Why has meeting like-minded people gotten so hard...Subscribe
Just curious. I hear both guys and girls complaining about how hard it is to meet someone. We have access to so much (and so many girls) now due to technology. Yet it's harder for us to talk to anyone than ever before. I hear about all these dumbass relationships that obviously don't/won't work and people should have never ever have settled for or attempted.
My parents had and still have to this day extremely like-minded goals and ideas. Being fair in a relationship, values in every aspect of life (raising children, education, personal finance, politics), and etc. They came from extremely different backgrounds even and still made it work. Being Asian, I'm sure their relationship wasn't completely balanced in terms of power between man and woman, but I'm sure they are both happy with each other and each of them respected and sacrificed each other completely. Both of them are highly-educated with multiple grad degrees or doctorates so I wonder if this matters but still...I only realized how much they agreed on what I consider to be common-sense things as I grew up and started my own relationships and hearing about my friends. I'm pretty sure this was their one and only serious relationships. And as you hear about friend's parents, old people, and grandparents, you hear the same thing over. They met early-on, got serious, and never encountered many problems.
I feel like part of the issue is that nowadays we sit swiping on our phones reading about different people and deciding based on their description and a single picture. I think its much easier to get attracted to people in person (at least for guys) and this might be the case here. When people used to go out to bars and stuff, that was their only option of meeting people. Going-out. Everyone had to be a lot less picky but the relationships still worked. For 99.9% of the past 100,000 years humans were only fucking people in their small tribe, village, or town. And by town I mean an actual town, of like 5000 people. Only over the past century have some humans actually started trying to meet people elsewhere. Obviously history isn't always as pleasant as it seems and those relationships in terms of boundaries and respect for each other were probably dogshit but still.. IDK man. Atleast it worked and there was a lot less initial pain and struggle in meeting people.