How to stop being ungrateful?

Hey guys,

I am making this post because this has been lingering me for a couple weeks now.

I am an incoming SA at a mid tier BB next summer. Worked super hard to get the offer, and I was extremely happy when I first received the call this spring. However, I just can’t seem to stop dwelling on the couple superdays where I got rejected. I really wanted to go to an EB this recruiting cycle but fell a bit short. 
I 100% understand that some people would love to be in my position and how lucky I am to even have this offer. But I just can’t stop thinking about the “what if”s and how much happier I would have been if I have gotten offers from those superdays. I always used to be a positive, optimistic person, but recruiting is seriously messing with my head a bit.
How can I stop thinking like this and just focus on what is realistically in front of me? I  am really starting to hate myself for having this type of mindset.

Would appreciate any inputs. Thanks.

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I'm in a similar situation. Wanted to go to MS but failed my interviews and have now received offers from two non-us BBs. Felt very disappointed at first but I then realized that it doesn't really matter. Regardless of which bank I end up at, I am going to make more money than 99% of the population. I will still be able to exit into PE, even if MF PE might be very difficult. What I also did was to ask myself what's really important. I do want a good career and money is important to me, but I don't want to be single and still be working 80+ hour weeks by the time I'm 30-35. Unfortunately, chasing the most prestigious opportunities at GS/MS/JPM and the EBs to then proceed to MF PE means you will work those hours. So in a way, I am relieved that I did not get the offer at MS because I know that if I got it, I would force myself to chase MF PE later on. 

 
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