How exactly does one get their **** together?
I have just finished my last exam in college. To be honest, my performance was laughable and I'm praying that I will get a B- in the class and cumulative 3.3 GPA. To clarify, there aren't any extenuating circumstances such as a deceased parent or a hard major for this GPA. I'm just burnt out beyond recognition.
Things weren't always this way. Coming into my junior year, I had a 3.9; prior to my senior year, I had a 3.7. I can't really articulate why, but I've been stuck in a terrible slump since my junior year. My grades have dropped, my professors are confused, I've abused my body in all sorts of ways, and I visibly do not have my shit together. Somehow, I've been able to experience both unhappiness and substantially lower grades.
To be sure, I've been extremely fortunate to have had my set of experiences- over the course of college, I've lived in 5 different cities in 3 different countries on scholarship, I've become fluent in two different languages, and I have an IBD SA offer for the summer. There's no way I could have seen this as a scrappy dog coming from a ghetto public high school 4 years ago.
But I know I still don't have my shit together. I know that even though my parents, friends, and classmates are congratulating me on my graduation, there's no real reason to celebrate. I know that if I keep this up, I will probably get fired on the job.
I'm writing this in a last-ditch effort to see if anyone else has been in a rut, and if they've managed to climb out. I'm not talking about breaking in from a non-target school; I'm talking about when your mind plays games with you and you have no motivation to do anything whatsoever. My parents and professors simply say 'try harder"; this isn't very helpful. I've even talked to therapists about this; they've prescribed me all sorts of antidepressants, which I refuse to take. For whatever reason, I'm exceedingly good at putting on a facade of normalcy, so I can't really talk to anyone in person about this. I think I may be going insane.
"I'm exceedingly good at putting on a facade of normalcy, so I can't really talk to anyone in person about this. I think I may be going insane."
next Patrick Bateman?
I don't think the OP is a Harvard graduate.
Simple thought... but do you exercise?
I do, but not enough. I have a fairly soulless exercise routine of running on the treadmill for 3 miles every day. I think I'm going to get back into martial arts...
getting back into muay thai really helped me with the same problem man, along with motivating me to get back in shape in general.
Its a cycle.Change today. Not tomorow or Monday. Break the bad habits and don't run.
Try playing a sport. Seriously.
Laugh at me all you want..but i ran into a similar situation when my girlfriend left me. Start working out more...or get back into martial arts. Keep yourself busy and things will return to normal again. Like someone above said, it is a cycle and you must break the habits.
Thanks for the responses guys. arbitrage25, could you elaborate on your situation? I must admit, I am really relieved someone else out there knows what I'm going through, and that my problem isn't solely sheer "laziness".
I'll PM you when i get out of my internship today.
Happens to a lot of people man, and most people (in my opinion) make the mistake of just sticking it through until everything builds up and explodes. You definitely have to change something.
My advice? Pick up tennis. It's a great sport, you get to be outside, you're hitting something with all you've got. And it's not terribly physically taxing (unless you really get into it). Good luck!
March yourself down to GNC and buy the most concentrated B-Complex vitamins you can find. This will boost your mood.
Then, get out and socialize a bit. Sports will help. If you're in NYC, PM me and let's do lunch.
Shrooms man.
It's simple, you need a metaphorical slap in the face
lmfao
Haha, get some good chron and just relax...
work harder and put more time into your studies/work. keep it simple
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I'm in pretty much the same situation. Graduating tomorrow. Kind of started feeling weird end of sophomore year/beginning of junior year. Burnt out beyond belief because I have maintained a 3.9+ GPA (and a 4.0 in my major). I narrowed the cause down to what everybody on here has been telling you: the same daily routine started wearing me down after a couple years. I have continued the routine, but now it's finally over. I'm looking forward to graduating tomorrow and bringing drastic change. I will be going to Europe on vacation for over a month. You just need to change it up and you will be back to normal soon enough.
u have a 3.3 not a 2.3 newb
probably depressed imo
Yeah, the problem isn't that it's a 3.3; the problem is that it USED to be a 3.9 and it would probably be a 2.3 if I didn't graduate already.
But yeah, I'm definitely in a weird mood.
