Just Got Engaged
Broke the news to a few monkeys in the chat room, but I proposed to my long-time girlfriend yesterday and now we're engaged. Never been scared about much of anything in my life, and always had a good idea about how to approach new situations. A bit lost on this one. Anyone (other than Eddie, because he'll just make me want to go home and call it off) have some sage advice for me on where to go from here and how to make this work? Never been happier, but this is completely new territory to me.
I'm working about 60-70 hours a week and have always found time for her. So it's not like I'm killing myself with banking hours and it will deteriorate because of that. It's just the general stuff I'm worried about. Any wisdom gets an SB.





No wisdom, just
No wisdom, just congratulations.
Big decision you made there!
Big decision you made there! Congrats man ;)
If I have any piece of ''advice'', it would be to always treat her with respect and dignity at all time.
Mazal tov!
Sorry, couldn't hold myself.
Sorry, couldn't hold myself. I had to post this... lol, congrats again big bro
First of all,
First of all, congratulations. I think the attitude towards marriage on this site in particular is a bit regressive. If you are a mature, wise, thoughtful person (and from all the posts of yours I've seen, so seems to be the case), marriage can work.
Two things that I heard said to my oldest brother when his nuptials were announced that stuck with me ever since:
- Take a couple of weeks or more simply to enjoy being engaged; don’t worry about any planning or lifestyle changes yet.
- Realize that it will never be a 50/50 proposition. It's more like 80/20. Sometimes your 80 and her 20, sometimes your 20 and her 80. It will all balance out.
Best wishes, my friend.
A lot of people do certain things to add days to their life. I do things to add life to my days.
"All right, let me be the
"All right, let me be the first to say congratulations to you then. You get one vagina for the rest of your life. Real smart, Way to work it through."
Congrats though. First, I wouldn't try to change things just because you're married. You made it this far, no need to alter things. The rest is common sense. Don't take her for granted. Learn to compromise. Lastly, be spontaneous. Nothing kills a relationship quicker than a mundane routine. Best wishes.
Don't try to look at married
Don't try to look at married life any different than engaged life/dating life (unless you guys are just moving in together, then of course it will be different), a lot of girls seem to act like things are supposed to be different, when the guys who married them married into the way things were, not the way some girls expect "married life" to be.
I guess some people can disagree, but if I'm marrying somebody I'm marrying them for how they are now.
If your dreams don't scare you, then they are not big enough.
"There are two types of people in this world: People who say they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars."-Louis C.K.
wolverine19x89: Don't try to
Don't try to look at married life any different than engaged life/dating life (unless you guys are just moving in together, then of course it will be different), a lot of girls seem to act like things are supposed to be different, when the guys who married them married into the way things were, not the way some girls expect "married life" to be.
I guess some people can disagree, but if I'm marrying somebody I'm marrying them for how they are now.
Totally agree. My mind is just racing with all the possible ways that shit could go wrong, cuz I'm weird like that. We'll just now be moving in together for the first time so that could be interesting, but she's spent long periods living at my place before and we're pretty comfortable with the way we both live so hopefully the change isn't dramatic.
Thanks all for the comments so far by the way
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Congrats my friend.
Congrats my friend. Unfortunately I am in NO position to offer marriage advice, lol. But you seem like a smart dude, I'm sure you'll be fine.
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Just remember, never have
Just remember, never have breakfast together.
"A man generally has two reasons for doing anything. One that sounds good, and the real one." - J.P. Morgan
Congrats OP.
Congrats OP.
"I am the hero of the story. I don't need to be saved."
Congrats!
Congrats!
Congrats BlackHat
Congrats BlackHat
I didn't say it was your fault, I said I was blaming you.
Congrats once again!! :D I
Congrats once again!! :D I just had to say it here as well haha
Grandpa Eddie is going to
Grandpa Eddie is going to like this!
Aww! Congrats, and good job
Aww! Congrats, and good job on making time for her during banking!
Best of luck. Remember to
"Whenever you feel like criticizing any one, just remember that all the people in this world haven't had the advantages that you've had."
-F. Scott Fitzgerald
luccabananas: "All right, let
"History doesn't repeat itself, but it does rhyme."
can i get invite to wedding
how long u two been a couple
Also though, Congrats! If I
"History doesn't repeat itself, but it does rhyme."
Allow me to be your first
Leadership can be defined in two words: "Follow Me"
Congrats - tidbit of advice I
Hope you got a pre-nup.
Congrats buddy. As has been
CNBC sucks
"This financial crisis is worse than a divorce. I've lost all my money, but the wife is still here." - Client after getting blown up
Respect is key. All I have to
This is funny but yet true
"I am the hero of the story. I don't need to be saved."
Congrats, man! A couple was
Congratulations BlackHat.
CompBanker
Congrats! Nowhere near being
Marriage contract.
Congratulations. I don't have
relinquis... Killing the GMAT this December; Over/Under set at: 725 GMATs.
Congrats man.
If I had asked people what they wanted, they would have said faster horses - Henry Ford
I'm guessing nothing will
Take this advice from someone
Do what you want not what you can!
Edmundo Braverman: Congrats,
Do what you want not what you can!
Congratulations and please
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Congratulations. Disincenti
Congrats and good luck!
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Congrats ! I went to the flee
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If your dreams don't scare you, then they are not big enough.
"There are two types of people in this world: People who say they pee in the shower, and dirty fucking liars."-Louis C.K.
Congrats and good luck.
"Social cohesion and puritanical morality place roughly on my list of concerns between whether I'll pick up jock itch at the gym this week (not likely, since I don't go the gym) and whether it'll rain in Christchurch, New Zealand next Tuesday."
-Eddie
Congrats.
You have your way. I have my way. As for the right way, the correct way, and the only way, it does not exist. - Friedrich Nietzsche
Congrats. If you are a good
Congratulations, BlackHat!
They all have husbands and wives and children and houses and dogs, and, you know, they've all made themselves a part of something and they can talk about what they do. What am I gonna say? "I killed the president of Paraguay with a fork. How've you been?"
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