I really fucked up, is my IB career over before it even started
I am a student currently trying to recruit for investment banking and I think I have made one of the biggest mistakes of my life.
I was seeing this guy whose dad owns a major chemical company. He goes to a wealthy private university in his country (similar to somewhere like Regent’s, Hatfield at Durham, or Williams College or WashU in the US) and is friends with some extremely wealthy people, including the son of a huge mining company CEO (the kind of company everyone here would recognise). He invited me to his apartment for drinks with a few friends, five of us in total. We went there because most of us, including me and him, are under the legal drinking age in that country. Only one of his friends was old enough to drink legally.
We had one-litre bottles of vodka and brandy and a 500ml bottle of baijiu. I ended up drinking by far the most and got far too drunk, more than I ever have before. I do not remember much of the night, but from what he told me afterwards, I acted very badly, in a way I would never behave sober. His staff had to help me get home. I only realised how badly I had behaved because I saw that I had sent him a voice message while his driver was taking me back to where I was staying (I was still really drunk when I sent it and do not even properly remember doing it, but I was apologising). The next day, while I was waiting in the lobby of his apartment building to collect my things, he texted me explaining what I had done. When he came down, he just handed me my stuff, barely spoke to me, and then blocked me straight after. Because of how quickly it all happened, I did not really have the chance to apologise properly.
This all happened in a completely different region from where I am recruiting, but I still feel sick about it. I feel genuinely awful about both my behaviour and how it caused the breakup. I regret everything deeply and believe I deserve the consequences of my actions. I just keep wondering if this mistake means my chances of breaking into investment banking are effectively over before they even began.
I cannot stop thinking about it and I hate that my own stupidity has hurt someone I cared about. I am not looking for excuses, only some perspective on whether this could follow me or if I can move forward and rebuild from it.
This is next level hangxiety
How the fuck would this affect recruiting?
Take it as a life lesson if anything
Bro are you actually dumb how would this affect recruiting…?
Let this be a lesson: NEVER be the drunkest one in the room
Also are you a girl? This type of behavior is far more excusable if you’re a woman
Thanks for the advice, and yes, I am.
Oh woah. This changes the context.
Now you're gonna have to try to break in on your own merits lmao
Retarded OP, this is the only way it will affect recruiting.
Actually yeah you're so fucked, the boy you were seeing is going to tell his dad who is going to tell all the banking MDs (who obviously all know him at every bank) about this random underage girl drinking at his house. Then those MDs are going to go straight to HR and put you on the "banking blacklist" (real thing, i saw it once).
For real, kids these days dramatically overestimate their own importance. OP, I promise you these people couldn't give two sh*ts about your existence.
Honestly something similar happened to me in my sophomore year and I stopped drinking after that. Not exactly sure how it affects IB recruiting in anyway shape or form. Are you trying to crowdsource a therapy session>
Plenty of MD's sons in the sea.
Btw we have u blocked from all our BB internships this yr playah (think tom cruise tropic thunder)
This won't affect your career in the slightest. Stop worrying, but don't do that anymore.
no offense, but this is next level anxiety. please dont do banking. you would be terrible in the line of field.
these are the type of people that ruin banking stints.
Going to take a huge leap and assume you’re Chinese, based on the drink choice.
I’ve seen too many colleagues get wrapped up in this weird Chinese gossip drama thing that literally no one outside of their group cares about but they seem to think it’s the whole world.
Unless you’re recruiting for the Hong Kong office, absolutely no one cares what some random CEO in another country thinks. This feels like a lot of panic over nothing.
Recommend deleting this asap as it has a lot of details that can identify you. as others had mentioned, drink choice, types of companies, etc.
Answer is don't worry, Doesn't matter
Thanks for sharing
Surprised u havent even deleted your WSO account yet...the hope is what kills you
Yeah fuck your IB career it is TRULY over.. Time to find a new rich man's son to screw with 🐧
Thats what im saying
Pretty sure I saw your face and some details of your poor behaviour on a Billboard next to our BB's offices. Tbf we were always told to make an impression that lasts...
Mate what the fuck are you even talking about. Are you actually retarded?
Idk why chicks can’t control their drinking. Just drink water continuously
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