

Really sucked going to school with him on my mind 24/7 for a few days and holding in my emotions while talking to people. But eventually you start to adapt to the change and life gets better after a week or so. Playing hockey and going to the gym, just something that makes you focus on the present, really helped me deal with it so I would recommend spending an hour or so a day doing something that distracts your mind for a bit, it will help.

I still have one of his blankets in my closet that I used to smell to remind me of him haha.

Aug 16, 2021 - 12:35pm

So sorry to hear about your dog. I hope you take comfort and solace in knowing that you provided her with so much love and joy, and that you gave her the best life possible. I went through the same thing with my dog of 15 years. One of the hardest things I ever had to do was letting him go, but I made sure to make my dog's last days awesome, and I knew he was going off to the Rainbow Bridge - so not all was bad. Grief comes in waves, and eventually you'll be mostly left with happy memories of you and your dog, but it definitely won't be easy. I wish you the best of luck.

Aug 16, 2021 - 6:54pm

My childhood dog passed this year too, right before FT started. It's tough man, when you know their health is deteriorating, but they still walk around without a care in the world. We made my dog a special meal, took a tiny walk around the driveway one last time (he could barely walk and see anymore). He didn't even know it'd be his last day.

Anyways enough woe is me. Just saying I'm right there with you about losing a dog, hope you had a couple last good moments to remember it by

  • Intern in IB - Cov
Aug 16, 2021 - 8:48pm

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