I'd say try drugs, but you have to be very careful with that. Depression + drugs easily turns into addiction. That includes pot (mental addiction)
Why do you refuse to take the pills your doctors prescribed? Also, consider trying concerta or one of the other similar drugs. Could help. And for the record, I hate meds, but you really sound like you could benefit from them. Good luck!
Get into strength training or powerlifting. Lifting heavy shit triggers a primordial side that emboldens you and instills confidence. Running just makes you feel (and look) like a gaywad.
http://www.amazon.com/Starting-Strength-2nd-Mark-Rippetoe/dp/0976805421
fuck some girls and get confidence flowing, and go from there
I agree with most posts above talking about repetition.
I went through a tough time, lost a girl I digged, and became extremely repetitive. I killed it in terms of accomplishing goals, but I felt extremely unhappy. Then, I said screw, this, drove down to Westwood with my buddy that goes to UCLA, and got drunk every weekend. Hooked up with random chicks, and let loose - but woke up Monday back to the productive routine. When I found that balance between work and play, life got better.
Feel better man. PM me if you want to talk.
Deprivation. Starve and meditate in solitude for like 2 or 3 days. clears ur mind and body. go help crippled people or at a homeless shelter, def. makes you appreciate what you have and gives you a new purpose. Load up on sleeping pills and just hibernate for a week. Get exercise and sunlight.
Stay away from alcohol and drugs, like DM mentioned, not good during depression.
martial arts rocks!!!
there are OTC sleeping pills that combine antihistamine with acetaminophen, nevermind other OTC sleep aids, none of which have been shown to be habit-forming. WTF were YOU thinking about?
you know, a gpa of 3.3 rounds up to a 3.5 and that rounds up to a 4.0
I lol'd
But OP...I agree with the lifting advice. Really does make you feel better. And +1 to whoever recommended the Rippetoes book...it's a great plan for beginners.
I'm in the same situation. I'm genetically designed to feel depressed all the time. There's just one thing that helps. Killing myself in the gym. Did it like 2-3 hours EVERYDAY, power lifting, while at uni. Then started banking and couldn't do it anymore. Did banking for 1 year, then had to leave. Greatest depression ever. 1 year closed at home since I left banking. I need powerlifting to avoid depression. Try it. Seriously. Kill yourself lifting stuff in the gym. Helps big time. It builds positive stuff inside of you. Don't know what it is but works. It's magic. According to doctors, I need some crappy pills to avoid suicide. But never took them and never will. You shouldn't if you don't want to. There's other ways to cure yourself. Try gym and meditation.
You don't belong in banking.
can't wait till OP starts banking this summer.
reading this shit even makes me feel depressed...got get some shrooms.
chemicals dont work.
way too many side effects.
get a friend/family on board, that helps.
Go to see a doctor and tell them you need Adderrall. Settled.
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Deficiencies you MIGHT have: vit D, vit B, omega-3, magnesium These are fairly common deficiencies in the US because the typical US diet is total shit (diet is a huge causal factor for depression that is often ignore and is part of the reason why depression rates are so high in the US compared to other countries - you are what you eat) - most americans need to eat more greens and fruits, and a lot less grains and meat/dairy; you don't really need the supplements if you eat properly, but if you're like most people you probably will refuse to go to a proper diet since it's so different from what you've had your whole life, so at least supplement what you're lacking
I can speak from personal experience that changing your diet can have dramatic impacts on both your physical well-being and your emotional well-being.
Lastly, change your routine; work out more, get a new hobby, make new friends, etc.
So if you don't mind me asking, what was your situation like?
Read this book - http://www.amazon.com/Force-Nature-Mind-Course-Surfing/dp/B00375LM9I/re… and try practicing Laird's general lifestyle philosophies for a week. Even if you can only commit to 20% of it, you should be on a new track in no time.
Easy read too, should only take an hour or two.
Senior year fall semester. In a span of three months I gained 30 pounds, failed two interviews, ran a business in to the ground, and had a stripper touch my baconk (didn't contract anything but I was scared man).
I was fat, ugly, and growing second chin. By the end of the semester I failed a class and was half a letter grade from going on academic probation. Fast forward to spring semester (p90x grad), I will be graduating with a 3.0, finishing my internship at a F500 company and moving on to a PE Associate Position out of college.
And to think, I was so close to being a fuckup.
So just to clarify, do you still feel in a "slump"? Going to PE straight out of college... sounds like things could be worse.
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