Expecting a Child, Considering Turning Down JPM IB - What Finance Careers Still Have $1M+ Upside?

I’m going to keep myself anonymous, but I’m currently at a top undergraduate business program. I interned in investment banking at Wells Fargo after my sophomore year and received a return offer, and I currently have a junior summer analyst role lined up at JPMorgan.

I’m seriously considering walking away from the traditional IB path because I’m expecting a child in early 2027.

I’m a first-generation student and had no family or personal network in financial services when I started college. I worked extremely hard to get to this point, so considering a different path is difficult. I still care a lot about my career and do not want to give up on what I have been working toward. At the same time, becoming a father has changed what I am optimizing for.

I am fine working hard. Working 80–100 hours a week does not scare me. What matters more now is predictability. I want to be able to have dinner with my family most nights, spend at least part of the weekend with them, and actually be present while my child is young, which I never had. I would honestly prefer a job that starts very early in the morning and ends earlier in the evening over something where I am constantly waiting for a 10 PM request.

My ideal starting point would be roughly $150–200k+ in total compensation out of undergrad while generally staying in the 50–70 hour range. More importantly, I do not want to choose a “lifestyle” job at 22 that permanently limits my career. As my child gets older and needs less hands-on attention, I would like the ability to take on more responsibility and potentially reach high six figures or low seven figures in my early/mid-30s if I perform well.

So far, I have been researching:

  • Sales & Trading, particularly credit, rates, commodities, and securitized products, with potential exits to hedge funds or asset managers
  • PE secondaries / GP-led secondaries
  • Private credit
  • Institutional asset management
  • Investor relations / capital formation at large alternative managers
  • Staying in a more stable finance role initially and potentially using an MBA later to pivot into PE or another investing role

I have also considered simply doing JPM IB because of how difficult the opportunity was to earn, but the unpredictability of banking hours is what worries me more than the raw number of hours.

Long term, one of my biggest goals has always been to financially support and eventually retire my immigrant parents, who started with very little. I still have that ambition. I am just trying to figure out whether there is a path in finance where I can pursue it without missing the first few years of my child’s life.

For people who have worked in these areas, especially those with children:

What careers or specific desks/groups would you seriously consider in my position?

Ideally, I’m looking for something with:

  • ~$150–200k+ starting total compensation
  • ~50–70 hours most weeks
  • relatively predictable evenings/weekends
  • strong compensation growth
  • realistic potential to reach $500k–$1M+ later in a successful career
  • good exit opportunities if I decide to become more aggressive with my career once my child is older

I would especially appreciate insight from people in S&T, private credit, secondaries, asset management, hedge funds, or alternatives fundraising. I’m also open to careers I may be overlooking entirely.

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Why did you post a copy of this in every single forum? Hopefully your wife teaches the kid social skills. 

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$150k+ straight out of undergrad with reliable 50–70 hour weeks and predictable evenings is not something you can realistically expect in finance. Part of the reason these jobs pay 22-year-olds this much money is because the hours and lifestyle suck. There is no “golden ticket” where you reliably make $200k out of school, work 40–50 hours, have predictable evenings, and still have a clear path to $1mm+ comp.

As someone with a family myself, I can empathize with the position you’re in, but frankly, your expectations need a serious reset. You’re asking for exceptional comp and long-term upside, predictable hours, and substantial time with your family, all while having essentially no professional experience. At some point, you have to ask what exactly you think you’re giving up in exchange for all of that.

There is nothing wrong with prioritizing your family and deciding that the IB lifestyle isn’t worth it. But expecting to retain essentially all of the compensation and career upside while removing the primary sacrifices that come with these careers comes across as entitled. You don’t get to optimize every variable.

If having dinner with your family most nights is a priority, that is completely reasonable. Choose a career that allows for it and accept the corresponding trade-offs. If maximizing compensation and maintaining a path to $1mm+ is the priority, accept that your time and schedule are probably going to take the hit, particularly early in your career.

 

You should strongly consider an abortion if it’s legal in your state. Is a kid really worth killing your entire career over?

 

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